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“Remember me…” {The cry of millions of orphans who will never be adopted…}

The ministry that our family is a part of {www.wiphan.org} ministers to 450 orphans and 100+ widows in Ndola, Zambia. These orphans will not be adopted–or at least not how we think of adoption. The closest thing they will ever know to having a family might even be their sponsored family back on this side of the world. These are the children that need us to remember them…every single day…

Some of them won’t ever even know what it’s like to be sponsored by a family. The friends they meet in the compounds who are also orphans will become their family–and they will fend for themselves together…as a little pack trying to make it through each day to find food, shelter and survival.

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world. James 1:27

It’s so easy…to get consumed with the dailies…and actually forget. Days, weeks and even months can go by…yet–across the world…millions of these precious children wake up every morning…many skip meals not by their own choice…just as sweet–just as precious–just as innocent as the children that wake up safely in our homes each morning. In God’s eyes–the children in our home and these children should be cared for and provided for no differently…

They have the same needs.

They have the same wants.

And I am called to care for them–but so often…I forget.

I know as believers we are called to go. To go love them. To give. To do whatever we can to care for these who do not have parents to look after them. The majority of orphans will never be adopted–and while adoption IS transforming orphans to sons and daughters–once orphans are adopted–they are NO LONGER orphans (praise Jesus!) Regardless of how we grow our families–regardless if we have miraculously been a part of transforming a child’s status from orphan to son or daughter–we are still called to continuously care for orphans.

This is TRUE religion.

I, on the other hand, feel like I’ve been all over the place. But the Lord never wants us to live in guilt. Instead–I confess my distraction–and commit to follow Him.

I feel like in the last year, I’ve been sending Rico Suave out to love orphans while I’ve been holding down our fort. I know some would tell me that I’m being a “sender” because I’m sending my husband–but my heart feels like I’m also supposed to be the hands and feet in some way. I can get so distracted caring for my children…that in all honestly–I just forget. I forget how we were created to care–and how it’s just how we are supposed to LIVE. How I have to SLOW DOWN and really SEEK HIM in order to do it right and well.

Something happens inside of us when we are a part of this TRUE religion. Something changes in the way we do life…the things we worry about change…how we spend our time and who we spend it with changes…we are conformed–we are changed. I need to remember these most precious ones for not only their sake–but for the sake of my personal well-being and good as well. We really need them as much as they need us. Wait…maybe we need them more. Because when you visit them–you see their JOY is pure–is full and so real…because so many of them are seeking Him and trusting Him for daily bread. I really think one of the reasons He calls us to love orphans is because He also loves us so much.

How He loves us to teach us how to live! Caring for others–and changing our lives for the sake of others…

Loving her will change you…

Caring for him will change you…

Visiting them and showing these children how much they are loved…will also change you…

We have 450 kids in our program—and we would love to have all 450 of them sponsored. BUT we have just a little over 100 sponsored–and we won’t interview more until we have those already interviewed and waiting sponsored. One way to care for these orphans in their distress is to consider sponsoring one for just $39 a month and sending letters/pictures/stickers/etc your child’s way when we have a travel group going over. You can EVEN go over on a trip one day and MEET your child…hug them and love on them (a sweet experience you will never forget). We partner with BrightPoint to help us find sponsors and work with monthly donations so we can focus on the ministry aspect of Wiphan. You can see the kids still needing to be sponsored BY CLICKING HERE.

If you would like to get involved with what Wiphan is doing in Zambia–please visit the website here: www.wiphan.org

There are so many other amazing organizations too that minister to orphans all over the world…even organizations that ministers to orphans right here. We just happened to get involved with Ndola because we heard about the need at a time in our lives when we were not actively involved in orphan care–and we jumped on board…and how we have fallen in love with these people! Rico Suave has been more involved than I have been in the last couple of years as this mom has taken on homeschool and chasing toddlers…but now that my youngest is 3–I feel like I’m coming up for air, and my heart wants to get to a place that I remember MORE and actively care for orphans and widows in their distress–whether I live here or there.

If you are a part of an orphan organization in some way–could you please list the link to the website in the comments section of this blog entry to give anyone who might read today’s entry more ideas of ways to love orphans in their distress?? If you are creatively serving in your home town–would you take a moment to share ideas to give moms like me new ideas and inspiration in things we might can do right where we are to love orphans and widows?

