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a gift…

Foster moms.

I’m sitting here…pouring over page after page after page…of 2 years documented from my son’s nanny from the orphanage in China. This is not normal I know. Such a gift for me to have this. A treasure.

Every milestone…every funny…every illness…every new mannerism–2 years this special caregiver–so much more than a care-giver…really “middle mom”…standing in the gap…she jotted–she documented–(she made this momma laugh with the nicknames and how many times she wrote the word naughty;) and made pictures to go along with the milestones. (Even my first child–as over zealous as I was–doesn’t have this!)

Everyone who meets our little love is surprised with how bonded he is to us–and how happy and secure he is in just 2 months home…TODAY–2 months home today! I have to give huge props and a standing ovation to the “middle mom” who stood in the gap and loved him first. He didn’t know he was waiting while I was jumping through hoops because he was being loved so big! It may have been her job–but she loved him as her own. THANKFUL. And now I’m trying to figure out how to get back over there and really thank her…again.

I realize this is a treasure. We do not have this for other son. Oh how I wish we did! BUT what this really reminds me tonight of is this–the importance…the powerful impression–the privilege of molding and shaping of a precious heart…the most amazing job these “middle moms” get to be a part of. She did this beautifully. Not knowing or caring if we would appreciate it. But because she loved him.

I. Am. Thankful.

Never underestimate the healing you might be a part of and what your love can do as you foster, stand in the gap, teach children at school…or where ever you are! Make the most of every opportunity to love big!

lynn - August 16, 2013 - 6:37 pm

How wonderful. Such a precious gift to have. Not sure if you can, have or have thought about…but can you send her just a note with a picture to show/say how he is doing and to think her for taking such amazing care of him before he could come home to you? Sounds like she loved him so much and sure she still does. Might rest her mind knowing. (but then again might open an old wound…not really sure but thinking might bring a smile).

lynn - August 16, 2013 - 6:39 pm

***thank her…not think her

Frances - August 16, 2013 - 9:50 pm

Thank you friend…from the middle moms. It is not an easy journey, but such a beautiful
one. The Lord has led us to THREE of our children through the journey from foster care to adoption. And truly…I count it a treasure to have known and traveled with their birth families for years. It is a grace-filled, sacred place and we are grateful to be along for the ride of a lifetime with our Father!

No matter whether you put biological, birth, adoptive or foster in front…at our hearts…we are MOMS!

admin - August 16, 2013 - 9:55 pm

Lynn–I just had to share that I got to MEET his special nanny in PERSON while I was there! Such a treasure! We have been sending over pictures–and the staff there has shared what a delight it is to receive them! THANKFUL! Oh how LOVED our sweet one is!

Michelle Lafayette - August 18, 2013 - 8:38 pm

What a beautiful post! How lucky your on was to have this amazing woman in his life!

Jeni - August 19, 2013 - 9:50 pm

As a foster mom, I love this :). I love that he was ready to love you because she loved him. It encourages me to keep on keepin’ on even when it is so hard.