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Because of Him…you can do this.

Have you ever had a full plate–and it just seemed or felt like it was just too much?

Look at the portions individually…and each looked exciting and tackle-able. (Is that even a word?) But all together–it would take a miracle to handle well. God will never give you more than you can handle is a quote–NOT a verse in scripture. It actually never appears once in His Word. Because–when you follow Jesus…I think most of the time–He will give you God-sized portions on your plate…because they are not yours to carry. They are not yours to bear. They are not yours to heal. They are not yours to fix. They are not yours to encourage. They are not yours to get praise for.

They are His.

Right now, I feel like a little girl with pig tails standing in front of a big God–with a massive charger instead of a plate…with Alice In Wonderland size portions much too big for me to take to the table with me. While the temptation is to ask others would they like my cake or a portion of this or that…I realize it’s only been made heavy…this plate–by my choosing to carry too much of it myself.

That little girl with pig tails and rain boots much too big to run in–instead of waddling to my place and looking at this plate with heaviness…is choosing today to stand before the Lord in a new way…lifting her plate high…and trusting Him with each portion. Each portion placed there by Him…for Him…and only shaped through Him. They were never given for her to carry or shape herself…and on busy days especially…the mere sight of them will make them feel much to heavy to carry. (But she only sees the portions when she lets the plate come down…because when she is holding the plate of her portions high–it is only Him she can see.)

Do you ever feel like her?

Other voices, opinions, hearts and even dear ones will try to tell her how each portion should be shaped. She will be tempted to listen and act. Listening is okay–but that little girl needs to also remember to run back to her Father…stand before Him in those big rain boots and ask Him about what she has heard. And then…only then act. He is enough for her. He who called her will equip her. When she doesn’t listen to all the voices and shape the portions how others think they should be shaped–some will talk, point and shake their heads. She will be tempted to let this shape her own heart…but as long as she keeps looking up at her Father…seeing Him nod His head reminding her of His voice…reminding her of His call…reminding her that she can do this–that He believes in her and that He is right there…beside her–helping her…working through her…as long as she looking to Him–those portions will not only be loved well–but loved beautifully.

His yoke is easy–His burden is light…because He is the one carrying it as you walk beside Him.

And some how–with Him…that little girl with pig tails and rain boots much too big for her–can even run with that plate lifted high…

And with the running…it doesn’t mean she will never stumble or that mountains or cliffs or valleys or water will never be before her…but with each one–He will be there. She won’t have to scream or call out even…because He is RIGHT there beside her. All she has to do is look up and say, “Daddy…which way should be go from here? I’ll do whatever you say…”

He knew what He was doing when He called you to carry that plate before you…those portions are not yours–but His…and He has a plan for each and every one. One day at a time…that’s all we are to look at–and to run well just today. Be encouraged. He is enough. He called you. And His plan for your portions are perfect.

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Beth Templeton - February 4, 2013 - 2:40 pm

So glad this song speaks to you too Andrea! I love the picture of God shaping the portions we have, rather than ourselves or others. It is so true that He is right there when we fall– we don’t have to clean ourselves up first, or “get our act together.” So good! I think you are carrying your God-shaped portions beautifully!

Mimi Elmer - February 4, 2013 - 4:04 pm

Thank you so much for posting this message today! You have no idea how bad I needed to hear it today! My daugther is almost four weeks old and I am loving every minute that I am able to be home with her while on maternity leave. That being said I am feeling extremely hormonal and exhausted and was having just a rough day until I read your post. God knows what we need even we don’t. Have a blessed day!
Mimi

Rachelle - February 4, 2013 - 4:55 pm

I love this. I admire the way you handle your portions. I can relate to how others try to shape them. Lovely post Andrea.

Shaina - February 5, 2013 - 12:13 pm

I couldn’t agree more!! I used to love that quote “God will never give you anything you can’t handle”…. Until I really thought about it! I think He wants to give us all sorts of things we can’t handle, so HE can show Himself mighty on our behalf!! On our strength we can do nothing…. but we can do ALL things through HIM who strengthens us!
Thanks for sharing your heart on this blog- He is definitely using your words!

