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Could one of these be yours?

As the New Horizon for Children hosting program comes to a close, these precious children are preparing to return to their orphanages in Latvia. MANY of the children hosted by their families will be adopted, but there are several whose host family’s new they were unable to adopt–yet they felt called to host them over the holidays, show them the love of Christ and advocate for them to find their forever family here. These precious children have all been in the system for many years, and their first real experience with a family has occurred through NHFC host program over the last 5 weeks. We LOVED our hosting experience with NHFC, and it was because of this program that our precious T found a forever home.

Yesterday I shared about precious Edgars. Many reposted the blog entry and precious Edgars host mom has had many contact her with interest–mostly because of your hearts and willingness to help advocate for Edgars. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart–THANK YOU.

Next week, these children will all return to Latvia in hopes of a family inquiring about them–and one day being chosen…to be forever a son and daughter…to have a mom and dad and to experience the precious gift of family. Each of these children are from Latvia. There are no requirements other than each parent must be 18 years older than the child. (If married–both the mom and dad have to be 18 years older. Single men and single women are also eligible.) You do not have to have a completed home study or even be in process. NHFC is NOT an adoption agency but rather a hosting agency. If you are interested in one of these most precious children, you would need to email the host family email and they will be able to most quickly connect you to NHFC which will also give you a list of agencies they recommend.

If you are on FB or have a blog–will you please consider reposting this? You NEVER know when it will run across the perfect family for one of these precious ones! Each of these descriptions were written by their host families who have had the honor of loving them the past 4-5 weeks. We have been in their same shoes–hosting but not in the position or place to adopt our host child–so I know what writing one of these is like…it’s so hard as you desperately WISH that YOU could be the family–yet you learn to hold out your hands…give them to the Lord and pray for a miracle. I’m praying there is a miracle awaiting each and every one.

Once again–it is my great honor and privilege to introduce you to these most precious little ones…

Meet Vitaly…

Vitaly is a happy 11 year-old boy from Ukraine. He is a wonderful and energetic child who loves to help around the house, listen to music, play musical instruments, sing, and eat (especially bananas)! His favorite color is yellow, and he loves to play outside and visit new places. We have been hosting him for the last 3 weeks, and he has adapted very quickly to his life in America, bonding well with adults and children. Vitaly speaks both Russian and Ukrainian, and is quickly learning some English words as well. His favorite school subject is math. He has a medical condition, but strictly follows his medicine schedule and seems very healthy and active. We would love to help Vitaly find his forever family! For more information on Vitaly contact his host mom Erica at: ericaraemanz@gmail.com

Just in case you missed him yesterday–Meet Edgars…

– LAST CHANCE – Age 15 (turns 16 in August), Latvia, hosted in NY
Edgars came to us with a smile on his face. From the moment we met him at the gate, he radiated an openness and an incredible warmth – he was obviously a little nervous, but from the beginning he trusted us with his whole heart. One of the first things he ever said was, “Thank you for choosing me.” Edgars immediately began to display a strong desire for physical connectedness with our whole family – he hugged our 4-year-old daughter for airport photos, he stood next to me with his head on my shoulder reading his translated welcome letter. Edgars has bonded well with all members of our family, though it has been clear throughout that he desires a mother above all else in life. During the first two weeks, Edgars resisted developing a deep relationship with my husband but he is now seeing the value in having a healthy relationship with a father. Edgars is incredibly gentle and patient with small children, and he would do beautifully with siblings of any age or gender, or as an only child. He takes the role of big brother very seriously and enjoys helping out – he is always happy to hold a hand in the grocery store, buckle car seats, or comfort his “small” sister or brother when they get a bump. He has a deep need to connect with others and is appropriately affectionate. Edgars is respectful of property, asks before taking things, has excellent manners (please/thank you with a smile) and he is good with animals. He follows family rules and we have never had an instance where discipline was necessary. Honesty is of upmost importance to Edgars – it means a lot to him that others trust him. He reacts in an age appropriate way to negative situations, though he will do most anything to avoid conflict. Edgars has been in the system since age 2 and has no relatives or siblings. Truly there is no reason that he should be the loving, well-adjusted boy that he is, except by the grace of God. I pray constantly that my sweet boy is given the opportunity to become a permanent member of a loving, supportive, gentle Christian family – because he deserves nothing less. Edgars will bring an abundance of joy to the forever family that awaits him. Writing this absolutely breaks my heart because this child has been one of the greatest gifts of my life. I want everyone reading this to know that Edgars has done nothing at all to deter us from adopting him – we are ineligible (we have a minimum age issue). For more information on Edgars please check out http://maljianfamily.blogspot.com/2013/01/edgars-needs-family.html for his full bio or contact his host mom, Morgan at: mdavisca@hotmail.com.

Meet Vlad…

Vlad is from Latvia and will turn 13 shortly. He is a wonderful kid! We have not had any problems while he’s been here. He was very shy when we picked him up at the airport, for about a day, and after that he’s been very comfortable with us. He will try any food, although he may not like it, he’s at least willing to give it a try. He had fun roller skating, ice skating and sledding and went to an indoor waterpark. He also helped bake cookies. He seems to be very compliant and once he knew what the rules of the house were and what was expected of him, he was happy to follow. He is sweet and loving. He always wanted to know where Dad was, and loved spending time with him doing whatever. He really seemed to thrive under that attention from my husband. He got along well with all the children ages 2-25, though he didn’t pay much attention to our 2 and 4 year old. I can’t stress enough what a great boy he is. He would do well in any family. He had fun throwing the football and playing Wii with our 25 year old son. He rode bikes and scooters and drew pictures with our daughters who are 11 and 10. He loved playing the Wii, K’nex and building with blocks with our son who is 7. He’s a great kid who is up for anything but he’s bullied a lot in the orphanage and we’re praying like crazy we can find his family! One thing he does not like is having his picture taken. No matter what he’s doing, as soon as the camera comes out he gets his serious face on. For more information on Vlad contact his host mom Kris: kris.haase@gmail.com

