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500,000 visitor and a Psalm for the heart…He is our Fortress

Okay–first…if you SCROLL to the very bottom of my blog you can see the number of visitors since I put that little fun counter on it last January. It counts the number of unique visitors per day–and I just saw this little blog that I forget other people read is about to hit it’s 500,000 visitor:). There’s usually about 3,000 readers a day–SO THAT MEANS it’s about to roll over to 500,000 in the next few hours or day! IF YOU JUST HAPPEN to be the 500,000 person to visit my blog–EMAIL ME!!! I have a little happy to send you!!! One of my favorite things will be coming your way:). Isn’t that fun???

Okay–now on a more serious note…

Do you just ever have one of those days??? Well–you would think after celebrating our big February 15th that today would have been just as joyous (if you missed reading yesterday you have to go see my sweetie!) But it was just one of those days where thing after thing after thing. So…I looked up Psalm 43–you know the chapter on “why are you downcast oh my soul”…surely there was an answer there.

I always like to remember to read the BEFORE and the AFTER. The “before” is asking God to please send His light and guide me…and then I will go to worship. But the spirit is still downcast…so what next? The “after”–put your hope in God. For I will YET praise Him, my Savior – my God.

The key word there is YET.

I can not wait until my spirit feels like rejoicing or worshipping. I can’t wait to put my hope and trust in Him when my spirit is jumping for joy. On days especially like today–I need to put my hope in God BEFORE the spirit is there. And some times it will be among hard, crazy things in this stay-at-home mommies world…of forgetting to make 2 dozen lemon squares for a teacher appreciation party, rushing to the minute-clinic with a little one who had a fever and waiting 2 hours to finally get a turn but sealed lips keep the visit from being productive–and a wasted 2 hours in this momma’s world is no laughing matter, and it’s bed time and nothing got accomplished today. While I have a million things to celebrate–there are just days that you have that funk of a cloud hovering over you–and YET…YET…YET—I need to remember the “after”…the YET…STILL…even then–close my eyes and say, “I’m putting my hope for this day in YOU.”

As I read on I land and park on Psalm 46…(before you read–ever wonder what it means in Psalms when you see the term SELAH sprinked at the end or in the margin here and there? It is a Hebrew term that means “stop and listen/stop and think”. As you read this Psalm–take a moment when you see the term SELAH and see what it might be that speaks to your heart before moving on. You may want to reread and reread and stop and think before moving on…)


God is our refuge and strength,

an ever-present help in trouble.

Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way

and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,

though its waters roar and foam

and the mountains quake with their surging. Selah

There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,

the holy place where the Most High dwells.

God is within her, she will not fall;

God will help her at break of day.

Nations are in uproar, kingdoms fall;

he lifts his voice, the earth melts.

The Lord Almighty is with us;

the God of Jacob is our fortress. Selah

Come and see the works of the Lord,

the desolations he has brought on the earth.

He makes wars cease to the ends of the earth;

he breaks the bow and shatters the spear,

he burns the shieldsb with fire.

โ€œBe still, and know that I am God;

I will be exalted among the nations,

I will be exalted in the earth.โ€

The Lord Almighty is with us;

the God of Jacob is our fortress.

Something in this chapter…especially as it is written twice and followed in the middle by SELAH…tells me God really wants us to know Him and see Him as our fortress. What does that mean to you?

Goodness folks–you just never know what you are going to get on this blog do you??? A give away…or crazy news…or pictures of our silly kids…or a craft…or scripture with serious questions! I love you guys for being friends with me and loving me dispite my being all over the place! But maybe some of you like never knowing what to expect!

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Shannon Poulin - February 17, 2011 - 1:56 am

Oh how I loved your post yesterday and how I love it today too! Thanks for sharing the struggles and frustrations along with the victories! And I LOVE God moments when the scripture I’ve been pondering and just blogged about is the same scripture on your heart!!

