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We are…HOME!

We made it home last night at 7:30pm! So thankful!!! We are just settling and enjoying being together. Will post more later:)

He woke up at 3:45am–I fixed him warm oatmeal with bananas…and we are just enjoying the quiet together in our HOME! So thankful. God is good! Now…to settle in as a family and do life together:)

I made a little communication cheat sheet for the frig to help everyone in the days and weeks ahead. I really want to find a Mandarin speaking friend to help him continue and grow his language. So this is just to help us for now;)…MY MANDARIN CHEAT SHEET! (I put it on a separate page so you can share the link if you know someone preparing to bring home a little from China too!)

OR you can download mine for printing HERE. It’s not perfect–but it’ll get cha through the first days! I broke that main one up into 2 for the frig so the big kids and friends can easily read. Here is the “How to say…” basics for the first days/weeks DOWNLOAD HERE. Here is “This is_____” identifying people and a few things DOWNLOAD HERE.

Now. For coffee and Krispy Creme. Thankful to have a momma who stocked us up with goodies for us to come home to! Oh my soul. Krispy Creme is my love language:)

Blessings!

Andrea

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Kimberly M - June 13, 2013 - 9:27 am

Couldn’t be happier for all of you. I will be in Atlanta next week for a conference…wishing there was time to meet face to face and connect in person. Continued prayers as you transition to home and life as family of SEVEN. Hugs across the miles!

GirlLivingForJesus - June 13, 2013 - 10:48 pm

Congratulations! God Bless!! May Jesus use your son for his glory and kingdom!!!!

Maureen - June 14, 2013 - 12:10 am

Hallelujah!! So thankful you are all home safe and sound. I get teary-eyed just thinking about all the love going on in your home. Praying for quiet, special moments together, just enjoying each other.

Things I love about you…

My sweet Zeke.

I love the way you cut your eyes and grin at me–almost from behind as I hold you in my lap.

I love the way you hide you face on my chest when things are overwhelming and the way you say my name…mama–in a scratchy whisper…it melts my heart every time.

I love the way you play games with us. Running away fast but looking back every few seconds to make sure we are still there playing along. And the way you giggle just before one of us catches up and grabs you–ending in more hysterical giggles.

I love how you call your daddy “Baba” when you need him…and how you reach your hands up when you want him to pick him up. And I love how most times just 5 seconds later you reach for me and squeal until I take you in my arms.

I love how quiet you are around strangers but how wild you are once it’s just us.

I love how you offer a wave when others are telling you hello or trying to talk to you. And how you blow kisses at the girls who you refused to talk to–just as we are walking away.

I love how you squeeze Parker and Laney’s necks when we take cabs and how you love them–hug them and want to sit in their laps.

I love how you stroke my face with your little hands and say “gentle”…you have learned tenderness quickly and you desire to be tender now–and your eyes sparkle and radiate tender love to those you connect with.

I love how you are not okay with me just laying you down for a nap–how you reach for one more hug–one more rock–and how you sing along in Mandarin to “Rock-a-bye Baby”…and randomly through the day you sing it back to me telling me that you are mama and I am your “wawa” (baby).

I love how you stop and wave at planes–how you don’t stop waving until they are completely out of sight.

I love how you look at me after you throw food from your high chair–almost saying “sorry mom–I can’t help myself. Ill try not to do that again.”

I love how you splash in the bath tub and giggle as if its the greatest thing on Earth.

I love how you are our son–and your daddy and I get to be the ones to watch you grow, celebrate you and be here every step forward. We are the lucky ones. We are blessed!

Here’s to our journey home! I know their will be bumps-but we have Him and each other–and that is enough.

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kendracyrus007 - June 12, 2013 - 1:07 am

This post totally made me go ‘awwww…how adorable.’ It’s so sweet. Maybe when your son grows up, he can one day read all the lovely things you’ve written here, Andrea.

Fun day? Done day!

So today is the day our trip was completely planned around—our U.S. Consulate Appointment. Our appointment was for 8:30am. And we had to get a taxi to get there and our guide told us she’d meet us in the lobby at 8:20am. So we left the hotel around 8am as it was a 15 minute drive. We gave our taxi cab driver the address–and wanting our business he let us jump right in. It wasn’t until about 30 minutes into circling the city that we realized it wasn’t that far–he was clueless–and we were most likely missing our appointment. As *I* tried to direct the cab driver and tell him we were late for a very important appointment–he continued to look…and FINALLY he started stopping occasionally asking other cab drivers if they knew where the address was.