I so needed to write this FOR ME tonight. Excited for what is ahead…

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Amanda - November 6, 2012 - 7:40 am

Thank you for this beautiful reminder. Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words. Can I ask … why will these children not be adopted? (I ask because my hubby and I are still trying to land on a country so we can move forward with an adoption.) Again, thank you.

Mary Beth - November 6, 2012 - 9:07 am

Beautiful post. Thanks, Andrea. We are actively involved in Lifesong’s work in Ethiopia. Here is the link to our website, where you can read more and sponsor a child: http://www.adamituluproject.com/

Stacy - November 6, 2012 - 10:20 am

One of my sweet friends started a non-profit sponsorship program to benefit two orphanages in the Democratic Republic of the Congo after realizing the need during their own adoption process. As you said, many of these children will never be adopted, but their basic needs of things like food, education, and medical care are things we can so sacrifice small things for and change their lives. If God is speaking to anyone about the DRC, this is a great organization to help orphans there. They still have many who need to he sponsored and due to the war in DRC, there are new orphans being brought to the orphanages every day. You can learn more about Mercy’s Mission at http://www.mercysmission.org.

deena - November 6, 2012 - 10:28 am

precious reminder of our precious Savior’s heart for His children! Living 1:27 is a ministry to the children and families involved in GA’s foster care system. There are 7500 kids just in Georgia’s system! Great first steps for those with a heart are prayer team, group home visits (boys & girls), respite care (watching kids for foster families for a night or wkend). Visit http://www.living127.com for more information.

Sonya - November 6, 2012 - 3:50 pm

Great post–and I actually chuckled when you mentioned coming up for air now your child is 3, because mine is about to turn 2 and I’m nowhere near air! ๐Ÿ™‚ I identify with that because I’m looking forward to being “me” again, without trying to rush through these years. We’ve been called to focus in our hometown and state. So while technically most of these kids are not “orphans” in our typical understanding of the word, they often are in other senses of the word and often spirtually just as in need. We are excited to be a part of a state-wide church vision toward making every single foster child placed in a Christ-centered home, along with support in those families’ personal churches, so that not a single one remains in a group home or the hallways and offices of social workers. It is the job of the church body to provide for the widows and orphans in their distress–not the state. Check out my state’s website at http://nochildwaiting.org/. Find out if the churches in your states are doing the same thing–I know my state isn’t the only one. Our numbers are epidemic: pushing 13,000 in foster care this month. There’s so many ways to meet God’s commands in this area–perhaps this is also someone else’s calling too, so I wanted to share. I believe in the importance of ALL the different methods–overseas, local, emergency, long-term, short-term, etc–because just as God created us all differently, He created different ways to serve Him and glorify Him. Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your heart for Africa–it has been wonderfully challenging and spiritually humbling for me! Sorry to ramble so!

admin - November 6, 2012 - 3:53 pm

Amanda,
Just wanted to reply to your question! There are OVER 2 million orphans in Zambia alone (19% of children under 18 are orphans!)–yet last year only 16 (yes–just SIXTEEN) were adopted out of the country. Orphanages in Zambia do not currently work with adoption agencies–so these 16 families who have adopted from there went there on their own, adopted independently and endured the unknown–as Zambia says you can adopt from them but there is a 3 month foster period where they require parents to live in country with their child. Although both parents are not required to live there for a 3 month period–it can be hard for any family to do this…and the 3 month period isn’t a promise by the government to be in and out…it could be much longer (and on the other hand it could be shorter). With over 2 million orphans–there are also not orphanages in Zambia to house them–so the majority of these kids live on the street. Unless organizations like Wiphan, Lifesong and others like them come along to educate, love and provide shelter for them–they are really on their own. This is the story of many countries in Africa–most will never know a family…and the majority will never even be blessed enough to have space in an orphanage to protect them either…

Callie - November 6, 2012 - 4:56 pm

Hey! Love this post and love your heart….it echoes a lot of what I’ve been feeling and thinking. It’s hard to know what to do when you are in the trenches of motherhood, raising little ones.