Sara - February 6, 2013 - 1:10 am

I’ve been coming to the same realization lately. It came on so slowly that I didn’t even realize it was happening – taking on everything all by myself and feeling hopeless and helpless all the time. What freedom comes when we hand the heaping tray over to Him. Lovely post. Thank you. 🙂

january…

it’s been a full january…and we have 1 of 2 created for care adoption momma retreats under our belts. IT WAS ANOTHER AMAZING RETREAT! we had tona ottinger, carissa woodwyk and amy monroe share during the main sessions and about 20 AMAZING mommas come share for breakouts. it really was an amazing retreat.

the day before the retreat began AND again the day the retreat began–our agency sent not ONE but TWO new videos of little zeke! oh my heart. so full. (IT HAD BEEN 4 months since we saw the last update!!!) so much to miss in 4 months. every day–how i wish i could have been there. oh hum. BUT–the good…oh there is so much good! he is doing great. growing–still a tiny little thing. he can say MAMA and point to the camera…and the sweet caregivers now know that his momma is the one on the other side of the video watching so they are constantly trying to get him to say “mama” in the videos. sweetness. he is loved BIG at his orphanage–kissed on his big, chunky cheeks and he has the sweetest most tender smile. he is very shy and quiet–and very, very cautious in every movement he makes. we are thinking we will travel in summer–but my heart is still praying for a big miracle in MAY. oh pretty please, Lord???

the children started at a homeschool hybrid this january–and they LOVE it…and i confess i love having a few hours to myself on Monday and Wednesday while they are there and the babes are in preschool. it is the first time in almost 9 years i have had a few hours to myself twice a week–and i wish i could say i’m being very productive in that time…instead–for right now…i’m just enjoying the stillness of that time. i needed it.

my heart has been LONGING (all caps longing!) for little zeke–but daily i know his timing is perfect. isaac asked me last night, “why can’t we bring him home now?” i thought that was a GREAT question. red tape. hoops. the world never makes sense. so much of all of it doesn’t make sense…all along the journey. but we will wait as long as we have to–and just anticipate when we are all together. i remember this ache with isaac. i remember someone visiting him in the orphanage for me and telling me how they truly sensed the power of the Holy Spirit–and i know the Lord was with isaac. i must rest knowing that the Lord is caring for our zeke…that He is enough…that we can trust Him in our wait.

as i drank my coffee thinking about this…out of no where–isaac came to sing this to me and i just happen to capture it. such a beautiful reminder from the one who i once ached and longed for across the world…here now–encouraging me and affirming that the Lord has our son in His hands…

now…off to rest and listen to my new favorite song by candi shelton…”restoration is your song”…I LOVE.

blessings to you. HE IS ENOUGH.

andrea

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Shaina - January 31, 2013 - 1:15 am

Believing with you for a miracle! Can’t wait to ‘meet’ sweet little Zeke!

Elizabeth N. - January 31, 2013 - 12:35 pm

Oh how you sweet boy touch my heart today! My husband and I are awaiting the birth of our sweet boy in May through adoption. Thank you for your blog and the song …MADE MY DAY!!!

Andrea S. - January 31, 2013 - 4:33 pm

I have been reading your blog for over 2 years, but never taken the time to comment, though often I am blown away by what we seem to have in common. So, today I end my blog-stalking! I remember laying on the couch in pre-term labor with my twins and my 2 year old daughter got her plastic guitar and started singing that song to me. It was God’s perfect message for me that day.

a quick update!

Just wanted to let those of you praying for the host children I recently posted about know some BIG, EXCITING news! Edgars now has a family!!! I’ve been communicating with her–and we are going to help them fundraise as they recently just completed another international adoption and will need support from others to make it happen quickly! His mom is going to be sharing their story and we are going to share how you can surround their sweet family as they step out in faith to bring this boy home!!! YAY!!! God is so good! Thank you so much for praying and for everyone who shared his story and advocated for him!