Meet Maija…

I would like to share our journey with Maija this Christmas season. From the very first evening, she has been polite, helpful, open, and mature. She has been very respectful from the very beginning to now. My 5 and 6 year old children are a challenge. Maija was great with them! She has been very patient and attentive with them. They love watching movies together! Maija is well spoken in three languages. She speaks Latvian, Russian, and English. We are amazed at how well she communicates in English verbally and in written language. We think she has a God given talent in languages. She has been able to bond with all members of the family. Maija easily bonds with young as well as older. She is able to speak to adults, making eye contact and expression. She thrives when with peers her age or older. Maija is very mature for her age. She is very knowledgeable about American movies, TV, and music. She says she prefers all things in English. She has shared openly about her life and her struggles and disappointments. She has shared openly her desire to be adopted (even though she feels it is too late for her). She wants a future for herself and she doesn’t believe it is in Latvia. She has been through a lot! She is a survivor. She does not see herself as a kid, but a young woman who must strike out on her own and take care of herself simply because there is no one whom she can count on. She needs to be a kid again, a 15 year old. She needs to feel safe and taken care of. She needs to find a family who is ready to love her with open arms. Maija is very self-conscious about her weight and her body. She needs a family who will love her regardless – unconditionally. She is a beautiful young lady and we know God has big plans for her life. We have tried to plant a seed and share the gospel with her. As you can see from her picture, she does have some piercings. Please don’t let this fool you. She is a very sweet young lady. She was very respectful the entire time she was with us. In fact, she had no problem taking them out when we asked her to. She removed them when coming to school with me and at church. This is something all the children in her area seem to wear. We pray every day for her heart to be open to the love of Christ and to the hope of a forever family. Could this family be you? Please feel free to contact the Zingelmann family if you have any questions: audrasusan@hotmail.com . We are more than happy to answer any and all questions!

Meet Sasha…

Sasha is a loving, sweet/affectionate and active 6 year old little boy from Latvia. He has mild Cerebral Palsy causing bit of mental delay and ADHD. Physically he is in perfect condition-not slowed down in a physical sense and very athletic (We were told he had surgery when he was younger). Mentally- he is at a preschool or starting Kindergarten level (which is only a year or two behind in education.) And he has the capacity to learn and catch up fast. His CP mainly has caused him to have mild hyperactivity (and mild ADHD) but not to the sense where he is out of control by any means. He is perfect at church, in a restaurant etc. He has about a 20 min max of doing anything and gets “bored” easily if not assigned a task or toy to play with or an activity to complete. With proper medication and schooling he could be “caught up” and a very good student. He strives for obedience and praise but has not been exposed to much life outside of the orphanage so he learned a lot and improved daily in his host home. He is intelligent and loves puzzles, art, and athletics and is picking up English fast. He bonds well with all ages and genders of children but would not be ideal in a family with more than one younger child because of the initial attention he would require. He gets overstimulated in large groups of children and has no tolerance for any food or drinks with sugar. He is very flexible to any setting, not picky and does not pout or throw tantrums. He is a very happy and fun boy who loves to talk about and learn about Jesus. If you’d like to learn more about Sasha please email his host mom Jessica: jessicagoodwyn99@hotmail.com

Meet Armands…

Armands bonds easily with all family members & others, and does well with same age children. He interacts well with parents, has generally even moods, and exhibits appropriate reactions to negative situations/answers. He is happy most of the time, respectful of other’s property, and asks for things before taking. He is honest and follows family’s general rules. Armands is a sweet boy with a calm disposition. He eats just about everything but loves waffles, pizza, and Pepsi. He and our 11 year old son have been inseparable. He likes to play cards and Wii. He learned to ride a bike this winter which took persistence from him as his legs are weak. He is very polite and says, “thank you” after every meal. He gives great hugs and kisses host mom on the cheek. We have only seen him unhappy once, and that was at the eye doctor’s office and we didn’t have any way to communicate. He quickly snapped out of it when we left the office. He did not want to ride the carousel, but He loved laser tag with the family. He would do well in a family with any age children. For more information on Armands please contact his host mom Debbie: tech9798@yahoo.com.

Meet Sianda…

Sianda recently turned 12 and is from Latvia. She bonds easily with all family members & others, and does well with children of all ages. She is patient and caring with pets, interacts well with parents, and has generally even moods. Though she pouts at times, she exhibits appropriate reactions to negative situations/ answers, and is happy most of the time. She is respectful of her own & other’s property, and asks for things before taking. She tries to learn/use English, follows family’s general rules, is helpful, and willing to try new things. Sianda is full of life! She is beautiful inside and out. She is bright, personable, artistically talented and just an all-around great kid. She is very adaptable. She sometimes get moody (as do most pre-teen girls, but she is very expressive and kind. She loves animals and gets along really well with children of both genders and within a couple of years older and younger. She is willing to try new things and is very outgoing. Her English is very good and she definitely has her own opinions! Great girl all around! She would probably do best in a family with similar age children. For more information on Sianda please contact her host mom, Jennifer at: jennifermanta@yahoo.com.