I just wanted to share that my husband and I stepped out in faith to start an orphan sponsorship program for street kids in Kinshasa, Congo. We have teamed up with missionaries there who provide for the children’s shelter, food, clothing, care, etc and we have made a way possible for people here in the states to provide for these children to help meet their basic needs. We offer options to sponsor them on a monthly basis or to sponsor them to help pay for their education on a yearly basis. If anyone is interested in more info you can check it out at http://mercysreach.blogspot.com/ The ministry is called Mercy’s Reach.
Thanks for letting me share. We are passionate about providing for these kids!

annie - November 7, 2012 - 3:10 pm

hey! thanks for sharing. i work with orphans in Kenya and it sounds like we have similar adoption rules as Zambia… so few children are internationally adopted here. The Americans I know who have tried have been involved in the process for 2-3 years and are still living in Kenya, waiting. I work for Project 82 Kenya and we just opened a baby rescue center and pray pray pray for God to raise up Kenyans to care for their country’s orphans in their homes. The church is strong here, but there are still full-to-the-brim children’s homes all over the place… approx. 3 million orphans. our ministry keeps older orphans as well, but we try our best to keep the homes small and as family-like as possible. still, finding caregivers to commit their lives to orphans is a hard task. changing moms every year is heart-breaking for the kids. i wish so much for these kids to have families… believing that God wants the same and will provide it! thanks for loving orphans ๐Ÿ™‚

http://www.project82kenya.com

a night out…and a crazy weekend ahead!

It’s a rare day when Rico and I get out…but we had a night out last night with Rico Suave’s side of the family as we celebrated cousin Emily’s SURPRISE 30th birthday (Kevin–you totally rocked it out of the park!). It was such fun hanging out with this crew (Can you find us in the mix??)

LOVE this crew–and so thankful we started our weekend off this way–and so fun seeing Miss Emily surprised by family and friends! (Happy birthday Em!)

Now…we are off to some serious craziness for the weekend–FOR REALS…

…Nutcracker practice for our little mouse this morning…for TWO hours…

…TWO soccer games…followed by trophy ceremonies…followed by team parties…

…loading the van up and zipping 3 hours away for a 5pm wedding…of one of my old EAST ASIA TEAMMATES and college VBFFs…can’t WAIT to see everyone and be back with so many I haven’t gotten to see in YEARS! Here’s a pic of my old team from like 13 years ago!

Top LEFT is getting married TONIGHT! SOOOOO excited for this sweet day!!! This crew became my family for a year of my life overseas–they challenged my walk with the Lord…encouraged me…and we celebrated holidays and shared many laughs!

SUPER EXCITED because I’m staying with my old roomy who shared SO many crazy memories with me!!! We are totally so excited to have ALL our kids together for the FIRST time…we were both in each other’s weddings but life has been crazy for both of us–but TONIGHT we get to have a rocking SLUMBER PARTY but with our whole families!!!

FUNNIEST memory together is definitely this:

What in the world you ask? Well–the government asked what in the world we were really all about–and I told them INTERPRETIVE DANCING was truly our heart;) I tend to get my friends into things–and Blaire-bear was always game to go down with me. I think ministry should always be crazy, fun…don’t you;)?? SO–we performed our interpretive dancing skills for thousands…and even made it on CCTV. You should be impressed;). I mean–THEY were…

Things might get crazy with us together. Blaire and I really wanted to rent one of those Chinese dragon things you see in a parade and come into the reception with a true wedding welcome:). Don’t worry Daniel–we will do no such;)

THEN–tomorrow is ORPHAN SUNDAY…so we’re starting our Sunday at David Platt’s church…then racing back for an Orphan Sunday time of prayer and worship. Here’s the details on HOPE FOR ROSWELL site. I’m so honored to get to lead a little choir of kids who have been changed by foster care or adoption as they sing “This Little Light of Mine”!

AND I’m praying that our case worker finishes our HOME STUDY this weekend!!! Oh my…dying to get that to our agency and off to USCIS!!! So much goodness I might POP! Hoping and praying we have that in our hands early next week!!! Please pray big with us!!! So many hoops to jump through–but we are trying to run hard and just want to do whatever we can to get to our sweet boy as soon as we can!!!

Hope y’all have a great weekend!!!

God is good all the time!

Andrea:)

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Dawn Wright - November 3, 2012 - 9:37 pm

You are crazy fun!!! Love it!