ALSO–one of my precious adoption mom friends is stepping out in faith with her family to bringing another one of the sweet NHFC kiddos I posted about! Viktors! He is so precious–and they will actually be able host him this summer while they are taking the steps toward adoption! Can’t wait for his mom to also share her story here and you can also support their family in bringing their sweet boy home!

I’ve been hearing from the other host moms of these sweet ones–several who STILL need families–so please continue to pray for them! You can read that post HERE. I can’t say enough about the program New Horizons. SO MANY of these children are up for hosting BUT NOT wanting to be adopted at first because they have heard all kinds of crazy rumors and of course have fears about loss and what family might be like. The hosting program is amazing because you get to host one of these kids for 5 weeks in your home, love on them, show them a family’s love and the love of Christ–and then they realize what family is…and that although they’ve grown up in orphanages…they now would love to be adopted and take a risk in being loved. Many have shut down in order to protect their hearts–but you see them come alive again as they are in your home. Most of these children are adoptable–and can be adopted by your family after hosting! If your family doesn’t meet guidelines for adopting (Ukraine requires a 15 year age gap and Latvia 18 year age gap)–you can still host so they don’t spend the summer or holiday on the streets while the orphanages close but advocate for these children and help find families while you love them BIG. Just like Viktors and Edgars–their host families took a risk knowing they couldn’t adopt–it’s really like fostering…pouring in knowing it’s not forever although your HEART wishes it could be…yet these families opened their homes and advocated for them and now they have found forever families! Some are called to host…some to adopt…and some to support in some way.

If you would like more information on any of the past hosted children OR if you would like more information on hosting this summer, please contact New Horizons for Children through their website here: http://www.newhorizonsforchildren.org/

Last but not least…in our family news–our documents are DTC!!! Which means–our dossier has finally gone to CHINA!!! Another step closer in bringing our boy home!!! Now we wait for our LID (log-in date) and then we’ll hold our breath for the looooong wait for the LOA (which will mean our sweet boy is officially ours and we will be able to share his pictures with you!). AFTER that…we’ll have more paperwork to do (FUN!). Wait on more USCIS stuff…thankfully no prints required for that one. THEN we will wait for a few more pieces of paper–and then travel dates. My case worker kindly and carefully told me to pack away my hopes of seeing Zeke in May by his birthday. She sent me websites where I can send him a birthday party package, cake and cameras to document it for us–and she said June or July is more realistic. I asked if I could still pray for a May miracle? She said I could–but to protect my heart and try to think June or July. Going out on a crazy limb here–and asking y’all to pray with me for May anyway;). Will you? Oh I just want him in my arms on the month he turns 2!!!

Alrighty y’all…I have to get back to retreat planning! Less than 1 week away from the first Created for Care Retreat of 2013!

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Karen Twombly - January 19, 2013 - 7:09 am

Of course I’ll pray for a May homecoming!! I know God wants us to pray boldly!! With man these things are impossible, but nothing is impossible with GOD!!!
~Karen Twombly

Joli - January 19, 2013 - 11:33 am

Hey Andrea! Joli here (mama to 5, going on 6 – 4 of whom are from China)…I’ve always heard that it is fine to post pictures after you receive PA. ?!?!??

Hannah - January 21, 2013 - 1:02 am

hi andrea, i just LOVE your blog and have actually been following for a couple of years now. 🙂 my husband and i are adopting a little girl from Uganda. right now, we are waiting for a court date to travel. our girl turns two in June. I too want so badly to meet her before her 2nd birthday!! I share your heart, and just wanted to tell you. 🙂 hannah

I will not be moved… {Standing firm as you step forward in ministry}

I sink my heels in and move the dirt back and forth.

I press the weight into each foot as I slowly grind my feet back and forth.

The waters have come–there’s no doubting from where–and while I’m tempted to cover my eyes and scream, “Just tell me when it is over!” or run and find a place to sleep until it passes–there’s something in me that just says, “STAND.”

Stand firm.

So I will.

I can feel the dirt on both sides of my feet…and I call out to my Creator.

You have this, Lord.

