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Created for Care Registration begins…NOW:)

Yay!!! It’s officially time to register for the Created for Care retreat! The dates are January 27-29th. The registration fee is $165 which is fully refundable up until December 27, 2011. After that–if you find out you are traveling–you can sell your spot to a friend or someone on the wait list! If you have any questions please let us know. If the retreat fills up and you are unable to register–you can be added to the wait list and we will contact you in the order your wait list request is received. We are SO excited about the next C4C retreat and can’t wait to see you there!!!

You can register here: www.createdforcare.org

OR

By simply going directly to this link: CREATED FOR CARE 2012 REGISTRATION

Y’all have a great night–and can’t WAIT to see many of y’all in less than 5 months!!! WOOT! It’s gonna be so awesome!

Andrea

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missy - September 1, 2011 - 12:21 am

just registered…i am SOOOOOOOOO excited!!!

Lauren - September 1, 2011 - 12:21 am

registered and SO STINKING EXCITED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now I’m off to bed! 😉

Kim - September 1, 2011 - 12:33 am

just registered … cannot wait!

Robyn Beall - September 1, 2011 - 8:43 am

So excited! It’s like I just opened a Christmas present!

Alison - September 1, 2011 - 8:48 am

Just registered!!! YAY!!! Can’t wait! 🙂

Kelly - September 1, 2011 - 9:10 am

See y’all in JANUARY!!! Woohoo!!!

Amy @ Filled With Praise - September 1, 2011 - 9:24 am

I am in! So excited!!!
Blessings,
Amy

Ashley Fairley - September 1, 2011 - 10:22 am

Just registered and I am so excited. I missed out last year and I vowed I wouldn’t let it happen again this year. I am looking forward to meeting you in person. We adopted our daughter, Mia, from China last summer. I am so excited for you and what God has waiting for you in China… 🙂 I am going to send you a FB friend request and send a Gotcha pic too… Can’t wait for January!

Jeni - September 1, 2011 - 11:01 am

It is full, isn’t it??? I tried to register this AM and it says it has reached capacity, but others seem to be having luck registering. Can someone let me know. Thanks!

Marisa Dempsey - September 1, 2011 - 4:50 pm

I follow your blog linked from our adoption agency (Christian Adoption Services). I was able to register but none of my friends did it in time. If you know anyone wanting a roommate or traveling from the Raleigh area, I would love to know! Thanks!

Rory Cookman - September 1, 2011 - 7:49 pm

Registered at 9:01 p.m. Pacific Time and I am pumped! This is me throwing up my rawk fist!! Woo-hoo!

Created for Care Breakout Sessions Update

Here is an updated list on breakouts, their descriptions, etc. If you are planning to register for the retreat, you will be able to register for your breakout session when you register this Thursday on September 1st. Registration begins at 12:01am EST. The registration fee is $165 and covers all your retreat materials, retreat tee-shirt and all your meals for the weekend beginning with dinner on Friday night to breakfast on Sunday morning. All registrations fees are refundable until December 27th–after that date if you find out you are traveling for your adoption on the retreat date–you can sell your spot to a friend or someone on the wait list. You may reserve a room at the retreat center after October 1st. Rooms are $109 per night and may be split up to 4 ways. You do not pay for your room until you check out on January 29th. Other than your room, your registration fee covers EVERY THING and you should not need any additional money for the weekend (unless you are tempted by 147 tees;).

Any other questions??? Please send them my way–but I’ll be out of pocket homeschooling my kiddos all day and will do my best to answer them:)

***Friday sessions will not be recorded. If you can’t decide–all Saturday breakouts will be recorded and available for purchase.

Friday, 01/27/2012 Breakout Session 1 4:30 – 5:30pm
Pick one of the breakouts to attend following registration & Check-In on Friday…

1. Blogger Panel sharing Using Your Blog as Ministry with Lovelyn (Moments with Love), Missy (It’s Almost Naptime), Kristi (We love our Lucy), Lara (The Farmers Wife Tells All), Gwen and Suzanne (147 Million Orphans). Shelly Owens of 60Feet will be facilitating this session. This is sure to be a super fun interactive session and one you won’t want to miss!

2. African American Haircare with African American Hair Stylist Nisia Murray and her lovely Regan assisting (Come learn about different hair textures, hair products and simple styles) Get ready to laugh and be entertained by Nisia–and of course…there will be time for lots of Q&A at the end!