Ashley - November 3, 2012 - 10:15 pm

Aww that sounds like a blast! You all will be sleeping away next week after all of that excitement! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Our family will be praying your adoption papers go smoothly! How is Tetiana (sorry if I misspelled that :/)? I don’t do facebook so I haven’t heard from you about her! We pray for her to so glad she made it home!

Halloween…He’s FOUR…and Thankfulness…

First…our 2012 Halloween must be documented. Here’s the crew in their costumes (imagining what we’ll look like next year with baby Z with us–I can hardly stand it!)…

As you can see–daddy was just daddy. Mommy, however, well…I was a boy-scout courtesy of Parker’s uniform…

THEN…after lots of fun trick-or-treating…our Frankie baby turned 4 TODAY! We have a weekend full of craziness this weekend…and the next…and the next–so we had his preschool friends and a few others over to celebrate on his actual birthday for lunch. He really wanted to have a LEGO party. I whipped out some LEGO fun the night before–and this is the fun we had today…

They colored these…

You can download a printable just like it HERE.

We played pin the head on the Lego man…

For the craft–I decided to let them sponge paint yellow paint to make a LEGO head on a shirt–4 year olds can totally handle sponge painting over a big stencil like this…

Some of the t-shirt masterpieces…

I did my best to create a LEGO cake out of bread pan cakes, marshmallow halves and icing…

Then it was time to sing happy birthday…

Oh.

My heart.

He is now 4.

But still my baby.

Always my baby.

Happy birthday Frankie baby!!! We love you to pieces and more pieces!

We ended our day with our November tradition…starting our Thanksgiving Tree (the one we use now):

Each day we take a leaf (die cut from Hobby Lobby using yellow, orange, red and brown leaves) and each person thinks of ONE thing they are thankful for that day. We write our name on the leaf along with what we are thankful for and add it to the tree. By the end of the month, with our family of 5 we have about 150 leaves full of thankfulness!!! I take the tape off the back at the end of the month, put them in a zip lock bag, write the YEAR on the bag and tuck it away to treasure for always. I simple LOVE getting different years out and reading through them!!! Makes me melt every time!

You can find my step-by-step instructions on how to create your own Thanksgiving Tree on canvas HERE.

If you don’t want to invest in a canvas one this year and you need something really quick–you can make one on Kraft paper. We did this years ago before making our recyclable canvas one that we now use every year. (Here’s the first one we made several years ago…)

blogthankfultree copy

Blessings to you all this Fall season!!!

I’m finding myself feeling all out of sorts as I talk with others…seems to happen to this momma’s heart when I’m waiting for a child across the world. Normal worries VANISH–and I find myself becoming a bit of an alien. I was some where last night and it seemed all the moms were talking about committees they were on…tennis this and that…and all I could think about was how thankful I was to have my 4 children with me–and how I can’t wait to have my 5th one with us too. Ever feel like a fish out of water??? I am thankful for adoption and how it has changed me. I no longer know what jeans are cool to wear, what school district I “should” live in, what neighborhood is the “to be in hood”…all of that–hog wash. It doesn’t matter. What if we spent our lives being concerned with these things??? So–put on your white-washed out-dated jeans, throw your hair on top of your head and if you ever feel like a fish out of water too…you can just come hang out with me. Or you can come volunteer at the next Created for Care retreat cause there are a whole lot of out of water fish there too:)

Off to CHILL before a big full day tomorrow. See why we gotta homeschool?? Not sure how we’d fit all this in otherwise;). Sure–my kids probably won’t be scientists or…whatever it is genius folk do—but we will have fully lived…and THAT is ALL that matters:)

xoxo,

andrea

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Jennifer Jones - November 2, 2012 - 8:50 am

As soon as I master (copy) one of your adorable craft ideas, you come up with another one! ๐Ÿ™‚
We are loving the Fall Bucket List so I’m sure I’ll attempt this one too. But seriously, if you just took orders, it would be so much easier!
And I’ve become that fish out water happily flopping right next to you on dry land. For example – last summer I was at a luncheon with some sweet ladies, but all that was talked about was brand name purses, sunglasses and what to buy for someone’s birthday. I blurted out, “you know for the same about of money that you would spend on that purse, you could rescue 3 girls out of a brothel in India through IJM.”
I haven’t been invited back.
๐Ÿ™‚

Natalie - November 2, 2012 - 3:17 pm

My heart longs to adopt and maybe that’s why I already feel a bit like a fish out of water… I don’t know (or care) what’s trendy. I do know that I love my family and I love God’s plan for us… wherever that takes us! Thanks for the Thankful Tree idea! I like that much better than using actual sticks for the tree! Have a wonderful weekend!