Kristi Gorrell - February 17, 2011 - 6:22 am

Thanks so much for this one. It seems I’ve been having this type of day more often than not lately. Thank you for sharing your day and explaining Psalm 46 a little more clearly. I’ll be carrying it with me today…and hopefully on and on.
I love reading your blog and have only been a follower for a few weeks. I’m not an adopting momma…YET. I’m praying God can help my husband work through the details in his oh-so-cautious brain. My heart is there-and has been for a long time. Where is the psalm on patience??? Hee Hee. Thanks again, congrats on 500,000 and your kids are super adorable! ~Kristi

Christy - February 17, 2011 - 6:43 am

Yep, you are definitely a “river whose streams make glad the city of God.” You are constantly using opportunities to share His praise. Praying for today to be a better day! Oh, and you have to check out Ann Voskamp’s new book, One Thousand Gifts, if you have not. Beautiful, encouraging, challenging, but simple read if you fit in one chapter a week and take time to just really reflect on it. It’s all about how “thanksgiving (eucharisteo) always precedes the miracle.” SOOOOOOOO good. And the (in)courage blog is doing videos with her over every chapter right now. I think every busy mama who has so much in the “here and now” that seems mundane and stressful sometimes will appreciate this book! ๐Ÿ™‚

Erin Crenshaw - February 17, 2011 - 9:50 am

I love this…probably b/c that is how so many of us feel…great and thankful, attacked, blessed, serious, silly, organized, out of control, and so on!!!! A day in the life! I love how you CONTINUALLY turn and keep your eyes fixed on Jesus!

Elle J - February 17, 2011 - 1:22 pm

I missed being the 500,000 reader by only 551!!! LOL. After my day yesterday (blogged), Psalm 46 was perfect – more than you can imagine. =)

1 year ago today (We praise you Lord! Your works are wonderful!)

Well, it’s here. February 15th. Some of you may remember WHY this day is such a big deal to me. I woke up this morning and said to Richard, “It’s February 15th! You know what today is!” Like all good husbands he smiled and…waited hoping I’d finish the sentence for him–and of course I did! “Today is THE day Isaac got to Hannah’s Hope from Bethzatha orphanage last year!!!” It’s the day we have his very first picture…it’s the day God spoke to my heart last year reminding me to rest in His great plan!

When we got our son’s referral–we were given about 4 photos…the one below being the VERY first one we opened. They progressively got better with time and health–but this is the very first picture we have of our little guy at 7 months. Oh sweet Isaac…my heart MELTED when I saw this first picture of you–and I knew…YOU WERE MY SON! I didn’t have to see more progress…I didn’t have to see another picture…you were mine–and you were perfect. I had to celebrate God’s goodness over our son and in our life by taking a picture of his sweetness TODAY and pairing it with the picture that was taken ONE YEAR AGO TODAY!!!

“The LORD has done this, and it is marvelous in our eyes.” Psalm 118:23

If you get a stack of referral pictures–you can find out exactly what DATE they were taken on by opening them in a photo editing software and then going to file info…so while I have very little to hold on to of the first months–I do know that this first picture was taken on February 15, 2010 after lunch time here in Georgia (yep–I even know the TIME!) and I know I was sitting in a chapel at that HOUR praying for my sweet son!!! I actually wrote about that amazing weekend with the Lord reminding me of His plan without knowing what was happening and it’s on my blog this same time last year. Crazy, huh? That’s why I love journaling/blogging…I can go back and see crazy details like that. Amazing how God works!

I knew this sweet boy was our son–and while we only were at #16 on the waitlist when we got the call–I’d wait a thousand years to be at the right place at the right time to get to be his mommy all over again. Some times I want to PINCH myself how blessed I feel! Today we went to the park after our rockin’ physical therapy session…a lady stopped me as I was swinging Isaac and Frank was sliding to tell me how beautiful she thought Isaac was. The appropriate, polite response I know is “thank you” but EVERY. SINGLE. TIME…instead I am overcome and I put one hand over my heart and one hand out like “stop right now” and I say, “OH. MY. GOODNESS. IS HE NOT the CUTEST THING you have EVER seen in your entire life?! I mean–SERIOUSLY—LOOK AT HIM! I’m sorry–but I can’t help it…seriously–I’m with you sister. I know I’m his mom–but oh. my. goodness. He’s just gobble me up cute…” Okay…so I know that may be a little too much–but to just say “thank you” oh my…he is just scrumptious! THEN Frank runs over–and he introduces himself, “Me–Frank.” Seriously–could THEY be any cuter? Okay–apologies if you are rolling your eyes at me…but we mommas just can’t HELP IT some times!!!

Okay…another sweet picture celebrating today!