3. Photography 101 with professional photographers Shannon Holden and Tammy Dugger. Come learn and be inspired by Shannon of Shannon Holden Photography and her sidekick Tammy Dugger. Shannon’s work is published in boutiques, catalogs, online publications and “Professional Photographer” magazine. Tammy, a former professional photographer, will be tag-teaming this session with Shannon. Tammy, being a mom of 3 toddlers under 3 years old, will have some tips and tricks for photographing your toddlers–whom so often seem impossible to catch on camera. For mom’s who don’t have time to take photography classes–this will be a real treat!

4. Creative Quiet Time – It’s time to change our minds and routines for our quiet times with God.With the physical and emotional demands of parenting, not to mention the lack of alone time, how can we satisfy our spiritual needs?  The Good News is that God has a plan to meet all your needs and it’s all about His love and desire to be with you.  Come hear and experience new ways to increaseyour personal intimacy with the Lord and share some of your discoveries, too! (Jenni Means)

5. FUNdraising Your Adoption – Come be inspired in different ways to fund your adoption. Martha Cook of Promise686 will be sharing how their organization supports local adoptions through grants and how your church can potentially do this too. Also hear from ministries who are here to simply assist families with ways to fundraise, and find out how to get going with creative fundraising with their ministries!

Saturday, 1/28/2012 Breakout Session 2 2:00 – 3:30pm

1. News about HIV & Orphans and Realistic Expectations in Adoption – Dr. Susan Hillis, HIV research scientist, will be sharing news about HIV concerning orphans in today’s world. Then hear from Suzanne Mayernick (one of the 147 Million Orphans mom) and hear her personal journey of saying yes to HIV adoption.

2. Adoption and Current Need in the U.S. – Domestic Adoption , Open Adoption, Foster Care & Foster-to-Adopt – Aimee Powell (wife to Mac Powell of Third Day) will be sharing their family’s journey through domestic adoption. This session will also talk about needs in the US–as well as different domestic topics including open adoption, foster care and foster-to-adopt. Angie Gue, an adoptive mom, with three very beautiful open adoptions will be sharing insight on how to trust the Lord through the twists and turns in open adoption–and how beautiful it really can be for the baby, the birth mom and adoptive parents.

3. Yes, you CAN do this! Encouraging and Equipping Moms for Post-Adoption Success – We wait and wait and wait–and then we bring our new one home…and many times find ourselves tired, feeling unequipped and not connected to our child. Come be encouraged by Cris Peters with practical steps and ways to get through the first days, weeks and months–and ultimately create a strong foundation for your family to grow together on. This is a perfect session for mom’s waiting, close to referral or newly home.

4. Empowered to Connect (Session 1)- Adoption from the Inside Out – One of the most often overlooked aspects of the adoption and foster care journey is the need for parents to turn the focus on themselves in terms of dealing with their own past hurts and losses, looking honestly and realistically at their motivations and expectations and learning what it means to be “fully present” with their children. “Adoption from the Inside Out” — is necessary if parents are to help their children experience healing and transformation. This process requires that parents be willing to look back and make sense of their own past, look forward and honestly examine their motivations and expectations, in order to be free in each and every moment to be “fully emotionally present” with their children to help them heal and become all that God has created them to be. (Amy Monroe with Empowered to Connect)

5. The Joys and Challenges of Parenting a Child with Special Needs – This breakout session is led by two moms with two very different but amazing special needs adoption journeys. Come be encouraged and inspired from Emily Alexander and Gwen Oatsvall–how their journeys began, how the unexpected has changed their families and how blessed they feel as they continue to trust the Lord through this ever-changing and miraculous journey. (Practical Q&A time at the end)

6. Nurturing Your Marriage – There is no greater blessing we can give our children than a strong marriage. And yet many of us find that the ongoing issues of adoption can sometimes actually diminish intimacy and communication with our husbands. In this session we will be encouraged as wives and women to love our husbands well amidst the competing demands of mothering. (Beth Templeton)