Contessa - November 5, 2012 - 1:19 pm

I DO know what you are feeling! I won’t go into details because it probably wouldn’t be holy thoughts, but I can relate and I just try and focus on God having ME in this situation right now whereas they might be working on other areas. We finally received our written referral for our two little guys after verbally accepting them a week and a half earlier! So glad to be on this roller coaster with you. Blessings

Stacy - November 6, 2012 - 8:42 am

We lost a referral a few weeks ago for twin boys. Even though our hearts were absolutley broken, we know that God is in control. But, I do so often feel like a fish out of water, because I but don’t relate to people some days. Thankful for the three kiddos that we have right now, but really longing to know who we have been waiting for all this time! Thanks for sharing your heart. Made me feel more “normal” today! ๐Ÿ™‚

The home study paper chase…DONE!

Just a little China update!!!

Called the agency on October 1st to inquire about our son. (Although we had to wait for approval from our LOI to officially be matched…we wasted NO TIME…and stepped out in faith to start our home study AGAIN!)

Approval came…so while we were riding Splash Mountain–we were officially matched on October 10th!

Turned in our LAST home study paper chase documents on October 24th (LAST THURSDAY!).

Nowwww…we just wait for our final home study to be written…and then it’s off to USCIS! From there we will wait for yet again more fingerprints. And while we wait–we’ll be working on our dossier.

Once we get USCIS approval–then we’ll have our dossier sent off to China–where we will await a LID (log-in date) and which will start our wait for more very important letter abbreviations…each bringing us closer to our son:) It’s gonna be a long haul–but we are praying for miracles along the way!!!

VERY thankful to be done with home study paper chase!!! Now…waiting anxiously to have that bad boy in my hands and you all will be the first to know when its SHIPPED OFF to our agency AND USCIS!!! Praying for mountains to be moved and that we won’t have to wait over a year to finally see our sweet boy!!! BUT we know lots and lots who wait well over that…so we just have to put it in His hands and trust in His perfect timing!!!

Alright…that’s all for now.

xoxo!

andrea

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Dawn Wright - October 29, 2012 - 11:13 pm

Gotta love logging trees and getting cuts ;). YEA!!!! More steps are done…..and can’t wait to see God work through the rest! HE IS ABLE and …..I still totally stink at the waiting part. ugh.

Amy - October 29, 2012 - 11:13 pm

Yay!!! So excited for you all!!! We just brought our youngest home from China this summer… Praying for all those abbreviations to be swift – I think we were around 10months with a VERY slow HS. Lots of prayers for this newest little one ๐Ÿ™‚

Kristin - October 30, 2012 - 2:31 pm

How awesome! I know how you feel to be done with all the paperwork, it’s crazy. We are adopting from China, just sent off I800a today and should be traveling in May!

Cara from PA - October 30, 2012 - 8:34 pm

That is Awesome!!!

I wanna be a follower…

Today was one of those days.

Seriously. One of those.

We all slept in…accidentally–kind of…when Rico Suave is out of town–it seems to happen more often:). I jumped up at 8am–jumped in the shower…and I remembered Rich telling me on the phone the night before that the pest control guy would be here between 8am and 9:30. But SERIOUSLY…when are those guys EVER on time!?! I’d about had it with fruit flies–tried every remedy with honey, apple cider vinegar and soap–and finally…Rich had called in the big dawgs. But surely they wouldn’t show up at 8am.

Not so much.

Parker who has been coached to never open the doors to strangers recognized the pest guy who has been our faithful sprayer for 8 years now (I have a serious issue with bugs–so although we don’t see them…I have them come monthly–maybe that’s why we never see them;)…and apparently he is not considered a stranger so he was welcomed on in. Scary…but nice. And you can rest assured we called them for the fruit flies cause mom was done with her traps (thanks to my Facebook friends for their rockin’ suggestions–but because we homeschool…apparently my fruit flies are smarter than your fruit flies…HAHAHA). And old faithful rang the doorbell at 8am…surprise, surprise…AND JUST as I had gotten my hair drenched in the shower. I would have ignored it–but the alarm was going off. Hmmmmm…this really isn’t the way to start your day is it???

