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“But take heart! I have overcome the world…”

Today has been a very sad day in the history of our country. One too many lives were lost…to a very broken soul…and my heart grieves for the children, families and all effected by what took place today at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut. It doesn’t make sense. Innocent, most precious little lives lost. […]

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Gabi - December 14, 2012 - 8:42 pm

Andrea, I don’t think I have ever commented before, but I am a regular reader. Thank you for this post. It really was exactly what I needed to be reading tonight.

Christy - December 15, 2012 - 7:37 am

Love this, Andrea. A part of me in my human flesh is fearful to raise kids in this culture, but another big part of me is so badly wanting to raise little ones up to life for Him and stand up for good and make a difference in the lives of those who are hurting. We will never understand sometimes, but we can use it as a reminder to love and let Jesus shine through us. What you are doing with C4C is helping us do just that – so thank you!

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His rod and My shelter… {thankful}

I love Psalm 23. Tonight–I was reflecting on the beauty of His rod and how He is my shelter… The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his […]

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Naomi - September 12, 2012 - 6:43 am

Great word of encouragement. I am so sorry for your loss and do know first hand what that is like. We lost a little boy when I was 18 weeks pregnant. I will be praying for the Great Shepherd to continue to comfort and direct you. A couple of weeks ago I posted a song on my blog which has been such an encouragement to me this last month while I have been go through a difficult test. It is called There May Be Tears.

Heidi - September 12, 2012 - 11:16 am

Wonderful words of encouragement, beautiful children singing Jesus’ praise! I too know the heartache of loss. The Lord will sustain you, healing comes, prayers are answered. My prayers are with you and your family.

Your sister in Christ,
Heidi Matt, Louisiana

Our Crazy Weekend… {walking by faith and swimming like Dori}

While Rico Suave took the older two to church this morning–I stayed back with the younger too. Some times you just to have your own service at home. This morning was one of those times for me:). And during that time, this was one song that really ministered to me (love the words to this […]

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Jennifer Altieri - September 10, 2012 - 7:21 pm

I can’t wait to hear about the trip. I have skimmed the website for Disneyworld, but I have no idea where the “deals” are out there. Hopefully, you can help some who haven’t taken kids there with ideas for where to look. 🙂

Bebe - September 10, 2012 - 7:27 pm

Andrea –

Here’s a tip from my brother and sil who live in Tampa and have done many long weekends in Orlando with their family.

Go to the park EARLY (8 or before if it opens earlier). The park is almost empty, the lines aren’t long. Go at it hard until about 11:30 – by that time it’s getting hot and the park is beginning to fill up. So just when it’s getting crowded, take a break, go back to your hotel, eat lunch, take a nap, hang out by the empty pool (everyone will be at the park). Then mid to late afternoon, head back to the park – everyone else is hot and tired by then and headed back to their hotels for a break so the park empties out… You get the idea.

Hope you guys have fun!

April McAndrews - September 10, 2012 - 9:57 pm

Just wanted to encourage you that one morning you will wake up and realize you haven’t had to sing “just keep swimming”. Hugs from this side of the disappointment… Life is different but His joy is waiting for you friend!

When Things Don’t Make Sense {He Will Quiet You With His Love}

The Lord your God is with you, He is mighty to save He will take great delight in you,’ He will quiet you with his love, He will rejoice over you with singing. Zephaniah 3:17 This momma hasn’t been posting as much the last few weeks as I’m as transparent as they come–some times to […]

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Stephanie - September 4, 2012 - 11:38 am

I am so sorry for your loss. I will hold you and your family in prayer. Comfort, peace, and strength to you!

Amy K - September 4, 2012 - 11:39 am

So sorry for your loss Andrea. Praying for you guys as you go through these tough days. Thanks for sharing the hard right along with the good in your life!

Jessica - September 4, 2012 - 11:42 am

We’ve experienced this loss as well and during these times that are so hard to understand, I lean on the verse shared at C4C “He makes all things beautiful in His time.” So, sorry for this heartbreaking loss.

Jeanne - September 4, 2012 - 11:47 am

Oh, Andrea I’m so sorry to hear this news – It’s one that so many of us go through, yet no one talks about. Sending love & prayers to the entire Young family. xoxo

Kiley - September 4, 2012 - 11:47 am


I’m sooooo sorry to hear this! Unfortunately, you are not alone. Last year, we lost two babies both pregnancies ended at 12 weeks. The first, I miscarried at home. What a long and painful night that was (and still needed a D&C a few weeks later). The second I had a D&C.

Please take care of yourself, rest, eat well. And yes, time will help.

Praying for you!

Kari - September 4, 2012 - 11:50 am

I only know you through the words you write in this blog. You have touched and inspired my heart so many times. I’ve experienced your loss, surgery and all. I am so sorry, and I will be praying for you physical recovery and for God to heal your heart.

Mary Ellen Ponder - September 4, 2012 - 11:51 am


Praying for you today. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your heart. Your passion and understanding of our God is inspiring. Our God is a personal God who celebrates with us, and hurts with us as well.

