First…I want to say to those of you reading along this year with me the One Year Bible reading…thank you for your PATIENCE these last few days. I must warn you, you are taggin’ along with a momma in the midst of her adoption journey. It’s one of “ebs and flows” they say…and being in a looong eb, invites the downhill stretch of one of the parts of the adoption roller coaster. BUT…let me also say that TODAY’S POST will be one I come back and read AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN on my journey and wait…so bear with me.
First—if you can’t read between the lines in my last few posts, I’ve been discouraged. Yes, it’s true. As a write I can make even the dimmest days seem flowery, but I’ve never been a good faker. So it’s true. I’ve been discouraged. (BEAR WITH ME.) Some of you may be adopting yourself and many of you reading may be specifically with our agency, so you know we’re in the midst of a wait…with little or no movement. When you wait—or you feel like you are at a standstill in life—it’s often easy to look around.
My friend Addie said to me the other day as I confessed my discouragement, “Andrea what is it you always say? Don’t look to the left or right. Look straight ahead at the race the Lord has called you to. Don’t give up on what His plan is for you.”
Um. Right. Ad, you sure that’s what I always say? Truth spoken. Didn’t listen. Looked to the left and the right. BUT–my eyes are up now…bear with me some more.
We started our process in August and when we turned in our dossier our agency told us conservatively we could plan on a referral by May–but this was being conservative. So, my heart thought May—but secretly thought MAYBE March. As there has been no movement, I realized March and April were out…but so was May. After talking with my caseworker, we realized late summer was a more realistic month to get a referral—which would mean we may possibly get caught in court closure in August and September—so the hopes to have a baby home by Thanksgiving…maybe a little more of a reality. Longer than I had hoped—so I look to the left and the right.
Aren’t there little ones out there that NEED me RIGHT now? Pick up phone. Call local agency. Lady says YES! We need families RIGHT now. Get excited. Tell husband when he comes home. Husband looks at me and says—honey, that isn’t what I feel the Lord saying to us. I feel our child is in Africa. We have to wait. Check my email. Reread email from caseworker confirming late summer more realistic. Richard leaves to go to bed. All alone in the quiet. Tears. Just had to get that out. Then I prayed—and the Lord brought rest to my soul and spoke clearly again to my heart.
DID I WAIT ON YOU ANDREA?? DID I EVER GIVE UP ON YOU?? NO. I did not. Because you were MY child. I KNEW you would be mine. And you, my daughter, I knew you were worth the wait. I wanted you sooner. I longed. I even cried. But you were worth every bit of the wait. And I refused to give up on you. So then…I tackled what I always tackle when the Lord speaks to my heart…the big questions: What is true of this situation?
Do I believe the Lord led me to my agency? Yes.
Do I feel the Lord led us to Africa? Yes.
Did He specifically confirm through scripture His plan just a few weeks ago? Yes.
Do I trust the Lord with His plan for our family even if it means waiting longer and being a harder road? Ummmmm…pause…DEEP BREATH…YES
I became a believer when I was 18. I believe the Lord persued me RELENTLESSLY for 18 long years. I am SOOOOO thankful He never questioned like I did, “Isn’t there a little one out there that needs me RIGHT NOW?!” Nope. Instead, He said, “That one…she is mine. And I will wait for her as long as it takes.”
I believe He called us to this journey. I believe He led us to AGCI. I believe He is good. I believe He knows what is best for Parker, Laney and Frank…AND OUR CHILD IN ETHIOPIA. And I ALSO believe He is using YOUR prayers to sustain us and carry us through this journey.
You can imagine how crazy we looked filling out adoption papers with a 4 year old, 3 year old and 7 month old last summer. Yes, crazy. So crazy–that a few folks asked us if we were. Some times I wondered. BUT THEN…one night–the Lord specifically put Isaac and Abraham on my heart…
Do you think Abraham looked CRAZY taking little Isaac up the mountain to be sacrified? Do you think his servants who trailed behind thought he had lost it? Do you think Isaac, his beloved son, questioned His father and thought he was nuts?! YOU BETTER BELIEVE IT! BUT…the Lord was faithful and wanted to see if Abaraham would do anything that He called Him to. AND the Lord also provided. A ram in Isaac’s place. That story I have carried in my heart when I have gotten comments “Oh that’s nice”…”How interesting to adopt a baby from Ethiopia”…”You sure are going to have your hands full”…but the Lord always says, REMEMBER ABRAHAM…BE FAITHFUL…FOLLOW ME…YOU MIGHT LOOK CRAZY TO THE WORLD…BUT I WILL PROVIDE…DON’T LOOK TO THE LEFT OR RIGHT…TRUST IN ME!!!
So today…when I needed the reminder the most—the Lord had my little Laney pull this out of the bag…
He will provide. He will guide. And like Him, I don’t want to give up. I will fight the good fight until the end…and if you are still hanging around when we get to the end…you are invited to come to the airport and see me bring home my son. Because…HE IS WORTH IT!
Dear Babe of my Heart,
Your momma wants you home so badly, that some times I get so impatient and these last few days…I have taken my eyes off the One who matters most. I have looked around at my circumstances and the need around me. BUT—I know the Lord has called me to YOU. I am not perfect—and you should know that about your momma from the very beginning. This will not be the first time that I let you down. BUT—just as the Lord never gave up on me, I will not give up on you. He waited 18 years on me, and I will wait for you. Tears stream down my cheeks right now as I type wanting to have you home so badly. You must be SOOOOO SPECIAL and the Lord loves you SO MUCH to make my heart ache so. BUT…you are worth it. And I will NOT give up fighting for you. There is a mommy who carried you in her belly, but you are in my heart….and I even hope to be able to tell your first mommy how I longed for you, fought for you and will NEVER give up on you. I can’t wait to have you home. And if you think I’m crazy now, you’re going to really think I’m crazy when I won’t put you down or let anyone else hold you;). Just as the Lord said of me…she is mine—I will wait on her and not give up! I say that about you. I can’t wait to have you home forever.
Today’s reading: Leviticus 17:1-19:37 (Today’s post was about all I could commentate…so I’ll be picking up on Tuesday’s scripture reading tomorrow:).