Saturday, 1/28/2012 Breakout Session 3 3:45 – 5:15pm

1. Empowered to Connect (Session 2) – Attachment & Practical Realities of Connecting While Correcting – Adoptive and foster parents realize that connection is essential to help their children develop trust, heal, and grow. But they know that correction (i.e., discipline) is also important. This session will focus on practical insights and strategies for parents who want to better understand the “how and why” of connecting and correcting. Using a variety of everyday situations for parents of children of all ages, this session will illustrate the principles and strategies developed and taught by Dr. Karyn Purvis, co-author of The Connected Child. (Amy Monroe) [This session follows the 1st Empowered to Connect session well–but they also stand alone. We do recommend buying the track to both of these sessions if you are a pre-adoption family and are unable to attend both sessions. ]

2. Helping Your Child Know and Experience God – Our heart’s desire as mothers is to see our children walking full of faith in a love relationship with God. We will explore ways to create an atmosphere and culture where it is natural for our children to encounter Jesus, to know their Heavenly Father, and be sensitive to the Holy Spirit. We will learn ways to help us hear God as parents and to help our children hear the voice of God for themselves.  This is a real key to break the orphan spirit and come fully into our identity as sons and daughters of the Lord

3. Becoming an Orphan Advocate Right Where You Are – Come learn how you can get involved and be used greatly to serve orphans right where you are RIGHT now! Come hear from different ministries that all began through adoption families, and learn how you can join them and use your gifts to serve orphans all over the world.

4. “I Drive a Bus” – How to Thrive as a Growing (and some times BIG) Family – Get ready to laugh and enjoy this session with some of our favorite bus-driving adoption mommas and how they they thrive as they grow. Come hear how they not only survive but thrive as a growing family. The laundry, the homework, sports, date night (really–a date night?!), romance (really–that too?), connecting with each child and loving their mommy callings. (147 moms, Emily Alexander, Joy Portis & Kristi Johnson)

5. Parenting In Grace – What does the Good News of God’s Unmerited Favor look like in our homes? How does it affect and inform how we parent? Does an understanding of the difference between Law and Grace cause us to parent differently than our worldly neighbors? Let’s take a look at how we can love our precious children according to the gospel, bringing forth LIFE into every area of these lives entrusted to our care.

6. Practical Advice for Parents in Wisdom and Revelation – An interview with Shelly Owens and Susan Hillis on practical parenting your biological and adopted children. This interview session was a no-brainer for us after we heard how Shelly was impacted from a mommy/coffee interview with practical parenting with Susan Hillis. So impactful–we want to share it with each of you! We so often hear teaching on how to deeply love and connect with our children. In this session, the day-to-day is painted for you–giving you practical nuggets learned from this mom of 10 to take home and apply right now with your family.

The registration link will be posted on Facebook, emailed to everyone on the Created for Care newsletter list (you can sign up to be on the email list on the newsletter signup list on the bottom of the Created for Care website, AND it will be posted on the Created for Care Facebook page on our website. Registration begins at 12:01am on Thursday, September 1, 2011. Registration is complete when registration fee is paid, and registration is on a first come basis. Please read the FAQs on the website regarding roommates, bringing children, travel, etc. Any questions not answer in the FAQs please feel free to contact me or ask here. Thanks y’all!

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Counting the cost…

Counting the Cost of the Journey from Tapestry on Vimeo.

Richard and I are slowly but surely getting things checked off our home study–we’re getting there…and this time–it has taken longer…because this time…we know what the cost really looks like.

This time–I’m surrendering more to Him…my fears…the unknowns…the hard stuff–because I know what it looks like on a much different level.

There is a cost. And the costs, for us, are really much too long to list here.

We had to learn how to parent differently. (Trust me–it has to be different for healing to happen.) We had to figure out how to continue in the same parenting strategies with our older kids while appearing to at first be very lenient for months on end with a new one who came home very scared and unsure of the new smells, people, environment. There was a cost in putting my other children to bed at night and giving that sacred, sweet time to my husband. There was a cost in the opinions of the outside world…others who knew nothing about international adoption…hurtful things being said by even people we loved. There were so many costs…many of which we had no idea that we would be making.

Our first adoption journey was so miraculous as we raced through every step and my heart KNEW I had a son that needed to come home…who needed his momma to rock him…and I couldn’t WAIT to get him home. This second journey is amazing because I know the cost on a different level. And just as my son was worth and is worth the cost…so is she.

How wise it is for us to do like Dr. Purvis’s challenges us to do when considering growing our family through adoption. Sure there are costs any time you grow your family, but I must be honest and say the costs are quite different in bringing home a 1 year old, 3 year old or even 13 year old from an institutionalized setting verses a wee, tiny one.