Melt my heart the way my kids look at each other…

I wish EVERY little one could experience this sweet love and know the JOY and SECURITY and LOVE of family!!! And that ultimately–through family know God as Father and experience Life abundantly. I’m so, so thankful for how God has opened our eyes and not allowed us to get caught up in the American dream or tennis or Botox (sorry…had to throw that in because the lady in front of me at the grocery store just had that done and that doesn’t even look natural or normal people. Just saying…even if you THINK you have wrinkles and some one cares and that stuff would make you think you’d look better–JUST SAY NO.) Seriously–this living makes this life just a slice of heaven on Earth!!!

XOXO!

Andrea

P.S. How COOL is this…another adoption mom with our agency JUST returned home from Ethiopia. She told me she visited Bethzatha orphanage the orphanage my son was at 1 year ago today and 1 year ago today made it to Hannah’s Hope. WELL…she sent me an email TODAY (of all days!) saying that she went by Bethzatha and went in the director’s office to find THIS on the side table…Crazy for this calendar to end up back at the orphanage…and crazy for someone to send me this picture TODAY!!! Love how things work…sweet reminders of His sovereignty!

P.S.S. We are still looking for a family for a 3 year old little guy in Uganda. He is precious–and I can’t share his name online BUT he does share the name with one of my sweet ones and he actually resembles him too. We’ll just call him little “F” for now:). He is a DOLL and we are hopeful to help him find his family soon! Please email me if you know a family that is open to bringing home a 3 year old and has a completed home study!

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Lara - February 15, 2011 - 11:17 pm

Oh my goodness. No baby should EVER look like he did in that first picture. Babies should be round and squishy!

jessie - February 15, 2011 - 11:28 pm

I love reading your blog, but sometimes I like to leave it on while I blog hop so I can hear the music! You have the best background music of any blog I read. Its just so perfect for me all the time!

Carissa - February 15, 2011 - 11:34 pm

Oh my word! Other than the arched eyebrows, I see no resemblance b/t the two boys pictured. What an amazing difference!!! I’m so glad that you shared, and that Isaac has found his HOME.

Rachael - February 15, 2011 - 11:38 pm

Thank you for posting this today! I am an adopted mama to be, we are currently on the waiting list for a little boy from Ethiopia. What a beautiful transformation in your son! Such a great reminder that love can overcome a multitude of hurts.

kristi johnson - February 16, 2011 - 12:10 am

oh, it made me cry thinking of WHAT my little man will look like IN ONE YEAR..I won’t even recognize him…Wow..what a change!!! amazing…kj

Bonnie Nieuwstraten - February 16, 2011 - 12:44 am

AMAZING!! Our God is SO good and SO faithful!

Elle J - February 16, 2011 - 12:59 am

Love. What a miracle you have in Isaac. A precious child of God. Beautiful. I love how God put you before me to learn about you before Isaac, watching you grow in your adoption journey to Isaac, and life with Isaac. So HAPPY I know your blog story. =)

Amber - February 16, 2011 - 9:40 am

I smiled all the way through this post, Andrea! God is so good!!!

Charity - February 16, 2011 - 9:53 am

Hey Andrea! I sent you am email yesterday wanting more information on the little guy! Our family is paperwork ready for Uganda. Thanks!

Rachel - February 16, 2011 - 10:02 am

Oh my goodness!! Isn’t it amazing what the Lord can do!! He is soooo good. And as for cooing over Isaac’s deliciousness, I’d respond the same way… ๐Ÿ˜‰

jen - February 16, 2011 - 10:10 am

Praise God! Amazing are His works.

Jennifer - February 16, 2011 - 10:28 am

What an amazing testimony of God’s faithfulness! Amazing to see the 1 year changes!!!!

Kathryn - February 16, 2011 - 2:12 pm

Praise be to God!!
It is amazing to see what love can do for a child!
God is SO good!!!
Thank you for sharing this!! I am blown away.

missy - February 16, 2011 - 2:37 pm

such a profound difference in just one year. the difference of family. glory to god!!!!!

Andrea B - February 16, 2011 - 3:33 pm

Tears are flowing. Oh Andrea what a transformation. The Lord has been so very faithful to you all in this journey. What a miracle little ITY is!

Erin - February 16, 2011 - 3:39 pm

Andrea, I LOVE GOD IN THESE DETAILS! LOVE it!!! And those pictures are amazing!!!! God took his sweet little life, brought him to your loving, sweet, gracious, godly home, and gave him life. GAVE. HIM. LIFE. I am seriously in awe. I can’t wait to see what God does with his life. This brings me such hope and expectation as we are in this “land of the waiting for our little one!!”