Mary Ellen

Stacy - September 4, 2012 - 12:48 pm

I’m so sorry! Weeping with you.

daniellem02 - September 4, 2012 - 1:07 pm

So sorry for your loss-we went through the same exact thing three weeks ago. We went in for an ultrasound, and there was no heartbeat. We were shocked. I still felt SO pregnant and there were no signs of a problem before this. I had a D&C two Fridays ago. I don’t know about you, but all I could think was how lucky I am to have our son (he is almost 2). As much as it hurt, I felt so grateful to be able to immerse myself in his care to distract myself. So many women have to leave the hospital and go home to an empty house. Please know that I am praying for you.

Corinne - September 4, 2012 - 1:46 pm

I am so sorry Andrea! Praying! Blessings, Corinne

Lauren Casper - September 4, 2012 - 2:03 pm

I got nothing but tears right now. I’ve been praying for you daily since you shared the news… and picturing our loves together in that sandbox. I love you!

Alison - September 4, 2012 - 2:04 pm

Oh, Andrea. I am so, so sorry for the loss of your precious baby. I can’t even imagine the heartbreak. I will be praying for you that the Lord will wrap His arms of peace, comfort and hope around you as you heal.

kelly johnson - September 4, 2012 - 2:15 pm

Oh Andrea, I am truly, truly sorry for your loss. Take time to heal and cling to that beautiful truth you posted…happens to be my favorite verse. I have two angel babies that I’m sure would love a playmate. Praying for you and your family!

missy - September 4, 2012 - 2:36 pm

praying for you, dear one. though i don’t know YOUR pain, i do know the pain of losing a little one at 10 weeks. my heart breaks for you and your open-handed, open-hearted family. i will pray for the physical and emotional healing that you need as you rest in Him.

Sara - September 4, 2012 - 3:11 pm

I was so sad today to read about your precious little one. “He will quiet you with his love…” Thank you for the reminder. I think you are a quicker learned than I am… Praying for you and your family today.

Melissa Bergman - September 4, 2012 - 3:31 pm

I am so very sorry for your loss! I will pray for you and your family. Please know that your beautiful posts and sincere honesty help teach all of us.

Ashley - September 4, 2012 - 5:07 pm

We will be praying for your family! We to have been down this road! Nothing, but God and Jesus, and the Holy Ghost can bring you peace!

Alex Flowe - September 4, 2012 - 5:17 pm

I am so sorry, I can’t imagine how hard this is. Your words and your heart are so beautiful and inspiring. Keep leaning on Him

Tiffany - September 4, 2012 - 5:38 pm

Thank you for sharing…well said…from one hurting mama to another. I am so very sorry though Andrea… (And just for the record, I don’t think you are crazy.) 🙂

La - September 4, 2012 - 6:09 pm

I am so sorry

This is hard. Your words are beautiful.

Karen Twombly - September 4, 2012 - 7:06 pm

I AM so sorry…and I have been through this loss… I was comforted when God whispered that he understood as he did not spare his own Son but delivered him up for us all. I look forward to that sweet reunion when God will wipe every tear and there will be no more sickness, no more death, no more pain and our family will be together.
Our own Jesus, knowing he was about to raise Lazarus, wept when he heard of his friend’s death. I know he understand our mourning.
Praying for you now!

Lauren - September 4, 2012 - 8:18 pm

So sorry, Andrea. I lost my first little love very early, and at the time was not at a place in my walk that I felt brave enough to share with anyone (other than my husband). Thank you for sharing in the midst of the pain, and for the sweet reminder of God’s goodness. Heaven becomes sweeter and sweeter the older I get. Love to you and your family.

Leah - September 4, 2012 - 8:19 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve also learned along my journey that loss is loss, and we can’t attempt to quantify and compare it. Loss hurts. End of story. I also believe that your baby is in heaven with God and that you will meet again someday. Thinking of you and your family.

natalie cooper - September 4, 2012 - 9:26 pm

as a fellow miscarriage survivor (and infertility survivor), i “get” what you’re going through. and even though it’s been 2.5 years since we lost our child, well, i still think about them. it still hurts.
praying for you and your family during this time-

Melissa R. - September 4, 2012 - 9:31 pm

I also only know you through this blog but you and your words have been a source of encouragement for me many times and have helped open my eyes to the beauty of adoption. I am so sad to hear of this loss for you and your family. You will be in my prayers and I look forward to seeing how God moves in your family in this next season because I know He will indeed move.

Beth - September 4, 2012 - 9:40 pm

Oh Andrea, I am so sorry for your loss. I am coming up on the three year mark of our own loss. While I appreciated everyone’s words, there were no words like His words that could have gotten me through it. My situation was very very similar to yours. Praying for you.

marci - September 4, 2012 - 9:54 pm

My heart is broken for you . Truly broken. Your sweet one was called Home ! You have a special angel guiding you and all the little ones. Oh, so sorry ! Hugs, love and Pax!

Zanna - September 4, 2012 - 10:09 pm

Oh, Andrea. I am so very sorry. Praying for the Lord to comfort you.