I will tell you–as you prepare…as you read…as you dive into books like some of my favorites on helping littles heal like “The Connected Child” or “Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child”–you will bit by bit be more prepared for the costs ahead. Each and every one…which I must tell you–IS SO WORTH IT!!!

Y’all don’t forget the Created for Care retreat sign up is THIS Thursday, September 1st beginning at 12:01am EST. The registration fee is $165 (must be paid at the time of registration through Paypal) and covers all of your food for the weekend, retreat materials and your t-shirt. For families that are unsure if they will be traveling that weekend–we will be able to give refunds until December 27th–1 month before the retreat. After that time, you can simply sell your spot to a friend or someone on the retreat wait list. More details to come. Visit www.createdforcare.org for more:)

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Naomi - August 31, 2011 - 9:48 am

What a great video and post! I hope you don’t mind but I posted it on my blog too. I am also in the same place as you, counting the cost the second time around. We adopted a girl from China in 2009 and are now starting an adoption to Uganda for a boy. I am so much more aware of all the difficulties than can arise.

Thank you for sharing!

Lauren - August 31, 2011 - 10:22 am

wish I could go to ALL the breakout sessions! How will I ever choose??? oh the dilemna! haha

Kristi - August 31, 2011 - 8:20 pm

We recently had to count the costs of our adoption plans and found the cost too high. I have a hard time accepting that it’s okay–even right–to say “no” to adopting this child we had hoped was to be our son. This video is another encouraging confirmation that we made the right decision for our family at this time–even if it breaks our heart!

So glad I found this tonight. Thanks!

Lisa - September 1, 2011 - 11:43 am

Hi Andrea, I have thought for ages that I wanted to let you know how your blog – well, YOU – have encouraged me so much in the Lord. Especially in regards to adoption. You have made me realise so much what I wasn’t really seeing about so many little ones and their plight, and you have been as real as you can in cyberspace about the difficulties you’ve all had. Anyway, I wanted to encourage you tonight that it’s through reading your blog (rarely commenting tho’ sorry!) that DH and I have prayed about and are now seeking to add to our family through adoption too. May your family continue to be know the shelter of His presence as you wait and count the cost for your dear little Chinese girl.

our history…my heart

Sooo…after our busy birthday fun on Saturday—we got up bright and early to head on down to my grandmother’s where my mother grew up for the yearly family reunion…where we spent so many sweet holidays as children…where we’d ride bikes down “the” dirt road. We’d tell ghost stories by the old white house–and then we’d go to Mr.Wilber’s farm (yes that was really his name)–and my sisters, cousins and I would climb up on the fence and talk to the pigs.

We’d trail the woods and pretend we were entering Narnia…or on our own adventure–UNTIL that day we saw a real wolf. No more trail blazing for us after that. We’d ride our bikes just next door to grandmother’s to the church–the church my Granddaddy Frank built…and spent every Sunday either playing the piano, the guitar or teaching Sunday school. We’d go to the church and while Grandmother and Granddaddy Frank got things done at the church…we’d “play church”. I’d give the announcements. April would lead us in song. Katie would play the piano and take up the offering. And then…I’d preach. (I can only imagine what the sermons were about!) SUCH AMAZING memories.

My history…my heart.

I treasure these memories so, so much. I’m forever thankful for the influence my grandparents were on my life. My granddaddy Frank–well, he practically led me to Christ. And to be able to honor him with naming one of our son’s after him…so thankful we chose that name for him. I can’t wait to tell Frank about the man he is named after.

The reunion is always at the church. We visited. We laughed. And we sure missed KT being with us…but we slipped away with our children in the church and it was SO sweet and fun seeing them do EXACTY what we used to do…in the same exact church…making the same memories. Only for me–these may have been funnier.

Loo-bear took after Aunt KT and led music…

Although none of us understood the words to the special music–we thought it was delightful Frankie baby…

Pman wasn’t too sure about the craziness…

And then. The message. Um…can I get an AMEN?!

After the message they enjoyed some hymns led by my littlest niece…they are participated:)

THEN–it was time to go get their babies from the nursery:). Had to give this pic a vintage look. It SO reminds me of me and my sisters!!!! LOVE that it is now our girls making these memories together!!!!

It’s been almost 16 years since Granddaddy Frank went to be with Jesus. It doesn’t matter how many years go by–we will always miss him…and love him ever so deeply. Standing by his grave I told momma how I wish he could have met some of my children…

I just loved spending my day here with family…and getting to spend the afternoon with my aunts, my grandmother and parents…and my cousins kiddos too. Such a sweet time.