You have had it from the beginning. When I became Yours–You lifted the yoke–and it freed me to stand.

Now I stand firm.

And I will not be moved.

We often talk of heaven. We often talk of God. We often talk of His strength–and His goodness–and how He always makes a way. And He does. Because that is my King.

But just as my Creator, my King, my Savior–just as my Lord is real–so is the enemy. Oh wait? I think someone just decided to stop reading. Andrea’s starting to talk about crazy stuff. Let’s not talk about that. But the truth is–there is an enemy–and he is just as real. And there is a constant battle that the eyes can’t see. And if you don’t constantly feel it–then you actually have more at risk than you might think.

Epheisians 6:11-13, “Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.”

Saturday–I was sitting watching my oldest son play basketball. It’s not a good season folks. Their defense…well–it stinks. I know nothing about basketball, but if you aren’t guarding your man when it’s your turn to defend…he scores. And if defends well–well…you don’t score. I don’t get all the rules of the game, but I get that. And worse than that–if you sit the bench…you aren’t a threat…and no one on the other team has to guard you at all.

There’s only one worse position to play when you team’s not playing well–and it’s the bench.

As believers who are saying yes to the calls of Christ–you will probably consistently feel the battle. While we want to just dribble in our driveway and play Horse by ourselves, that won’t be the game as one of His you are called to play. The heat will be brought on. You’ll be knocked down. You have to know the one playing against you is real–and today–I’m standing firm. I’m talking smack. This game is on.

Every year it seems we are called to crazy things by the Lord.

Our work in Africa through Wiphan has been full of trials–yet He is going to win this. It hasn’t been without tears…a teacher gone bad, a director gone mad, and the one fighting with us–my husband held him during his last days and picked out his casket with his wife as we watched and wondered and asked why together. Yet–450 orphans and 150 widows…still there…still learning about Christ…still worth the fight. We will not be moved.

May 2011–feeling the Lord calling our family to adoption again–we stepped out in faith…jumped through every hoop…and on the final step waiting on our home study discovered my fatigue was due to a stinkin’ tick that had bit me in my driveway a year earlier. Adoption on hold…but the smack talk and the trust in God’s plan…oh this game stayed on although to many it looked like a rough game…as I lost my sight in one eye and my joints felt like I was 90. Genesis 50:20, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done.” My body is healed. My vision is 20/15–better than perfect–and we are bringing home a most precious little boy from China with epilepsy who has waited much to long for a family.

But it’s game time…and I’m in–and I’m not alone. I have the Lord fighting for me–a heavenly host of angels protecting me–the truth showered over me.

Three and a half years ago, I felt the Lord speak to my heart and tell me to step out in faith and prepare a place of rest for moms trusting Him in the journey of adoption, foster care and orphan care. All 3 different things, but at the heart of all 3—His precious children that needed to know His love and care. Jesus has a special place in His heart for children–He says so in His Word. You start caring for these…you go from little league to the MBA baby. And it’s ON.

Last year I felt it. At the Created for Care retreat that I thought would minister to 25 moms–now ministers to almost 1,000 every year–all through His power, His strength and His purpose–I felt it. Between sessions I ran back to my room as I was the sickest I’ve ever been with my body fighting Lymes. Several of those that serve with me gave me the okay and grace to just leave…sit this game out–but I recognized what the real battle was…and although some times we ARE called to rest…I knew this one was to be fought through. After the retreat, although still battling Lyme–we felt the Lord call us to host. Say YES to more God? Did you see that we had to hire help because the weight of my toddlers is too heavy for my defeated, weakened joints? And over and over, my husband and I both heard in our hearts, TRUST ME. I HAVE THIS. We signed up to host a precious child about to age out of the Ukrainian orphanage system–and just days before her arrival–I was completely and miraculously HEALED. Yep–I even signed up to run a 5K. (Don’t kid yourself–I didn’t really run it…I’m not a runner. But that’s how good I felt and still do!). The tests were clear. And I was given more than enough energy to rock it out and add another one that needed 10 times as much attention as my 4 littles did. All supplied by Him–for the game He was calling me to.