Elle J - September 4, 2012 - 10:29 pm

I am breaking with you. I am so sorry. Praying for you, your entire family, and closest of friends. I love you. {HUGS}

Jovie - September 4, 2012 - 10:43 pm

WOW!God uses pain to touch others. Thank you for posting this. It is a subject that is hard to share. I am sorry for your loss.

Kim - September 4, 2012 - 11:28 pm

Oh sweet friend, I am SO sorry. Lifting you up in prayer now. Hope you are comforted by the precious truth of my all time favorite verse … “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” Love & Blessings, Kim

Christy - September 5, 2012 - 6:38 am

I’m so sorry, Andrea. I have a little angel playing with yours too. As hard as it is to go through, it’s been such a ministry since to be able to encourage others with when they go through these things. We are never alone. (Remember Matt Redman – “Never Once”?) He is Faithful. Praying for you and your heart that I’m sure is breaking.

Bobi bobbitt - September 5, 2012 - 8:24 am

I am so very sorry for your loss, sweet friend. Praying for you!

Megan - September 5, 2012 - 12:34 pm

So sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. I can’t imagine. Praying that God’s love truly will quiet and satisfy you as you grieve.

Becca Harley - September 5, 2012 - 12:52 pm

sweet friend – I am so sorry. We are praying for you all

Leilanni - September 5, 2012 - 3:03 pm

Oh, Andrea. I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet one. We, too, have experienced this loss and my heart aches for you and your family. One of the best things somebody told me during that time was to “grieve well” – feel what you need to feel without apology and bring it to the Lord. Praying for you.

Sonya - September 5, 2012 - 3:57 pm

I am so, so sorry…..

Amanda - September 5, 2012 - 5:16 pm

I’m very sorry to hear your joy turned to sorrow and about your loss. I thank God for his presence in your household and pray that his loving arms be wrapped tightly around you and your family.

Julie Hand - September 5, 2012 - 5:56 pm

I am so sorry!! Lots of prayers and hugs are being sent your way.

Gini - September 5, 2012 - 8:25 pm

Praying for you! I’m so sorry. Thank you for sharing your story…

Anne Marie - September 5, 2012 - 9:57 pm

Hey friend-I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss. When Ryan was 2, we lost a baby at 13 weeks after finding out he had Trisomy 13 and I had a D&C.  It is so hard. Loved this post and I can relate to it all so well. I clung to the words AND song “Mighty to Save.” I can remember just crying until I had no more tears while listening to that song. Just want you to know I am praying for you during this time.

Steph - September 5, 2012 - 10:32 pm

I was sad watching kindergarteners head off for their first days last week, only to realize that some of that sadness was because our Asher would have been with them, had he made it to that 10th week mark and beyond. May God redeem your loss in the way that He knows how – the BEST way.

Karen - September 6, 2012 - 9:05 am

Andrea, I am so very sorry for your loss. My last miscarriage was at 10 weeks. It is so heartbreaking. Love and prayers for you and your family.

Nikki - September 6, 2012 - 9:32 am

Oh Andrea. Much love to you and yours. We have two little angels in heaven as well… and they have changed our lives profoundly. We are interceding on your behalf, that God will heal, that He will show you somehow even a tiny bit of the “why” in His perfect timing.

Deena - September 6, 2012 - 9:33 am

Praying for you Andrea…I have been through a similar loss and your words are so true “loss is loss” and “people don’t always understand”. Please know that you are being lifted in prayer and that you have countless people thinking of you and praying for your heart’s recovery.

Beth Bailey - September 6, 2012 - 10:16 am

I am so sorry. Thank you for being so open with your story. Much comfort and many blessings your way.

Catherine Besk - September 6, 2012 - 5:01 pm

Sending you love and prayers for healing. I’m so very sorry for your loss.

Lari - September 7, 2012 - 2:45 am

Oh Andrea…I’m so sorry. I’ve been there. Will be praying for you.

Dawn Wright - September 7, 2012 - 4:19 pm

Your words are so very true…..loss is loss. No words can comfort, but know that PRAYER IS COVERING YOU!

Having experienced loss twice with precious little lives that we loved so very much……I am sorry because the grief is soo strong, the loss is very real, the pain is very deep.


keely - September 9, 2012 - 8:37 am

Andrea, you have been on my heart the last few days, now i know why. i know there are no words to say despite the fact that i have stood in the shoes of miscarriage 4 times. my heart is sad for you and know that i will be praying with heartfelt passion as you walk the coming days. your post was truly amazing, there is no way i could have processed and written something so beautiful, especially in the midst of the loss.

Jacqueline - September 11, 2012 - 3:12 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. We lost 2 babies early in pregnancy in our journey to give our son a sibling. It was absolutely gut wrenching, and you’re right, taking time to yourself to just be and grieve and heal is so essential. I will be sending my love and prayers your way.

Elizabeth Smith - September 22, 2012 - 11:22 pm

A- I am JUST reading this tonight! I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for your physical and emotional healing. xoxo-