Richard and I were both getting very stressed out. It was NOT fun. And fun day–turned to DONE day. We finally got to the U.S. Consulate with our guide shaking her head–and I was (I confess) over the TOP frustrated. I got in the elevator going up the 4th floor–and I was boiling frustrated…truly DONE. A couple jumped in the elevator just as the doors were closing with their 20 something year old daughter. They had rushed over as their daughter needed to get home for medical reasons BUT she had misplaced her passport and couldn’t get back to the US. She had reason to panic–but it was me that was done one.

She looked at me and said, “Are you a believer?”

“Ouch.” I thought. She was quite gentle–it was a shake in my moment of frustration–because acting on frustration…I wasn’t acting like one. Cool, calm Richard wasn’t worried–but I was just done. Such a different experience than our last adoption with a different agency–and I was just DONE. Missing how smooth and easy this process could be–and just frustrated–I was comparing…I wasn’t trusting…I was tired. Yet–the Lord sent this precious girl to remind me that He is with me–and I can trust Him.

This precious 20 something year old girl walked over to me–grabbed me–kissed me on the cheek as a sister would–and said, “It’s all going to be okay. He is enough. He will see you through this to the end.”

I hugged her back. And she and her parents walked us all the way to the counter for the adoption officer at the consulate just as a guide would. There I was missing how things were with our last adoption–and He provided an unexpected guide to remind me He is with me, He loves me and He is enough.

Then–we talked about where she was. Why she was here…and we connected as when I was her age–I was in her shoes. Her parents and Richard stood there in disbelief as we encouraged each other–encouraged one another in Him–and laughed at the commonalities we both had. No doubt a divine meeting. Her sweet mom came over and hugged me and encouraged me. We spent the rest of the waiting time with them–and then we exchanged contact information. It was sweet, timely and a reminder of His perfect timing.

It was also humbling. That I am a believer…but so often in the frustrating moments in life…I don’t always act like it. I worry. I get frustrated. I fear. I get overwhelmed. Oh when will I ever learn?? He is enough. Enough to send a sister on an elevator across the world at the exact time–to encourage, uplift and to remind.

No matter when institutions, countries, agencies, people, friends, family or whoever frustrate us or do things we don’t exactly understand or agree with–we can keep our eyes on Him–looking up and trusting Him.

I don’t have pictures from our day. No cameras aloud back. Normally you get pictures before you go in…but that didn’t happen today although we were all really cute in our red, white and blue for the U.S. Consulate. Now…I’m just ready to get home. Just being real. Twisting the water out of shirts and socks so we have something clean to wear is the easy part. I just need to be with my other babies…home–with all my chicks under one roof together. Sorry there are no pictures. Today momma is done…and I’m going to take a nap with my littlest–and be rested for our night ahead.

Blessings.

Andrea

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Candy - June 10, 2013 - 10:24 am

Thanks for sharing your frustrations and showing us that everything in your life is not perfect as it sometimes seems. I had tears in my eyes when you shared how God had just the right believer right there in the elevator to encourage and uplift you.

Maureen - June 10, 2013 - 5:43 pm

Andrea,

I am so NOT surprised by God’s intervention in your frustration. He is always with you and your family is so worth it! I am not surprised He sent that beautiful angel all the way to be with you and remind you of His love.

Keep sharing your REAL life! We all love it! You are truly an inspiration! Safe travels home. Can’t wait for you to be rested up in your own home and sharing your story again. Take all your time you need.

Blessings!

Day 12: A free day fun day

Today was Sunday—and our free day fun day:). After breakfast we headed out to Shamian Island and did a little sight-seeing and shopping. I didn’t take my “real camera” with me so we’d have a lighter load for the fun–but I did grab some pictures with my iPhone to document our day.

We found some traditional outfits for Zeke and the other kiddos–as well as some sweet things for our little love to treasure. And some really fun kiddie chopsticks for the kids and their cousins. There were lots of photo shoots going on today there too–and I guess the CCTV was a little short of people to talk about the island and folks love for China for a little special they were doing…so they pulled us in and we shared our love for the country on camera:) Rico Suave had a good time today practicing his bargaining skills–and we made it home in time just in time for afternoon nap time for Zeke. The big kids always swim at the hotel during Zeke’s naps–so it’s a win-win for all:)

Don’t you love swim caps;)? They like you to wear them when you swim here–so we oblige although it’s not technically required:).