I got dressed soaking wet–showed him where the enemy fruit flies were–and ran upstairs because on my way down I smelled something serious coming from the kids bathroom. Our youngest was now running around with no pants on–and we are potty training…so he wanted to make me proud…he took his pull-up off HIMSELF although it was quite full (of you know what)…tried to sit on the potty ANY WAY to make me think he’d gone in the potty–and smeared you know what all over the toilet. And it’s just 8am. The rest of my day kinda went like that–and it only seems to happen when Rico is out of town…and of course when you really need to be doing something like making copies of all your home study stuff so you can turn it in…YES–we need more kids;). Now many will look into our lives and call us crazy…or foolish…or maybe even having a “special calling”. I’ll take the crazy. I’ll take the foolish. But our calling is no different than any believers. We are just trying to follow Jesus. For us–growing again is following Him.

I’ve been thinking about something today because I had a really bad attitude throughout my day. I struggled with peace. I struggled with joy. I struggled with doing the right thing and saying the right thing in love when I was tired and completely on edge…most of my day. I remembered at about 3pm that the kids had Awanas tonight—and tonight was the Grand Prix Derby…and all I had was a 2x2x7 pine block and 4 wheels. Rich was out of town. And I had 4 little sets of eyes looking up at me…with the oldest saying, “Mom, I really want to have a car tonight to race.”

I got out the hand saw–and it didn’t work so well. SO…I got out a power saw–a big daddy–and praise the Lord (not saying this lightly!) that I didn’t cut a finger off. That messed up Laney’s 2x2x7—but my sweet kids said they’d share. I got out another saw–and did a pretty ratty job. 15 minutes before game time–I was spray painting it black…and withholding saying some words I was feeling in my heart. It wasn’t pretty. As I carved that car, I thought about the Carpenter I follow. I was honest with my kids and told them how badly I wanted to do this for them–but how I wasn’t that good at sawing…but we’d do the best we could–and we would probably not come in first–but we needed to keep the main thing the main thing…and we learned something and did it together.

Our car didn’t even finish. Nope. He stopped dead center on the track. If you are my friend on Facebook–you need to go to my wall right now and watch the moment for yourself.

I wanted to be frustrated over a silly car…to be frustrated that I often have to fly solo during the week…how in the WORLD would we do this beautifully with more? THIS is real life–and it’s also things like these that are whispered into our ears from the enemy to keep us from being disciples of Jesus.

When we are disciples of Jesus–we come to Him with our daily frustrations, and we dig in His word…and when we can’t dig because we are so frustrated…we BATHE in it…yes…do whatever you can whether it’s reading the psalms or just going to the internet and pulling up read aloud scripture and laying down to listen. The enemy’s mission is clear in our daily lives. It’s to steal, kill and destroy…scripture says that…so when you feel those tensions and frustrations rising–the enemy is at work…and we have 2 choices to blow as the enemy wants us to–OR to follow Him.

After I listened to scripture tonight–because I needed to bathe in it…I was reflecting on what it really means to FOLLOW JESUS…

There can be a vast difference in knowing who Jesus is, believing Jesus is who He says He is and being a follower of Jesus. I really want to live a life not only knowing who He is, believing He is who He says He is–but REALLY following Jesus. You can know who He is and not be a follower of Jesus. You can also believe Jesus is who He says He is and still not be His disciple. When Jesus told men to follow him–some would say, “Absolutely–but…hold up. I need to go tell my family what’s up–I’m all about it…I WANT to…BUT I need to do this first…” Jesus responded in a sense to this with “never mind.” He didn’t say, “Of course–go work it all out and follow me when you can or when it’s convenient or when everything makes sense and you feel ready.” He meant and He STILL MEANS for us to drop everything when we hear His voice…when we KNOW what He would want us to do…and to follow. “Apologize? But I want them to first…because they were in the wrong,” we say…”I am merited in my feelings–and I need to just say how I feel so HE/SHE understands,” we think…but this isn’t how Jesus or His disciples live. So how can we be His disciple and not immediately follow? I want to follow. Following Him will often look crazy, not make sense, not be convenient and will even look foolish. It will often be full of temptation, warfare and loneliness. Being His disciple in this century will not be any easier than that of His disciples in the Bible. We should expect all the same hardships–but we should also expect the future joy of dining as His table and living forever in His presence. It has very little to showing up on Sunday like many in our culture might believe–I’m not sure His disciples ever did that or if they’d be at my church on Sunday…but instead it has everything to do with living in His presence and daily following Him no matter the crazy or the cost. I want to follow Him—and following Him is never easy–whether you are a stay-at-home mom in a small town or a missionary in the Congo.