Dawn - February 16, 2011 - 4:26 pm

There are no words to describe what God has done…..only Beautiful Pictures ๐Ÿ™‚ Praising God!!!

Alison - February 16, 2011 - 5:32 pm

WOW!!! What a precious miracle he is! It is amazing to see the difference in one year! Praise God!!

debbie davis - February 16, 2011 - 7:11 pm

This day is special for us too. It’s the day one year ago today that I finally mailed my application to AGCI after driving it around in my car for a couple of months. Such peace the next day.

ellen silva - February 16, 2011 - 7:25 pm

crying – praise God

Mrs. B - February 17, 2011 - 8:46 am

Praise God for your precious miracle baby ITY. The then and now pictures are testimonies of God’s faithfulness! LOVE that he was wearing that precious bib when you met him! Happy Valentine’s Week from the B Family to the Y Family! xoxoxo

PS–Yesterday, I noticed that several of Dr. Rosemond’s parenting articles were published on the Focus on the Family website. I wrote them a letter explaining that his views on attachment in adoption were in direct contrast to the articles on their site written by adoption experts and dealing with attachment and adoptive parenting. I sent them links to the Tapestry and Empowered to Connect websites and told them to consider having Dr. Purvis or Amy Monroe as guests on one of their programs.

Vanessa - February 17, 2011 - 11:17 am

WOW!!! WOW!!! I would never guess these two kiddos were the same. Your little man just radiates joy!!! Praise God for His faithfulness and for your obedience.

Hugs to you!!!

marci - February 17, 2011 - 5:59 pm

These pics are so special. The 1st tugs in a deep way …how blest you all are to have the physical ITY so strong and beautiful today…To love him healthy….God will say “well done my good and faithful servant” I believe each of you at the Young family are all the reason for the miracle of Isaac. Wow…gives me goosebumps.Sweet blessings !

Some Valentine’s love at our house…

Valentine’s day makes me think of the FIRST day I met my 4th child!!! Why you ask?? WELL…he was wearing THIS on June 27, 2010 when I held him for the FIRST time! Made me smile seeing that bib on him in June!

SO thankful for our littles. I thought about that picture and then at dinner time tonight–I just had to take a quick snap shot of Isaac folding his sweet little hands during our dinner prayer…7 months after that picture up there was taken–he is now snuggling to mommy (that took 6 months), he gives me kisses (love!), he holds Frank’s hand in the car (another picture you have to see), and he watches us and loves to do what we do…love his sweet little praying hands…


Ahhh…melt my heart!

BUT I need to rewind to make you all LAUGH about “a day in the life” with ME. Oh my. Seriously–some times I have people say…like today in the Publix parking lot, “I don’t know how you do it.” WELL…lemme make you laugh–it’s not pretty. And there are PLENTY of mommas who have much more than this chick does on her plate. (Let me also add that it helps when you resort to paying someone to come do your laundry weekly. YES–this mom knows where she needs help. I don’t need a housekeeper…it never is clean so I don’t really need it to be clean for a few hours. I don’t need take-out…Rico Suave and I love to cook. SO we looked at what we don’t like–and it’s laundry…so there ya go–I don’t do laundry! SO…I am NOT superwoman by any means…I mean, I don’t do laundry for one!) I also have a good time making due with what I’ve got. FOR EXAMPLE…(funny, funny story ahead…can’t you tell:)

This morning after seeing Parker and Laney off to carpool with Daddy (yep–there ya go…something ELSE I don’t do! Daddy takes the older kids to school EVERY day!), I had my cup of coffee and got the babies up. Not good when I walked in nursery #1. Seriously needed a gas mask. Oh my. SO…I start looking for diapers. No diapers. Oh no!!! Walk in nursery #2–thank goodness–no gas mask needed. Take babies downstairs–search every diaper bag in the house for diapers. SO HAPPY I FOUND TWO!!!! Now, I can go run errands, go to the grocery, and get diapers before needing to be at 11am Valentine’s party at kid’s school. Change first baby. All is good…UNTIL first baby has a blow out in clean diaper before I can even change baby #2. Sooooo…I change baby #1 AGAIN and decide to use 2nd diaper on him since he is the youngest and I THINK I can convince baby #2 since he just turned two not to wet his pants until I can buy diapers.