The battle was real–and it always is.

And here it is again.

Just 10 days before another retreat.

My family all got the flu during the entire holidays when I normally get everything done. After we came up for air and I was ready to get my planning on–our doctor found spirochetes (the Lyme bacteria) in my 4 year old. Low blow dude. Don’t mess with my kids. The enemy knows where to strike at game time. Same week–someone took a large sum of money from our family. Same time–All the rental costs went up for the retreats making us about 5k under–times 2 for 2 retreats…leaving this momma to hear, “Are you a moron Andrea?” but really–it’s just ON. The battle is real. We have seen the Lord work greatly every retreat…and our man-to-man defender doesn’t like it.

Because let me tell you–the Lord does GREAT things at these retreats. Every year we start out about this much UNDER. We know we could charge more and have the ladies pay for it–but we feel we want to keep the cost lower to make it easier for them to come. To rest. And to ease their path to come. We play this part of the game differently–just because we feel called to. He always get it. He always covers it. And we just play hard–selling products, negotiating prices, thanking volunteers, partnering with others to play big/play hard with us, and watching Him do wonders!

An email from a husband saying his family is now different–his wife has the energy to pour pack in…and she is loving her children in a new way. He just emailed to let us know something changed–and his family’s life is changed. Another email from a mom telling us the first time she ever heard worship music was at Created for Care–and now she starts her morning with her children “getting their worship on” and she is now teaching her children about Christ and experiencing a new relationship with Him that she never knew could be so deep and real or possible. A note from mom who wanted to give up–who couldn’t connect with her children who said they didn’t want her for a mom and they wanted their ‘real’ mom even though she was behind bars–determined to love and love and love some more…because the love from Him will cover all things. And she knows it won’t be easy, but she’s loving differently–and she can tell they see it, feel it and are responding to it.

Oh yes. The enemy wants us to sit the bench…but the Lord is saying, “STAY IN THE GAME. I GOT THIS. And not that you want to know the end before the beginning–but you are on My team. And guess what? I win.”

Oh yes. I’m lacing up some ugly black and red high tops. (Man–do they make some ugly basketball shoes!) But I’m lacing up–and I’m lacing them tight. I’m moving my weight back and forth. I’m ready. And I’m standing firm. I know the rules. I’m passing hard and fast. Oh yes–my gear is on. From head to toe. I’m in this game. And I won’t be moved.

My son might take a hit–but he will be healed. We might take a financial loss–but my God in some way will restore. We might get sick–but He will use it for His good purpose. One adoption might be put on hold–but it will be for His goodness and for His glory–and I will fly home soon with my son. The enemy will try to bring on fear–but I have nothing to fear.

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10)

There’s room on this team.

Always room on His team.

And the bench–it’s safe. But it’s the last place you want to be.

Oh yes–and Aslan…that Coach…our King, our Father, our Redeemer…is HE safe? Heck no. His plays are outright radical and crazy and they’ll make you scratch your head wondering if you should sit this one out. You’ll hear the whispers that there’s just no way. You’ll be faked, tricked and fouled left and right. His game isn’t ever safe. But He and His plans and His purposes–oh…they are good.

He will fight for you. He will go before you. Whatever you are facing–as you get in the game…know that He’s got this. You are just called to sink your feet in, trust in God, and stand firm.

Psalm 62

Truly my soul finds rest in God;
my salvation comes from Him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
He is my fortress, I will never be shaken.
How long will you assault me?
Would all of you throw me down—
this leaning wall, this tottering fence?
Surely they intend to topple me
from my lofty place;
they take delight in lies.
With their mouths they bless,
but in their hearts they curse.
Yes, my soul, find rest in God;
my hope comes from Him.
Truly He is my rock and my salvation;
He is my fortress, I will not be shaken.
My salvation and my honor depend on God;
He is my mighty rock, my refuge.
Trust in Him at all times, you people;
pour out your hearts to Him,
for God is our refuge.
Surely the lowborn are but a breath,
the highborn are but a lie.
If weighed on a balance, they are nothing;
together they are only a breath.
Do not trust in extortion
or put vain hope in stolen goods;
though your riches increase,
do not set your heart on them.
One thing God has spoken,
two things I have heard:
“Power belongs to you, God,
and with you, Lord, is unfailing love”;
and, “You reward everyone
according to what they have done.”