Meet Laura and Nikita…

Laura and Nikita are adorable 7 year old Latvian twins.
Laura says that she was born first and it is believable. She is a leader and keeps her brother straight. She is shy at first, but once you get to know her, she will keep you laughing. Laura loves to tell funny stories (even if you don’t understand a word she is saying). Taking care of the family dogs was Laura’s assigned chore during hosting and she has completed it with joy and kindness. She “rescued” a 15 pound cat many times from an 8 pound dog and always kept an eye out to make sure he was safe. Riding bikes is one of Laura’s favorite things to do. She also loves to cuddle and often strokes her host mother’s hair at bedtime. Laura bonds easily and would be great in a family with children her same age, older, or much younger. Her smile is contagious!!
Nikita is kind, loving, athletic and smart. He says that he loves school and is a very good reader. He often looks to Laura for approval and takes care of her when she is hurt or upset. When he received a $20 gift card, Nikita shopped first for his 2 friends and then for himself. He always offers to share his food or toys. Nikita wants to be a big boy, but when it gets down to it, he loves to cuddle and gives many hugs and kisses. He often tells his host mother, “Love you!!” Nikita is a rough and tumble kind of boy and would make a great American football player. He loves music (the louder the better) and is a great break dancer. Nikita would do great in a family with children his same age, older or much younger. He is a great kid!! Laura and Nikita have 2 older brothers that are 10 and 11 years old and it’s likely that all four will have to be adopted together. For more information please contact their host mom Heather at: phillips4jesus@gmail.com.

Meet Viktors…

Viktors is an easy-going and laid back 11 year old from Latvia . His English gets better each week. He is opening up more every day. He bonds easily with all family members, does well with younger children & same age children. He is patient and caring with pets, interacts well with parents. Viktors is an amazing young man. Our family was so blessed to have him for 4 weeks. He was easy, laid back, and up for anything. He is very social and loves to be around people. He loved us spending time with family friends and got along well with every single person he came in contact with. He is active and loves all things boy. He loves to ride bikes, play sports, and do anything outside. He is eager to try anything. He has no problem at all bonding. He is easily affectionate and bonded well will everyone in our family, including our children. I particularly recommend him to be hosted by a family looking to adopt. Viktors would really come alive with a loving family and he is available for adoption. He would do well in a family with any age children – younger, same age, older, etc. could go on and on about this child. I loved him before he physically entered our lives. I loved him the moment I laid eyes on him. He will always hold a place in my heart. The time we had with him truly blessed our family. This boy just doesn’t seem like your typical orphan child. He had some of the orphan behaviors at the beginning, but so mild compared to some children. The amazing thing about this boy is that 3 weeks of time and love pretty much erased those behavior patterns. I know they will return when he returns to Latvia. But the point is that in a loving family environment, he would develop into quite a young man. And it wouldn’t take long. Something that really struck me about Viktors is how easily he could bond and how affectionate he could be. He never pulled back when we would touch him or hug him. He is so open to love. Our hearts desire is to see Viktors placed in a family that will love and cherish him. We want to see him provided with opportunities to thrive. I know God has a plan for him and we are trusting in God’s perfect timing. For more information about Viktors please contact his host mom Renee at: reneerobinson12@gmail.com or check out their family blog: http://barefootwalks.com/.

Meet Gundvalds…

Gunvalds is a wonderful boy who has been lots of fun to have in our home. His English ability is very good, and he was easy to communicate with. He has an older brother named Muntis who was originally being hosted by us as well, however Muntis requires constant one-on-one attention and the brothers are not close with one another, so Muntis was transferred to another host family. It is not clear if Gundvalds can be adopted without also adopting his brother Muntis. Gunvalds is much more comfortable with women. He was very guarded around Tim, and often misread things Tim said (we quickly realized that gentle teasing was not understood, though I could get away with this). He took correction well; though there were often outbursts, these were more cultural (think arguing with an Italian!), than blatant disobedience. He appears to be quite innocent concerning life in general; he loved watching children’s movies at our house. The original Disney animated Robin Hood was one of his favorites. Having a large family, we stick pretty close to home; by no means was Gunvalds entertained by us, but he loved his time here and was never bored. He loved board games, playing outside, and looking at animal books in the evening. He needs a dad who is patient, kind, and willing to invest a lot of time and love. Tim took off the first two weeks Gunvalds was here. Granted, we were dealing with Muntis, but Gunvalds never warmed up to him. With the hours Tim works, and the family size and ages that we currently have, we feel Gunvalds would do best in a smaller family where more time could be focused on him exclusively. We will be praying that someone is able to host him again; he truly is a great boy who deserves a family of his own. For more information on Gundvalds please contact his host mom, Holly at: Schoepplers@hughes.net.

Meet Rolands…

Rolands is a sweet 15 year old boy that was presented as a talented artist – and he is! He is also so much more. This young man is polite, easy-going, and able to amuse himself. He was willing to help with household chores. He was eager to try new things, including activities like riding a horse. We fed him Thai, Indian, Creole, and multiple types of American food. If he didn’t like a specific food, he was polite and ate some anyway. He did admit hamburgers and pizza were his favorites, but he also loved fresh food such as salads and fruits. He is very bright and gets 8s in school in Latvia, but modestly points out it isn’t a top rated school. He got along well with all vistors, though he is shy at first. He has a super sweet smile and a good sense of humor. Rolands speaks very understandable English. He is able to read even more, and participated in reading a devotional we were going through daily with our church, with a little help on some words. He is very willing to learn. He greatly enjoyed visiting the Dallas Art Museum, riding a rollercoaster, and family activities at home. He jumped in when I had a flat tire and changed it, then told me it was his first time changing a tire. Such a cute smile on that one! He is not hyperactive or inappropriate, and would do well in a family with any age children, or as an only child. He was able to take correction (rarely needed) without resentment. Rolands is in a good foster home in Latvia, and it is obvious that he knows how to love others. I have other adopted teens and I wish I could switch out for this guy! For more information please contact Lynn at: lffitzgerald@yahoo.com.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read…to share…and to pray for each of these!