SO…since baby #2 loves Thomas the Train…I run upstairs and get these to pump him up and get him excited and our game today will be “Do not tee-tee on Thomas”…

Can you imagine me trying to tell a newly 2 year old who doesn’t talk he’s going to wear Thomas today and whatever he does–not to get Thomas wet?! (Okay…if your kid was potty trained at 14 months I don’t want you to comment because you make this story less funny;). BUT FOR REAL—my 2 year old who has never gone potty will need to learn how not to at least until I can get to store.

SO…I get to store FINALLY…I sang quietly the whole time “Don’t tee-tee on Thomas…no, no–you don’t wanna–no, no…don’t tee-tee on Thomas” (it had a cool tune and EVERYTHING)–and then at the check out FINALLY…and then…NO WALLET. Oh my. Back in van–jet set home…get wallet…back to store. Get groceries. Get stopped in parking lot–someone asking about adoption…make the most of every opportunity–stick my head in the van in between conversation to sing the song again…realize we are late for Valentine party…jet set to school–forget Frank the Tank is just wearing Thomas. Get to party…get all the Valentine’s goodies…get stopped in hall to talk about Frank’s Wiphan Warthog Waddle video–the boy is a hit where ever you go!!! Get everyone in the car. WE MADE IT. And all the way home…

AND I even looked in the back to make sure Thomas wasn’t wet one time at a redlight–and saw THIS. MELT. MY. HEART. SWEET!

I turned around on the way home and asked him if Thomas was wet and he said, “No wet Thomas.” And then we walked in the house—and big boy made his first trip to the potty!!! So proud of him–and our craziness made me realize that just maybe he is ready to potty train!!!

SOOOO…then after lunch–babies went down for naps but as soon as they woke up it was WHOPPIE PIE time!!! (Thank you Mama Judy for the Whoppie Pie tray and mix!)

We made heart shaped Whoppie Pies for dessert tonight…

And the KIDS put everything together…

The reason I am okay with making really big messes and not doing it myself??? This face and the JOY in it says the mess is worth it!

And of course the afterwards part they love too!

Daddy got home JUST IN TIME too!

Making the filling gave us just enough time to let these cool down…

AND THEN…filling time! YUM!

SO. SO. GOOD! And then…my sweet hubby pulled a surprise out that he had brought us…CUPCAKES! SOOO…lots of sweetness at our house tonight! Oh…to be a kid at the Young house…or an adult for that matter too! And we have room for more too:). Sooo…we make due some times around here with no diapers…I survive by not doing laundry and making things like Whoppie Pies instead…and I truly feel like we live each day to it’s fullest!!! AND I also don’t answer my phone hardly ever…which may be very annoying to my friends–but thankfully my dearest girlfriends get me, understand my crazy and love me anyway!!! Hope you all had a wonderful Valentine’s!!!!!!!

Last but NOT least. I am advocating for a 3 year old little boy in Uganda. If you know a family who is paper ready for a little boy who needs a loving family–please contact me through my contact page. We are praying we find a family for him this week!!!

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Erin Crenshaw - February 14, 2011 - 10:39 pm

What a fun day, Andrea! Love the craziness…makes me feel “normal!” Your family is precious!

JJ - February 14, 2011 - 10:54 pm

In all your craziness of the day, you forgot to finish buckling Frankie Baby in his car seat. It sounds to me as though he is definitely ready to potty train. Yeah Frank! I’ve had many days like that, too many I am afraid. Glad to see I am not the only one making a mad dash for diapers and then realize once I get all 5 kids in the store that my debit card is AT HOME! Ahh, these are the days!

Asher Collie - February 14, 2011 - 11:14 pm

Well, now you know how I potty train. No joke-one day we run out of diapers and it is at that time *I* feel like, hey, I think you are ready to be potty trained. (Okay, I know, not the way you are SUPPOSED to do it!) and the kids just live up to their expectations. Haha, well, usually. Or I just don’t care if they have an accident, I become master at silly songs and have to apologize to my friends for my kid peeing on their carpet. Now you know how THIS momma potty trains. You should try it sometime. Leaves room for lots of laughing. ๐Ÿ˜‰ (but my kids were potty trained at 18 months because of this philosophy. Is that child abuse?)