We went to an Italian restaurant tonight for dinner…and then had family movie night with a movie we bought beside the Italian restaurant. Now–it’s bedtime. Tomorrow is the BIG C/A (consulate appointment) day! Our travel days were all centered around this one appointment–and our appointment is at 8:30am so we have to leave the hotel by 8am to be at the consulate in time. That means be at breakfast by 7am because we have a slow eater that likes seconds:). Tis better to have a full tummy–lessons the fussiness of a 2 year old:)

Can’t believe we left 2 weeks ago on Wednesday. Oh this momma misses her other 2 babies. It’s been a wonderful trip—but it’s time for us to be in our home altogether now. We have 2 more FULL days here and then we fly out early Wednesday morning from Hong Kong. We get home at 7:30 on Wednesday night—but in reality it will be almost 24 hours in transit to make it there (we lose 12 hours as we circle the globe home). We will be unshowered…tired…and probably not so cute–but we will be together–and this momma is ready for Wednesday to get here:). It won’t be long now!!! And then you probably won’t hear from me for awhile because I’ll not only be jet-lagged–but I’ll be in heaven with us all together!

Blessings to y’all from China!

Andrea

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Day 11: Medical Appointment, The Locals and The Circus

Alright—BEFORE I post on day 11…I have to reflect a bit on DAY 10…saying GOODBYE to our sweet friends in our son’s provence. We were fortunate enough to have DEAR friends here to spend time with and we sure miss them! I think we need to do “kid trades” in the summer–their big kids come stay with us in June–and we send our big kids to them in July. Here are a few pictures of our sweet friends and some of the memories we will forever treasure…

Sad saying goodbye to friends I won’t get to see for awhile. BUT so thankful how the details worked out for us to spend an entire week together! SO thankful to have dear friends HERE to support us, love on us, have us over for dinner at night and just spend time with–sharing one of the sweetest times of our lives with!

Okay–so DAY 11.

Rico Suave took Zeke to his medical appointment because only 1 parent needed to go. We thought it’d be less crazy use one going instead of making the big kids sit through it. So–momma ventured off with big kids. We hit the subway–AGAIN. Ventured off the less traveled path. Made some friends that don’t speak English:). Found shopping alleys where only locals shop. And found a traditional old school stroller that will be interesting to get home:) Exchanged emails with my new friends. And this day made me miss living in China. Oh one day friends…one day again. Our hearts love this place even more than it did before now! The taxi pictures at the end make me laugh. IT WAS HOT. So we skipped riding the subway home and got a taxi with a/c AND A FAN:)

THEN–we decided we’d all do a first together. THE CIRCUS. Parker, Laney and Zeke did their first circus together. And it was beyond amazing. Cirque de Soliel could open for this one…circus here is like Disney entertainment x10 + Cirque de Soliel + the best circus you’ve been to. It was wild. I didn’t get many pics of the animals because I was clapping with Zeke:)

The circus in Guangzhou is a MUST see! So thankful we went!

We really, really, really needed a little distraction and it was the perfect thing. The kids loved it–especially our little guy. Things might look easy–but trust me…any time you have missed a day of parenting–it shows. It is hard. Now multiply that by say 700 days or so…we just needed a little distraction. We are tip-toeing and taking things really slow–and things are going better than we could have dreamed…but they will be and still are hard. But this hard–oh it is such a JOY. Such a privilege. Parenting in general is hard–isn’t it? But isn’t it a privilege no matter how our sweet ones come to us? And WE–we get the chance every day to bend down on their level and tell them how loved they are! I got to do that tonight after a hard moment. And connecting happened in it. Part of me wanted to cry–but then the connection through patience and love happened…and it hit me what a privilege the hard is. When we don’t allow our own flesh step in the way–when we don’t have to be the one that “wins”–when we push aside being in control as a parent and toss the old school out the window…and instead look deeply into the eyes and hearts of our children…humbling ourselves and making way…whatever it takes…for connection to happen. It will be through our connection that they potentially find connection to their Father in Heaven…and this–this makes it even more of a privilege.

Thankful.

Tomorrow is a new day! Night night!!!

xoxoxox!

andrea

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