I truly believe the Lord has a beautiful story for each of them.

Please feel free to share this on your Facebook, your blog, in your church, with friends…you just never know where a family designed for each sweet one awaits!

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marie - January 11, 2013 - 8:47 pm

I did notice that you put (even bolded) – There are no requirements other than each parent must be 18 years older than the child….but that is just it…you are missing one…you said “each” and in other parts of this and another post about adopting..you said “both”…meaning you have to be married. You can’t be a single parent. So that would mean there is more than just the “age” requirement.

Terina - January 12, 2013 - 12:21 am

I think it is awesome that many of these kids are finding their forever families, but I really hope that the only reason the other children aren’t being adopted is because the family hosting them is homeless, and jobless. Otherwise, I can’t understand how these children, who need parents, could possibly be sent back. Jesus never sends us back ever. I really hope that every single one of these children end up with a family!~

admin - January 12, 2013 - 9:23 am

Marie–singles can also adopt from Latvia!! So you are also eligible!!!

Paula - January 12, 2013 - 1:46 pm

I have sat on the phone for an hour today with one of these precious host moms who put her host son back on a plane for Latvia today. She is heart broken. She is grieving and hurting. However, she heard the call to LOVE on this child – she begged the Lord to make it clear if they were to adopt him – and neither she nor her husband feel they are being led to adoption. Should that have kept them from hosting? Absolutely not! They gave the child a trip to remember, precious memories, planted the seeds of Jesus in his heart, invested in his life, told him that he was LOVED by God, showed him the love of a family. Now today, they sit in Virginia with a little boy that changed them forever heading back to Eastern Europe. She will advocate for him to find her forever family. She will fight for him. She will stand in his corner. She will pray for him and cheer him on. They only signed up to be a host family. The Lord is writing this story – not us – if it had been us, there wouldn’t be a need for hosting or orphanages – because the kids would be with their first families. Jesus in on the pages; the story is being written. He has a plan – and it’s bigger than what we might expect. All of these children are precious, but that sweet Viktors has a place in my heart. He has captivated me. His host mom and I have hearts that are intertwined and committed to finding this boy his forever family – may Jesus’ Name be written on the pages of the stories of every one of these kids.

Melissa Scott - January 12, 2013 - 2:00 pm

May God allow my words to be perceived with the humility, love and tenderness I intend to convey. Respectfully, I mean no harm to Lynn, but I’m shocked and sad to read her statement, “I have other adopted teens and I wish I could switch out for this guy!”. Children are people. People are not objects or possessions for which we can trade in. I don’t know Lynn, so I realize it is possible she was teasing. I am an adoptive mommy of 8 blessings, including 2 teens and 2 preteens. We have fun and tease and joke around with each other alot, but not about our love for or devotion to each other. Speaking for our own children, they have been through so much doubt, rejection, insecurity and hurt in their past. There are areas of their hearts and minds that I think will always be fragile. They don’t need to ever wonder about their parents’ love or their commitment to them. Thank you for listening. ~Growing in grace, Melissa *Ps 113:9 * II Cor 9:6-8 *

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Melissa - January 12, 2013 - 3:22 pm

Just letting you know I’ve linked up with you here, http://bonesinmyheart.wordpress.com/2013/01/12/will-you-please-help/ and also shared your post on facebook and twitter! Yay! Spreading the word!

Christine - January 12, 2013 - 8:59 pm

I would definitely be interested in this. Not sure how to go about doing this. We are in process of completing our homestudy for domestic foster/adopt, because out of country adoptions were just very pricey and I do not have the budget for the travel time and expenses to go back and forth and back and forth through all of the red tap and such.

How does this work? Is it easier to adopt through hosting?

Audra - January 18, 2013 - 8:00 pm

What joy filled my heart when I saw Maija posted on here! She was my host child this Christmas and what a blessing she was to our family. We are not in a position to adopt, but have prayed daily for a forever family for her. She has been so tender and sweet to my 5 and 6 year old with amazing patience. My daughter adored having her in our home and will have a forever big sister. There is so much love in my heart for her and I am so blessed to have been a part of her life for 4 weeks. I have daily contact with her through email and skype. She wants a forever family so badly. I pray there is someone out there that feels the Lord’s calling to choose her! If you are interested in her and have questions, please let me know. She is a remarkable young lady with a bright future ahead.

Audra - January 19, 2013 - 10:45 am

Terina – I know your heart was in the right place when you made those statements, but it is not that simple. I do as the Lord calls me to do. I walk in obedience with Him. He did not call me to adopt my host child. I will NOT do as I please, but as the Lord calls me to do. I prayed every day before, during, and now as to my role in her life. The world will always have their own opinion, but I only worry about what God thinks of me. I can not make decisions based on what others tell me to do. I am hoping and praying that her forever family is out there. Maybe it’s you! That would be wonderful! I pray that you are open to God’s calling in this.

Edgar Needs a Family

My precious friend Stacey Maljian, a volunteer with New Horizons for Children–the same organization we partnered with to host this summer, emailed me a couple of weeks ago to ask if I would help advocate for some of the children in the winter program who are available for adoption–but were not able to be adopted by their host families. I read the story about Edgar tonight–a most precious one who like our T is about to age out. His host family is unable to adopt him (although they fell in love with him!) because of age requirements. But they are praying big for him to find a family—and SOON.