Dawn - February 15, 2011 - 12:06 am

I am sooo laughing right now….because I would have totally done the same thing ๐Ÿ™‚ he he he he….oh bless….I think I might fall out of my chair just thinking about it. But that picture of your boys- MELTING MY HEART!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok and had to tell you we are posting our Journey to Jonathan on utube…in parts ๐Ÿ™‚ Anywho…it brought up “similar” videos and guess whose came up? OH YEAH- yours and we watched it and I cried and I TOTALLY LOVED IT!!!!!!!!!!!! I saw that bib ๐Ÿ™‚

Much Love from the crazy Wrights ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh yeah by the way I don’t do laundry either- my hubby and kiddos do….thank the Lord because otherwise I don’t think I could do what I do- for real!!

rebekah wright - February 15, 2011 - 3:20 am

I love reading your blog! Thank you SO much for the wonderful tools you share with adoptive Mommas! I had just started reading the Connected Child when I saw your links to the Empowered to Connect site and have been listening to her talks this week. They are so encouraging and are full of so much wisdom! Just wanted to say, “thanks!”

Christy - February 15, 2011 - 6:44 am

Oh goodness… what a blog post! Just love it and could not read enough of these! Sounds like some of my days and makes me know I’m not alone! ๐Ÿ™‚ Would seriously like to know how you clean though, because I know you must – I’ve seen pictures of your house and it looks neat and gorgeous and filled with breakable stuff that would never last here! ๐Ÿ™‚ You are amazing. ๐Ÿ™‚

Amanda - February 15, 2011 - 9:28 am

Love your diaper disaster! And that baby F kept Thomas dry!!! I’m inspired to try that trick today ๐Ÿ™‚

Rachel - February 15, 2011 - 11:13 am

I just love you! “Don’t tee tee on Thomas”. Loved getting to hear that first hand. And Go Frank, great job!! Thank you for taking time to chat with me in the midst of all this!!!! You’re just so much fun.

Christina - February 18, 2011 - 9:58 pm

Teee heee your story made me smile. I can totally imagine myself doing that!

But it also reminded me of yet another reason I LOVE cloth diapering– besides the money saving, landfill saving (1 kid in disposables= a ton of waste which takes 500 years to decompose. That’s ONE kid. ONE KID!!!), and bonuses for the kid… there’s’ not ever the “oh no I’m out of diapers!!!” panic. ๐Ÿ™‚

So… maybe you might wanna consider them! Kawaii baby (theluvyourbaby.com) has reallly inexpensive diapers which are workhorses; even if you just did 1/2 cloth, 1/2 disposables, you’d save a ton of money and do so much for the planet. Just a thought! ๐Ÿ™‚

Understanding the Importance of Neurotransmittors…(and with seratonin love…HAPPY VALENTINES!)

Last week when I went to hear a well known parenting author talk at a church here in Atlanta how he believes attachment is a myth for our adopted children, I spoke up asking how his theory would then explain the different levels of neurotransmittors in children who are from hard places due to malnourishment, lack of nurture, etc. He said children are very resilent and they will turn out just fine once in a home–and while a dog would be forever ruined if he was mistreated for a year, babies and kids would not. (You guys know how I feel about kids and dogs being compared to one another. JUST MY PET PEEVE…no pun intended). He said their issues are simply social awkwardness which will go away over time. Okay, I know that is crazy–but this is actually being taught in our churches, being recommended by pastors and I am compelled to be a voice for the voiceless. Oh to think what is at risk if we aren’t educated on this and do not know how to DEEPLY love the wounded. We need to be educated on what our precious little ones go through and HOW we can help them!!! In turn, making our home a place of love, peace, joy, kindness, goodness, forbearance, faithfulness, and self-control. (Oops! Forgot to paste it the first time! TRYING again here…) You can see more at www.empoweredtoconnect.org

Understanding the Importance of Neurotransmitters from Tapestry on Vimeo.