Isaac had so much fun too. He was a dangerous little booger on this incline sidewalk. Momma shouldn’t have brought his coaster car because all he wanted to do was take it to the top and ride it down. Doesn’t he look up to something here?!

Now…let me end this post as it should end…laughing! BECAUSE that is what we did A LOT of.

You know I married Rico Suave. And smooth he is. ALL last week he grew a go-tee to get on my nerves. Job well done babe.

THEN. We were pulling out of the driveway to head to MY FAMILY REUNION…and he runs in the house because “he forgot something”. WELL…he came out with a stache…looking like Kip in Napoleon Dynamite. NICE. SO THIS is what I had to look at all day…HARD to keep a straight face to!

“Napoleon, don’t be jealous that I’ve been chatting online with babes all day. Besides, we both know I’m training to be a cage fighter.”

AND that’s the man I married folks! HE IS NOT RIGHT!

Ya’ll have a good one!

XOXO,

Andrea

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Briana - August 30, 2011 - 9:10 am

Totally embarrassing, but I still have an old T-shirt with Kip behind a computer, saying that! That was my favorite part of the movie! At least, he wasn’t wearing glasses, too! 🙂

Lara - August 30, 2011 - 9:12 am

The ‘stache looks like something my husband would do! Love the look of that church. Reminds me of the Southern Baptist church I grew up in. sometimes I really miss the hymns, pews, and potlucks.

Bobi Bobbitt - August 30, 2011 - 9:47 am

Andrea!!! LOVE the “stache”… Justis has done this exact same thing to me twice!!! Last Christmas he came downstairs at his parents with a “stache” and I told him I would not leave the house with him until he shaved it off! (: Glad I am not the only one with a “not so right” hubby! (:

S - August 30, 2011 - 12:07 pm

I thought that all you adoptive parents out there would like to know that there is a soon-to-be show on Disney Chanel featuring 2 white parents with 1 bio kid and 3 adopted (One from India, One from Africa, and one from somewhere else) Isn’t that Awesome? Oh yeah- the show is called “Jessie”

Alison - August 30, 2011 - 1:24 pm

Haha! I am cracking up about the “stache”! 🙂

JonesEthiopia - August 30, 2011 - 9:07 pm

You are so right– he does look like Kip! Love that movie!

I know what you mean about your grandfather. I think all the time about how I wish my grandparents could have met my children and how much they would have loved them. I miss one my grandmothers– who R is named after– every day…

Rachelle - August 31, 2011 - 2:08 am

Funny:)….And your children are too cute! Love the picture of Frank~ Amen 😉

pool parties and pirates:)

Our sweet Emma (my niece) and Parker man had pool parties yesterday for their birthdays. Their birthdays are always the same weekend as they were born a few days apart. SO…we spent all day swimming:) Parker and Laney were much harder to catch as they were ALL over the place…and the 2 year olds were way entertaining I must say.

Here is Frankie baby with his cousin…they were SO funny together yesterday.

This 2 year old is insisting more and more on some independence…it’s messy–but ya gotta learn some how…

And while our older 2 year old is pretty independent, he’s not too proud to get help now and then…

THEN after Emma’s hula party–it was time for the pirate party on our side of town. Don’t think we are terrible but we forgot the candles so we just sang. THANKFULLY we did candles with the fruit cake earlier on his actual birthday. Parker was totally cool with it. Wish I had taken pictures of the pirate piñata fun but I was busy putting 2 eye patches on each kiddo before they hit the piñata. They wacked it with swords…which broke the swords instead of the piñata…so Rico Suave had to run in the woods real quick by our hood pool and find a big stick. We’re always winging it:) The kids had fun though!

Don’t mess with ITY when it comes to cake. He is learning to share…but sharing his cake–even with one of his best buds is pushing it…

“Momma! Do something!”

Standing his ground…

Whew…now we have a break from birthday fun until November when Frankie baby turns THREE! He is already telling us he wants a Thomas, Spiderman, and Lightning McQueen party:) Do we have to stop calling Frankie baby, Frankie baby, when he turns three??? Even ITY calls him that so that will be a sad day if we do!

Off to a Sunday afternoon family reunion! Y’all have a good one!

XOXO!

Andrea

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