I read through his bio–and now…I’m sitting here in a bucket of tears. Becuase–Edgar…well…he’s beautiful. And he’s about to age out. He’s been in the system since he was 2. Without a mom–or daddy…without someone to tell him stories and rock him. And reading his bio you see that really all this sweet boy wants is a family. Simple as that.

Our family has been through the thick lately having encountered people who have chosen to do wrong–people who choose to hurt…put money over hearts…and truly–it’s devastating. Because we live in this broken world. And it’s sin. This is not heaven. Not yet. There are so many hurting here on this Earth–and those who do wrong…well, they are hurting most of all…but some times they don’t even know it.

BUT—while many walk in darkness…I also see LIGHT. Daily I also encounter hearts that are pure, and good–and being led by the Holy Spirit. Sure, they mess up–but they confess that–pray for the Lord to lead them and their walk challenges me–and their choices are without question admirable and true. While darkness and the hurt around us seems to pull us down and distract, we must be reminded that the Lord is using MANY greatly in this world that often seems so full of darkness to truly shine Jesus to a hurting world. HE IS BIGGER. HE IS BRIGHTER. And the in end, MY KING WINS. He has a purpose–and hat the enemy means for evil–our Father in heaven can and will use for good and His glory. There are hearts that want to bring healing instead of hurt–hearts that are willing to take risks. People who are willing to follow Jesus at all costs. People who realize this life–it’s really nothing more than bringing healing and love to the broken…and THAT is what our lives should really be about. THIS IS WHAT WE WERE MADE FOR. TO HIM BE THE GLORY.

I read Edgar’s story and I think, “This makes no sense.” And you know in your heart there is a family out there for him–who will fight for him and love him and whose hearts soon realize they have missed him terribly for his whole life. I really believe there is a family out there for Edgar. I believe for every broken heart that the Lord is calling someone to step in and love…and this is really what we, as believers, were made for.

Will you please read Edgar’s story? Will you share it with others? Will you consider sharing it through Facebook or on your own blog? Will you pray with me–that a miracle will happen in Edgar’s life…and that this sweet boy will be able to delight in being a SON…in having a mom and dad–a place to call home? Will you pray for a miracle as he is about to age out?

He is precious.

It is my honor and high privilege to introduce you to one of the Lord’s most precious and prized children–please meet Edgar:

Edgars – LAST CHANCE – Age 15 (turns 16 in August)
From Latvia

Written by his precious host family:
Edgars came to us with a smile on his face. From the moment we met him at the gate, he radiated openness and incredible warmth – he was obviously a little nervous, but from the beginning he trusted us with his whole heart. One of the first things he ever said was, “Thank you for choosing me.” Edgars immediately began to display a strong desire for physical connectedness with our whole family – he hugged our 4-year-old daughter for airport photos, he stood next to me with his head on my shoulder reading his translated welcome letter. He sat in the backseat during our ride home from the airport, trying everything he could think of to comfort our screaming 10-month-old son – from feeding him puffs to handing over his prized possession (his mp3 player) for him to chew on. We knew Edgars was a special boy the moment we saw him in the photolisting, but we weren’t prepared to witness the incredible kindness, maturity, and optimism that he has kept alive inside of himself with the help of our amazing God.

Edgars has bonded well with all members of our family, though it has been clear throughout that he desires a mother above all else in life. During the first two weeks, Edgars resisted developing a deep relationship with my husband but he is now seeing the value in having a healthy relationship with a father. Edgars is incredibly gentle and patient with small children, and he would do beautifully with siblings of any age or gender, or as an only child. He takes the role of big brother very seriously and enjoys helping out – he is always happy to hold a hand in the grocery store, buckle car seats, or comfort his “small” sister or brother when they get a bump. This hosting was not a Disneyland-type vacation for Edgars – we enjoyed each other at home most days and Edgars never acted bored. He loves being at home, spending short periods of time in his room, and then rejoining the family. He has a deep need to connect with others and is appropriately affectionate. Edgars is respectful of property, asks before taking things, has excellent manners (please/thank you with a smile) and he is good with animals. He follows family rules and we have never had an instance where discipline was necessary. Honesty is of utmost importance to Edgars – it means a lot to him that others trust him.

He reacts in an age appropriate way to negative situations, though he will do most anything to avoid conflict. Edgars has a very difficult time with the idea of a parent being mad at him, and he immediately retreats inside himself as a method of protection. He is beginning to accept that anger does not have to be the default emotion in conflict and by demonstrating that he is loved even when there is a problem that needs resolution, Edgars is recovering more quickly each time. We have noted that each time we have a conversation that is uncomfortable for Edgars; he grows in significant ways as a result. He truly does value the lesson that can be learned, and he takes time to reflect on what that takeaway is. Edgars has chosen to change several of his behavior patterns based solely on these discussions. For example, he was quite dismissive of Dad when Mom was also in the room – he would avert his gaze and tune Dad out, ignoring what he was saying. Mom addressed it the next morning, just to say that we had noticed the behavior, and Edgars withdrew in the expected way. After he had time to digest the conversation, Edgars began making a real effort to be more respectful when Dad (and others) spoke. In time, this built trust between them and Edgars now enjoys a very healthy relationship with Dad – this boy’s level of maturity and ability to self-reflect at age 15 is truly impressive. Edgars has been very open about his past, the issues that need to be addressed are clear, and he is willing to work through them with trusted adults. There have been NO episodes aggression, lying, pouting or outbursts since he has been with us.

His ability to learn and retain information – language in particular – is astounding. He spoke English with us from day one without hesitancy, though his vocabulary was limited. By day 10, Edgars knew he could translate more efficiently than Google Translate and he hasn’t asked to use it since. We speak English with him at full speed and use the same phrasing we would with native speakers, and I would estimate that he understands and responds without needing clarification to about 85% of what we say. His expressive language has developed at a similar rate, and we are shocked by the nuances and humor he injects into conversation. Edgars is an incredibly intelligent boy who will thrive academically once he is challenged and held accountable.