For the next few weeks–I will be posting videos to help educate parents with kids from hard places about the special needs these kids have and parenting strategies to help them thrive. I’m SO excited to go to the Empowered to Connect conference in Denver in April. While I know you can’t all go–I’m so happy to go and come back to share what we learn! I admit I don’t know what I should know about parenting my sweet ones, but I am committed to learning and growing as a mommy so I can better love and nurture them. One thing I learned about during our adoption wait was about the different levels of nuerotransmittors in the brain and how this effects behavior (this is something PRICELESS to invest your time and energy in during the adopti

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Christina - February 14, 2011 - 5:34 pm

Mr. B and I have been listening to some of my CDs from C4C and he especially appreciated Amy Monroe’s talks. We’re hoping to attend the E2C conference in Nashville in September and in the meantime to work through the study guide together. The website is so full of helpful resources. And I just have to say that I am so proud of you for having the courage to speak up and post about your objections to these other theories. I am stunned that these things are being taught to parents and so saddened to think of children with broken, wounded hearts being raised by people who follow this model–especially with all of the research and feedback that we have from internationally adopted children over the last 30-40 years.

Beth Olson - February 14, 2011 - 6:12 pm

Hello!
Thank you for sharing more informoation about how our childs’ history effects them. My husband and I are working on our homestudy to adopt from Ethiopia and will also be in Denver in April. I hope we can meet then!
Beth

rachel - February 14, 2011 - 6:24 pm

the U of MN adoption clinic also has several hours of workshops on attachment available for free on their website here – http://www.cmh.umn.edu/events/Workshop%20Descriptions.html
i’ve listened to them and they are *excellent*.

one of the peds at the international adoption clinic there, who has reviewed the files of over 15,000 children says this,
“The chance of an institutionalized child being completely normal on arrival in your home is essentially zero!” Here is the full letter: http://www.peds.umn.edu/iac/topics/letter/home.html

i am concerned for the adoptive children being parented in the way you discussed above. there are a lot of myths out there surrounding healthy infant adoption. there are many who feel they are “saving” the child. that mentality, i feel, can create an attitude where the child *owes* the parent something – gratitude, good behavior, etc. it also may not prepare parents for the real challenges they will face in parenting an adoptive child. i strongly feel that if christian parents cannot meet the special needs of their adoptive children, then they should look for other ways to help orphans and widows. adoption is so expensive and so much good could be done with that money if given to people who would be good stewards of it. adoption is only a small (tiny) solution to the orphan crisis.

Dawn - February 14, 2011 - 6:29 pm

WHAT?????? Comparing children to dogs- OK this is where I would have lost it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

๐Ÿ™‚ Whew…ok anyway….thank you for sharing these videos ๐Ÿ™‚

Sandi - February 14, 2011 - 6:31 pm

I hope & pray that the adoption docs are explaining that a large percentage of problem behaviors are due to the brain & Sensory Processing Disorder. SPD is prevalent in most children who have been in an orphanage over 1 yr & if they get OT therapy before the age of 6 it results in normalized behavior. Through Sensory Integration Therapy exercises by a certified Occupational Therapist these behaviors decrease or virtually disappear. It reprograms the brain & normalizes the brain’s chemical (neurotransmitter) over or under response. So many of these kiddos are being misdiagnosed with ADHD & other disorders & it just breaks my heart. I am hoping that the books “The Out of Sync Child” & “The Out of Sync Child has Fun” by Carol Stock Kranowitz are being recommended by the adoption docs. I am so glad that you are advocating educating moms on the brain & how they can help their children heal. You are changing lives for the better! Fabulous info!

Danielle May - February 14, 2011 - 10:06 pm

I think every adoptive parent should be educated on Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). It has a HUGE affect on the neurotransmitters and the bonding that adoptive parents and children experience. I experienced it with my son when I was diagnosed with cancer when he was only 4 months old and we missed that crucial bonding period. We have gone through a “re-bonding” period much like what adoptive parents and children experience and it has been amazing and life changing. He has begun to thrive in so many areas that we didn’t even realize he was behind.

Nikki - February 15, 2011 - 9:03 am

Hey Andrea! Two things: (1) I want you to know I made your Valentine’s fortune cookies for my three kiddos as well as the two girls I teach next door, and they were a total hit… and (2) that’s awesome that you’re coming to Denver in April! We were trying to figure out a way to get me to that conference, and we even live right here. ๐Ÿ™‚ We need to hook up!

-Nikki

The Warthog Waddle

Yep–it’s TIME to register forrrrr…THE WARTHOG WADDLE! Every year, Wiphan focuses on ONE big fundraiser…last year it was the cookbooks–and THIS year…we are runnin’ off all that cookin’! Wiphan Care Ministries is a ministry that we LOVE and love being a part of–and would LOVE for you to join us in caring for the orphans and widows in Zambia! (P.S. We’ll be leading a trip there in JUNE…so stay tuned for that fun info!) BUT FOR NOW…get GEARED up with us for the Warthog Waddle!