Trust in Him. He has got whatever is before you! Follow Him–and know He always, always, always goes before you.

Your sister in Christ,

Andrea

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Allison - January 14, 2013 - 12:24 pm

Thank you, Andrea! This really ministered to my heart this morning. We feel God calling us to say “yes” to something that is yet to be a reality. Our hands are tied right now. We are on the bench, ready to play, and but begging God to say “it’s your turn!” Just having to wait on His timing right now and His will. It is hard, but so good to be reminded that He’s got this and He goes before us and hems us in behind. Have you heard the new Chris Tomlin song, “Whom Shall I Fear?”. Stop what you are doing and listen right now! Here is a link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qOkImV2cJDg

Allison 🙂

Megan - January 14, 2013 - 12:42 pm

I’ve never met you, Andrea, but I’m cheering you on! I pray you feel encouraged and energized as the Lord walks you through each trial and strengthens you to do His work. You’re an inspiration!

Lauren Casper - January 14, 2013 - 12:44 pm

praying praying praying!!!!!! <3 <3 <3

Elizabeth Nichols - January 14, 2013 - 1:00 pm

Just wanted to say thank you for your honesty!!! My husband and I have had a tough two years but God was always there even when I wondered why he was silent. The week of Christmas we were matched with a amazing birthmom in our adoption process. With our sweet boy due in May I cannot wait to sign up for the conference for next year and I am praying I will have several other mamas with me who are feeling the call to adopt. Thanks for your continued encouragement…you are AWESOME:)

Kaylyn - January 14, 2013 - 1:30 pm

Oh, friend, I am sobbing reading this. tears of JOY over what God is doing through you, tears of felt pain, because I feel that same struggle here too, tears of hope!!! Praying over you now more than ever as I know personally how C4C has changed my life and I am forever thankful!

Amy - January 14, 2013 - 2:02 pm

Thank you for allowing God to use your struggles (and triumphs) to speak truth into so many others! I needed this word today! Praying for God’s provision … can’t wait to see how He shows up at the retreat in less than two weeks!

Amber - January 14, 2013 - 2:59 pm

Ohh how beautiful!!! Thanks for sharing your heart!! Lots of love!

Carrie - January 14, 2013 - 4:49 pm

Today, I worked out for the first time since my Lyme diagnosis (after 7 months of being misdiagnosed). This month, my husband and I are dedicating ourselves to praying specifically and seeking God’s plan for how to start our family. My heart longs to adopt, even if we can beat the infertility odds.
Game on! 🙂
Psalm 3:3
Lord, how many are my foes!
How many rise up against me!
Many are saying of me,
“God will not deliver him.”
But you, Lord, are a shield around me,
my glory, the One who lifts my head high.
I call out to the Lord,
and he answers me from his holy mountain.
I lie down and sleep;
I wake again, because the Lord sustains me.
I will not fear though tens of thousands
assail me on every side.
Arise, Lord!
Deliver me, my God!
Strike all my enemies on the jaw;
break the teeth of the wicked.
From the Lord comes deliverance.
May your blessing be on your people.

Dawn Wright - January 14, 2013 - 5:51 pm

PRAYING HARD for your family!

Again I say REJOICE because the enemy has reason to attack you. He has seen your coach and HE WILL WIN!!!!

Jessica - January 14, 2013 - 8:54 pm

Just what I needed-a true message from God. When we follow Him, He will almost certainly lead us where the water is too deep for us to tread alone so that we will depend on Him. Let us not listen to the enemy’s lies that we are in too deep for Jesus, but instead, cling to the one that has already one this battle and will keep us afloat.