Edgars is very respectful and helpful, especially to women. He will not sit down at our dinner table until I am seated first. He insists on scraping the snow off the car and starting it up – then he will come back to the house to walk me out. He carries the diaper bag (I KNOW!). He notices when I haven’t eaten because I’ve been taking care of the little kids, and he will make me lunch. Every day Edgars does something to take my breath away.

A few things to note:
Edgars has a large tattoo that covers his left forearm and hand. He loves to draw, and he designed and tattooed his arm himself. After being in America and living in a relatively small town here, it is clear that he deeply regrets the tattoo (particularly on his hand). Every time we are in public, someone asks us if the ink is real and he is growing increasingly self-conscious of it – recently he has asked about laser removal as a long-term option. When he arrived, he told me that he was afraid we would reject him completely once we saw that tattoo (he didn’t have it at the interview), and he actually broke down in tears when I told him that no tattoo would change the fact that we knew he is a good boy.

He has a blossoming relationship with Jesus Christ. Edgars is being mentored by a wonderful priest who ministers to the boys in his orphanage. Along with his headphones, his favorite Christmas gift was his English language Action Bible, which he stayed up reading on Christmas night until 6 am.

Edgars has some attention deficit / hyperactivity issues and takes medication. However, since being in a home environment and after about a week of gentle correction, Edgars has slowed way down. Things are no longer being accidentally dropped and broken. His need to fidget is almost non-existent, whereas it was constant in the beginning. We still see some of the attention span issues, but in no way would I consider his current behavior to be hyperactive. It is amazing what family life can do!

Edgars’ favorite time of day by far is bedtime. Since the first night, he has welcomed me into his room so that we could talk about the day, do our daily affirmation, and say a prayer together. As the weeks progressed, he has found a lot of comfort in being held and rocked – just for a minute or so – each night before being tucked in. It is during these quiet moments that I can see the little boy who still lives inside this teenager, who desperately wants to be loved and told he is good inside.

Edgars has been in the system since age 2 and has no relatives or siblings. Truly there is no reason that he should be the loving, well-adjusted boy that he is, except by the grace of God. I pray constantly that my sweet boy is given the opportunity to become a permanent member of a loving, supportive, gentle Christian family – because he deserves nothing less. Edgars will bring an abundance of joy to the forever family that awaits him. Writing this absolutely breaks my heart because this child has been one of the greatest gifts of my life. I want everyone reading this to know that Edgars has done nothing at all to deter us from adopting him – we are ineligible (we have an minimum age issue). I choose to believe that my role in Edgars’ life is to be his cheerleader, his advocate, and someday, after he is tightly bonded to his new family, I hope that I can be his friend. I feel so blessed that God chose me to be his interim mom…there is nothing I wouldn’t do for this angel in our home, who is asleep upstairs as I write this. From one mother to another – please give our Edgars what we cannot provide him. Please help Edgars find his way home!

For more information please email: mdavisca@hotmail.com

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liz - January 10, 2013 - 9:59 pm

just curious, ignorance to how all this works… if he is aging out of their system why could he not be a permanent part of his host family? he will be a free citizen right? can he not go and live wherever he wants to? i don’t understand why he can not stay with this family? even if legality issues on US side keep him from being adopted he could still be with them and be their son. right?!

Heather - January 10, 2013 - 11:27 pm

I’m curious what are the age requirements that prevent Edgar’s host family from adopting?

Mary - January 10, 2013 - 11:44 pm

This is a truly heart warming story…can you tell me what a “minimum age issue” is?

Val - January 11, 2013 - 1:20 am

Thank you for giving him love and affirmation! We have the opportunity to sponser boys through intl. and I pray theyll know God and grow into wise Christian men..Thank you for letting everyone meet Edgar and I will place him in my prayers and ask God to cover and protect and provide a home for him! I pray he knows how important he is to God and that God has a very special plan personaly for his life!!God Bless you both!

Amanda Thompson - January 11, 2013 - 8:10 am

Hello! I have a friend, who posted this to their Facebook page. Could u tell me more about him, or send me a private message? Not sure how all this works, but his story breaks my heart

admin - January 11, 2013 - 8:58 am

If anyone is interested more in Edgars–please email the host mom at the email at the bottom of the blog entry: mdavisca@hotmail.com

She will be able to quickly put you in touch with Leigh Ann NHFC. Also feel free to contact New Horizons for Children through their website.

The age requirement for Latvia is that BOTH parents MUST be 18 years or older than the child. For Edgars, BOTH parents must be 33 years or older. (The host family does not meet this requirement.)

Sarah - January 11, 2013 - 10:23 am

This absolutely breaks my heart. What a beautiful child. I hope you’ll please update when a family has been found!

Jenny Woldt - January 11, 2013 - 2:06 pm

We would love to find out more about what would be involved in making Edgar a part of our family. We live in Hendersonville, Tennessee. We have four children, with two at home. Jessie soon to be 18 and Juliana 13. We have two kids who have gone on to live their own productive, wonderful lives. One who is 21 and attending college and our David who lives in San Francisco teaching music. We adopted David when he was almost 4. David had lived in 13 different foster homes before coming to us. David was considered a special needs child because of extreme abuse, and suffering from ADHD and PTS from his abuse with horrible night terrors and a severe speech impediment. Had someone told me in our early days that David would go on to be Valedictorian of his senior class I never would have believed them. My husband and I are 41 and 45. We have a large 4 bedroom home with plenty of room in our home and hearts for a young teen. Thank you. Jenny

Jessica - January 11, 2013 - 3:50 pm

Where is Edgar living now, what state?