Today I messed up a lot. And I had to say I was sorry a lot. I need to die to myself more. As I really want to follow Him. Pray for me that I will follow…and as I sister in Christ–I’m praying for anyone who happens to read this…that He will also give you strength for those who also want to follow.

In His grace,

Andrea

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Sarah - October 25, 2012 - 12:13 pm

Thank you, Andrea, for this post (and for all of your other ones, really!)!! It spoke to my heart and was exactly what this first year homeschooling momma needed to hear today! Sometimes the days can be overwhelming and the enemy does whisper “you have no business doing this, look what a failure you are,” but in God’s sweet words He reminds me that He has given me these two precious littles to love and to guide, and that He chose ME for this. No one else. That just makes me smile and know that even in the messiness of life, there is beauty and purpose. Glory be to God!! Praying blessings over you and your family.

Ashley - October 25, 2012 - 1:44 pm

You are exactly right a FOLLOWER of Jesus! I needed to hear that today, well every day really! I’ll be praying for you my sister! The devil is always trying to get us down, but Jesus will always lift us up!
God Bless!

P.S. sorry I did chuckle at the poopy incident…I’m sure I’ll have one of those stories one day!

Kelly - October 25, 2012 - 3:10 pm

Totally encouraged by this today. We are in our first year of homeschooling with a 3rd grader, 1st grader and 3 year old. And added a newborn October 5th! The days (and nights)are long right now, but filled with many small moments of joy, family and sacrifice. It’s easy to doubt our decisions when it’s hard, but prayer and God’s word confirms that we are right where we are supposed to be, different, crazy and blessed! And God has put adoption on our hearts as well, praying for the strength to continue to trust and obey. Thank you for your honesty and encouragement!

Denise Reynolds - October 26, 2012 - 4:13 pm

Andrea,

Thank you, thank you for this post! I laughed ’til I cried remembering similar days in my 20+ years as a blessed-but-sometimes-harried stay-at-home mom. What precious and humbling memories!

I’m so grateful, too, for your finish to your post. I think I’ll probably print your words and tape them to the wall that STILL doesn’t have a bulletin board on it. I want more than anything to be a follower. That desire to do WHATEVER the Lord puts before us has put my husband and me in an odd position during the past few months. We already have 12 children (nine of them older adoptees from Russia), and yet the Lord has another sibling group of four for us. We’re so close to finishing this adoption that we’re praying for a court date back in in Russia again before Thanksgiving.

The craziness in this situation isn’t JUST that we’ll be the parents of 16, but that I’ve had major health problems this year. We’ve returned to the Lord again and again thinking we must have misheard. However, He just keeps whispering, “Go…trust Me.”

So, your post truly encouraged me by reminding me that following Him often looks completely crazy…sometimes even to other Christians. But He is God. He is good. And never once has he ever left us (love that same song you cherish)!

(BTW, we’re friends of Russ and Heather Nordstrom.)

Thanks again for this post!

God bless you richly, Andrea!
Denise

bobi bobbitt - October 29, 2012 - 4:43 pm

Thank you for your transparency, Andrea. As a blog reader, I read alot of blogs written by mothers. I have to admit, that many times I feel that I just will never be the perfect Mom like “they” are… thank you for keeping it real and not just sharing the good times but the times when things arent going the way you would choose for them to. I SO needed to hear this as I myself have been struggling with alot of doubt and fear lately in how will I ever manage four children, when I just can’t seem to get it all together with the three I have now? As well as worrying what others may be thinking when they see what a busy and full life we have now with our three boys (Do they think we are being “foolish” to take on another?) Thank you for reminding me that as followers of Christ, what he calls us to do is usually not going to be easy but He will provide where we are lacking. I love you, sweet friend!