Rachel Goode @ Heirs with Christ - January 15, 2013 - 1:29 pm

Yes, STAND FIRM!
The conference last year ministered to me ALL YEAR LONG. And I cannot wait for the next several days to pass so I can be there again. Praise God for all He does through His weak vessels!! Thank you for your obedience. I’m blessed by it, as are all the C4C women and everyone else your life touches.

jenny - January 15, 2013 - 3:05 pm

Andrea, your words have resonated so deeply with me today! I’ve been journaling about this very thing lately and am so encouraged by this post!! thank you for sharing! As Rachel said, we are so blessed by your obedience!

Shaina - January 16, 2013 - 9:18 am

Thank you, sweet sister, for sharing these powerful words. I am praying for your family- standing with you and rejoicing that we are more than overcomers in Him who has overcome the world. The same power that raised Christ from the grave dwells in you! I am excited to follow along and read about all the beautiful things our Father does in and through your sweet family! Blessings!!

Kathie Williams - January 16, 2013 - 11:23 pm

Oh Andrea, LOVE this post! Needed your words today. I’m not a tattoo kind of gal–but if I ever get one it would be this post (in a really little font). Okay, perhaps just “I will not be moved” in a really pretty script. 🙂

We are also adopting (from China) and are feeling a bit beaten up. There are days that I want God to let me rest on the bench a while, days that I wonder if I’m cut out to play at all. Spiritual warfare is real–I have seen it, I have felt it, I have fought it.

I’m standing with you now–ugly high tops and all. Yes, game on! I’ll be at C4C next week and can’t wait to give you a hug. Thank you for your courage and your obedience. I’m praying for God’s provision in all situations and healing for your son. Much love to you!

Could one of these be yours?

As the New Horizon for Children hosting program comes to a close, these precious children are preparing to return to their orphanages in Latvia. MANY of the children hosted by their families will be adopted, but there are several whose host family’s new they were unable to adopt–yet they felt called to host them over the holidays, show them the love of Christ and advocate for them to find their forever family here. These precious children have all been in the system for many years, and their first real experience with a family has occurred through NHFC host program over the last 5 weeks. We LOVED our hosting experience with NHFC, and it was because of this program that our precious T found a forever home.

Yesterday I shared about precious Edgars. Many reposted the blog entry and precious Edgars host mom has had many contact her with interest–mostly because of your hearts and willingness to help advocate for Edgars. Thank you. From the bottom of my heart–THANK YOU.

Next week, these children will all return to Latvia in hopes of a family inquiring about them–and one day being chosen…to be forever a son and daughter…to have a mom and dad and to experience the precious gift of family. Each of these children are from Latvia. There are no requirements other than each parent must be 18 years older than the child. (If married–both the mom and dad have to be 18 years older. Single men and single women are also eligible.) You do not have to have a completed home study or even be in process. NHFC is NOT an adoption agency but rather a hosting agency. If you are interested in one of these most precious children, you would need to email the host family email and they will be able to most quickly connect you to NHFC which will also give you a list of agencies they recommend.

If you are on FB or have a blog–will you please consider reposting this? You NEVER know when it will run across the perfect family for one of these precious ones! Each of these descriptions were written by their host families who have had the honor of loving them the past 4-5 weeks. We have been in their same shoes–hosting but not in the position or place to adopt our host child–so I know what writing one of these is like…it’s so hard as you desperately WISH that YOU could be the family–yet you learn to hold out your hands…give them to the Lord and pray for a miracle. I’m praying there is a miracle awaiting each and every one.