Jenna - January 11, 2013 - 7:34 pm

My heart feels so desperate to have him in our family. I have no idea where to start, we have no extra income to travel, but if there is a way to raise it in time to get him. Please tell me how. I sent my husband your blog…please pray his heart is a touched as mine is….sigh. Edgar should be in our home. I have 5 children, ages 15,10,8,7, and 3. My oldest is a boy who is also very kind and sweet and very patient. He could share his room. We don’t have a huge home, but it is just enough. Is he scared of dogs?…we have two a puppy and a large kind dog. So many questions…I guess I should back up and see if we even would qualify. Thanks for posting his story.

Jenna

Hollis Grabrovac - January 11, 2013 - 9:28 pm

We aren’t fostering or looking to adopt but this story touched my heart and has made me really pray for him…any luck?

Jessie - January 11, 2013 - 10:34 pm

Please tell me how this works! A friend posted this and adopted an older child/children has been on our hearts and I think my husband and I would meet the age requirements for Edgar (I am 33 and my husband is 35). We have not even begun an adoption process…outside of our hearts, but I’d like to know what all the adoption of Edgar would require. Please email me! Thank you!

Ronda - January 12, 2013 - 4:14 pm

This story touched my heart when I read it.
A friend of mine posted this about Edgar. My husband and I don’t have any children in the home right now. They are grown. I am not sure about adopting and what that will require. Would you mind emailing me some more information on how and what to do to adopt.

Thank you so much and God bless all you have done!

Catching up…with the Young crew

Dearest children.

One day momma is gonna make this blog into blog-to-book–so you can look back and read all about our crazy. And unfortunately momma hasn’t been able to blog in the last week or so. Gonna try and catch up a bit right now! Oh where do I start. I totally skipped Christmas–mostly because we were all sick this Christmas…and it took us all a week to recover. We’ve been up and rolling now for at least a week–and momma has been a little crazy with taking down Christmas and getting out Valentine’s fun. Really–this is what momma does when she has another baby on the other side of the world. She gets crazy with crafts–some eat…some run…some bite their nails–and this momma…well, she gets out the glue gun. Dangerous and crazy I know–but it’s the way I cope;)

OKAY–so before my craft craziness…Christmas fun.

This is the year you got your zip line…

It would take your daddy well over a week to finally put it up with Mr. Dent. That’s the way daddy rolls you know;). BUT when it finally did go up–you all had such fun. Now Daddy put up a ladder for you to actually get on it. He SAYS he’s gonna build a ladder on the tree too. I’m voting that gets done in a few weeks after mom or Parker falls on the ladder;). NEEDLESS to say–we’re all having fun on it. Even Isaac is having a blast–the little booger still isn’t strong enough with his hypotonia to hold on himself YET…but I bet with lots of practice he will get there!

Laney got cowboy boots–

Isaac got another train set. This is all he ever asks for…Thomas, Thomas and Thomas. And he also got Hotwheels:).

And this is the year I had this grand idea to get an inflatable kayak–so sure that we will go on Friday’s for our fun days–and I needed something I could actually carry to the river. Hoping for lots of fun in this thing come Spring in the South!

Parker just wanted cowboy stuff…he is like his Granddaddy Herb–and if he could just read old westerns and watch old cowboy films–he’d be in heaven.

And sweet Frank. He just asked for Mommy. I am one blessed momma to have 4 precious children!!!

THEN we entered into the NEW YEAR!!! 2013!!! So much exciting things will happen this year! We will bring home your little brother Zeke! We had to redo a document–but now all our paperwork has been resubmitted to the D.C. and EVERYTHING will hopefully head to CHINA this Friday–at the latest next Friday!!! We are moving right along–and now we’ll just wait for LID (long-in dates!). THEN a LOA! We are praying really hard that we will be able to travel in MAY before your brother turns 2. You know I always say a little one should never spend a birthday in an orphanage–so we are doing everything we can to be there! Praying BIG!

And speaking of Zeke–you sweet children pray for him and ask about him EVERY day. Frank and Isaac have about had enough! Isaac asked to wear his China outfit for Zeke the other day…so I popped that right on him and of course I had to grab a few pictures!

It’s really hard to get a picture of Isaac smiling right now. He is beyond silly. I’ll take what I can get:)

When I say SMILE–ITY does this…the little stinker!

And I don’t know what to do with this 3 year old–cause this is what he does when he says Ni Hao:)

AFTER GETTING WELL…we also got to head over to celebrate Christmas and the New Year with Princess T! It was so much fun to be with her and her most precious family!! How blessed we are that we get to continue to be a part of her life!

Fun playing with T and her sweet dog…

Princess T and the kiddos…

Me with Princess T and her momma…

Oh my glory–we had too much fun with her. Watching her show us all the pictures of HER framed in her home…finally–to be framed in a home with family. We got to sit and enjoy a DVD slideshow of her 16 year old portraits to music–and she danced around the room with JOY…the Lord has truly placed her in THE perfect family and it’s so fun to watch her FLOURISH!

In other January news…Loo bear and momma had a girls night out with my sweet friend Shannon and one of Loo’s best friends. They had SUCH fun together–as did we just being with our girls! Loo–one of your FAVORITE things is mommy and me night! So fun to have a mommy and me with these sweet friends!