Here’s the deal. We have just around 175 runners. We’d LOVE 400. And we’d especially LOVE if anyone and everyone running could register as soon as possible to help the planning team know exactly how many to plan for!!! The race will be in Roswell, Georgia and you can register HERE. SOOOO…if you are local or at least within driving distance…come on out and help us by running!!!

IF you register before March 3, 2011–it’s ONLY $25!!! You can laugh at us TRYING to run (it won’t be pretty I tell you!) and it will be the ONE time I run all year:). And it really will be A LOT of fun!!!

Now…I know what some of you are thinking…“I don’t live close by–OR ELSE I’d totally run!” Well, Parker, Laney, Frank, Isaac, Richard and I were talking about that little problem. We put our heads together. And we drew straws.

We want to ask on behalf of Wiphan and the orphans and widows of Zambia that you will consider “running” with us from afar—and letting one of ours RUN FOR YOU!!! (PLEASE…I BEG YOU–TURN OFF THE MUSIC UP TOP BEFORE WATCHING!!!)

Yes–we are totally serious. And Frank would LOVE to run on your behalf!!! He will be training for the kids fun run–and Parker and Laney are ESPECIALLY PUMPED to see how many folks their little brother will be running for!!! Now–to join his team–you can make a donation at www.wiphan.org under the “one time donation”. Choose “Warthog Waddle”, complete the form and in the memo simply write “Frank is running for me!” Your donation IS tax deductible–and can be for any amount! He will be wearing all the names of those he is running for on race day to honor them and thank them for helping him in this race for Wiphan!!!

Now…we need your help too! Will you consider sharing Frank’s video and asking other’s to join his team? I mean–seriously–one…it’s for an AMAZING cause–and two…it’s just funny (or at least we think so!) The kids have watched it a MILLION TIMES!

We also want to thank those who SHARE the video AND support Frank! If you do either or both of these–please let us know in the comment section. Of course you can let us know what you think of Frankie-baby’s video there too! On game day–we will pull one of the names off Frank’s Lighting McQueen tank top to WIN a Wiphan Cookbook AND a Wiphan t-shirt!

Thank you so much for considering joining us at the Warthog Waddle –remember if you think you MIGHT run to go ahead and register RIGHT NOW while you are reading this and thinking about it!!! If you know you can’t be here but would love to join us anyway…we would be HONORED to run on your behalf!!! Thank you so much for helping!!!

Seriously…wouldn’t you love to see these as posters???

Hope you all are having a GREAT weekend!!! MUCH love from our house to yours!? Seriously…if only you could be a fly on the wall and see HALF of the crazy things we do!!! We have SOOOO much fun!

XOXO!

Andrea

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Elle J - February 12, 2011 - 9:38 pm

YES!!!!!!!!!! Frankie-Baby … please RUN FOR ME!!! I will be clicking over now to send in my registration for Frank. Love This, Andrea!!

Christina - February 13, 2011 - 9:25 am

LOVE that Frank! He’s such a good sport! What a precious, fun video.

abby - February 13, 2011 - 7:16 pm

seriously, one of the best videos of all time. go frank!

Nordstroms - February 13, 2011 - 10:10 pm

Oh I love Frank!! And the best of part of the video is when he gets a Krispy Kreme doughnut for finishing the race!

Staci - February 14, 2011 - 8:25 am

What a way to start my day! LOVE the FRANK VIDEO!!! Too much fun!!!

Amy @ Filled With Praise - February 14, 2011 - 2:39 pm

This video CRACKS me up. I love that you had to pin the biking shorts in the back to keep them on him ๐Ÿ™‚ Frank will definitely be running for me. RUN FRANK RUN!

I will post your video on my blog this week.
Love ya,
Amy

melissa - February 15, 2011 - 3:25 pm

I have seen it all Andrea!! How did you have time to think about this and come up with this and film in and put it together all in the last week. You are beyond all of us! Precious Video and great idea!! I will let you know if I can run with you guys in Roswell! Should be fun!!!

joy - February 15, 2011 - 8:12 pm

Frankie, my man! My money is on you! And, seriously, I think you run MUCH faster than I ever could!