AND we had to go get our passport photos made for our international dossier that goes off next week…and my picture–well, it’s scary. The lady at Costco wasn’t very happy to be at work. In fact, she scared momma. She said, “Wipe that smile off your face and just look at the camera.” It was rather funny to momma–but trying not to smile…well, it makes me look scary…and like I have really bit lips…Now I’m all worried about what the Chinese embassy might think about this picture…

That photo is courtesy of Daddy’s iPhone. He took a picture of it on the screen at Costco when he went to go pick our photos up–and he texted it to momma to make fun of her:)

THEN…momma who has been a craft slacker-is back in full swing. It’s how she copes I tell you with another little one across the world. Here’s a few of our Valentine’s crafts so far…

Last but not least–this is just a little video to make anyone who actually read this far smile:) REAL life at our house…

Isaac’s bringing a new kind of toboggan…

Loo showing off her dance skills..and a sneak peak on momma’s craziness…(you must know that I don’t know anything about ballet…totally like to pretend I speak French when I talk about her moves:)

And last but not least–Isaac has skills! He is swimming and we’re so proud of our little fish! This is going to make summer so much easier to just need to teach Zeke our little guy to swim!

And my favorite–the thumb’s up!

That’s about all she wrote for the last couple of weeks! I’ll let y’all know when our documents are officially DTC (documents to China!). And then we need to celebrate when we finally get our LID and LOA!!! This mom is SO ready to have her little one home and not miss another day of his precious little life. We have had SO MUCH crazy happen the last couple of weeks as well…and it just has felt like warfare going on…no surprise with a retreat around the corner and being in the midst of adoption. But the Lord is greater–He is stronger and His ways always win. We can trust Him with anything that comes our way. Please pray protection over our littles and our family in the days, weeks and months ahead. And please pray for strength for this momma as she gears up for another retreat for Created for Care.

Oh my–almost forgot! Loo and P-man started a homeschool hybrid at an AMAZING Christian school this week where they will go on Monday and WEdnesday! Then they will continue to be home with me for schooling for Tuesday, Thursday and Friday! Today was their FIRST day–and they loved it. They both made lots of new friends–a little girl shared her popcorn with Loo (her words!) and Parker’s favorite thing was playing 4 corners. And momma–well I stayed at home with Isaac and Frank and we zip lined together, went to the store and had a really fun lunch just me and the preschoolers! Here’s a pic of their first day!

And YES–Parker is wearing a TopGun jacket. He wants to be TopGun one day–I mean…he can be my wingman any time:). But for now–he’s focusing on 2nd grade:).

And that’s a wrap for catching up!!! Hopefully we’ll have big DTC and LID news soon!!!

Blessings!

Andrea

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Another Merry Christmas:)

We are just getting home from celebrating Christmas…yes…a few days late:) We left the house for the first time in 6 days today after all of us spent the last week knocked out with a terrible virus/cold/flu…not sure which–which consisted of aches, fevers, hugging the toilet, stuffy noses and coughing our lungs out. Sounds jolly doesn’t it?? BUT we are emerging and went to my sister’s to celebrate Christmas tonight with her family since we were not able to join them on Christmas Eve. THANKFUL we are on the up and up!!! I think my cough turned a corner with a mustard packet remedy. THANKFUL.

My sister drew my name and she gave me a gift that made me cry…happy, sweet tears—it was a beautiful necklace locket with 2 pictures of my sweet boy on it. So in love with this gift and I’ll have his pictures with me until he’s in my arms. Sweetest part of it was rocking Isaac tonight and his interest in this new necklace. This was our conversation…

What’s dis momma?

It’s a necklace–and it has pictures of Zeke in it.

Ezekiel?

YES! Pictures of Ezekiel. Your little brother. But he’s in China and mommy will fly on an airplane and go around the world to bring him home.

Ezekiel doesn’t have a mommy or daddy. But I have a mommy and daddy.

Mommy is going to be his mommy. And daddy will be his daddy.

You bring him home. Den (Then), I will take him to get doughnuts.

Melt my heart.

Something about having this conversation with my sweet Isaac tonight just melted me tonight–remembering the time longing to have this boy home…and hear I was rocking him tonight after our conversation singing our “I’m so happy” song and Away in a Manger for the 250th time together with our little made up hand motions. It’s some times hard to grasp that I have a 19 month old boy across the world who wakes up every day and goes to bed every night without this–but it won’t be long and he will be right here with us…and my heart just can’t wait. And when we wake up in the morning–despite what any “good nutritional mommies might say”–many, many mornings–this mommy will these littles for doughnuts indeed. (Hang tight about 200 days;)–pictures of that to follow;). There are always really, really, really hard parts of adoption. But there are also so many BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL, AMAZING parts of it too. There will always be hard things we have to walk our children through every year and every stage of their lives, but theres such beauty through the ashes—in the end there’s a family standing together…formed uniquely and beautifully by the Lord…where all the children are deeply loved…who are given something that culture along could never give–but instead our littles have a lifetime with family, siblings love and sweet memories together. This mom can’t wait to get her little boy home to begin those memories with him. Please pray that the Lord’s hand would be on the rest of our journey–and that some how, some way…just maybe we could travel in May close to his birthday!!! (thank you!!!)

Blessings!

Andrea

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Kendra - December 28, 2012 - 6:11 pm

Stopping in prayer and lifting you, your family, and your little across the world up to the Father NOW. 🙂

Happy Birthday Jesus…

Merry Christmas from our family to yours!

Praying we will all be well enough tomorrow to go see my family (had to cancel our plans for today when the bug hit me too)–and praying for our sweet boy Zeke across the world this season. So much to look forward to! When we had to miss the Christmas Eve service because of the virus taken over our house–I just kept thinking how next Christmas will be so different…our sweet boy will be home and we’ll load up on EmergenC beforehand so we are all well too! Hope you all had a blessed Christmas! STAY WELL!

Blessings!

Andrea

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