Once again–it is my great honor and privilege to introduce you to these most precious little ones…

Meet Vitaly…

Vitaly is a happy 11 year-old boy from Ukraine. He is a wonderful and energetic child who loves to help around the house, listen to music, play musical instruments, sing, and eat (especially bananas)! His favorite color is yellow, and he loves to play outside and visit new places. We have been hosting him for the last 3 weeks, and he has adapted very quickly to his life in America, bonding well with adults and children. Vitaly speaks both Russian and Ukrainian, and is quickly learning some English words as well. His favorite school subject is math. He has a medical condition, but strictly follows his medicine schedule and seems very healthy and active. We would love to help Vitaly find his forever family! For more information on Vitaly contact his host mom Erica at: ericaraemanz@gmail.com

Just in case you missed him yesterday–Meet Edgars…

– LAST CHANCE – Age 15 (turns 16 in August), Latvia, hosted in NY
Edgars came to us with a smile on his face. From the moment we met him at the gate, he radiated an openness and an incredible warmth – he was obviously a little nervous, but from the beginning he trusted us with his whole heart. One of the first things he ever said was, “Thank you for choosing me.” Edgars immediately began to display a strong desire for physical connectedness with our whole family – he hugged our 4-year-old daughter for airport photos, he stood next to me with his head on my shoulder reading his translated welcome letter. Edgars has bonded well with all members of our family, though it has been clear throughout that he desires a mother above all else in life. During the first two weeks, Edgars resisted developing a deep relationship with my husband but he is now seeing the value in having a healthy relationship with a father. Edgars is incredibly gentle and patient with small children, and he would do beautifully with siblings of any age or gender, or as an only child. He takes the role of big brother very seriously and enjoys helping out – he is always happy to hold a hand in the grocery store, buckle car seats, or comfort his “small” sister or brother when they get a bump. He has a deep need to connect with others and is appropriately affectionate. Edgars is respectful of property, asks before taking things, has excellent manners (please/thank you with a smile) and he is good with animals. He follows family rules and we have never had an instance where discipline was necessary. Honesty is of upmost importance to Edgars – it means a lot to him that others trust him. He reacts in an age appropriate way to negative situations, though he will do most anything to avoid conflict. Edgars has been in the system since age 2 and has no relatives or siblings. Truly there is no reason that he should be the loving, well-adjusted boy that he is, except by the grace of God. I pray constantly that my sweet boy is given the opportunity to become a permanent member of a loving, supportive, gentle Christian family – because he deserves nothing less. Edgars will bring an abundance of joy to the forever family that awaits him. Writing this absolutely breaks my heart because this child has been one of the greatest gifts of my life. I want everyone reading this to know that Edgars has done nothing at all to deter us from adopting him – we are ineligible (we have a minimum age issue). For more information on Edgars please check out http://maljianfamily.blogspot.com/2013/01/edgars-needs-family.html for his full bio or contact his host mom, Morgan at: mdavisca@hotmail.com.

Meet Vlad…

Vlad is from Latvia and will turn 13 shortly. He is a wonderful kid! We have not had any problems while he’s been here. He was very shy when we picked him up at the airport, for about a day, and after that he’s been very comfortable with us. He will try any food, although he may not like it, he’s at least willing to give it a try. He had fun roller skating, ice skating and sledding and went to an indoor waterpark. He also helped bake cookies. He seems to be very compliant and once he knew what the rules of the house were and what was expected of him, he was happy to follow. He is sweet and loving. He always wanted to know where Dad was, and loved spending time with him doing whatever. He really seemed to thrive under that attention from my husband. He got along well with all the children ages 2-25, though he didn’t pay much attention to our 2 and 4 year old. I can’t stress enough what a great boy he is. He would do well in any family. He had fun throwing the football and playing Wii with our 25 year old son. He rode bikes and scooters and drew pictures with our daughters who are 11 and 10. He loved playing the Wii, K’nex and building with blocks with our son who is 7. He’s a great kid who is up for anything but he’s bullied a lot in the orphanage and we’re praying like crazy we can find his family! One thing he does not like is having his picture taken. No matter what he’s doing, as soon as the camera comes out he gets his serious face on. For more information on Vlad contact his host mom Kris: kris.haase@gmail.com

Meet Maija…

I would like to share our journey with Maija this Christmas season. From the very first evening, she has been polite, helpful, open, and mature. She has been very respectful from the very beginning to now. My 5 and 6 year old children are a challenge. Maija was great with them! She has been very patient and attentive with them. They love watching movies together! Maija is well spoken in three languages. She speaks Latvian, Russian, and English. We are amazed at how well she communicates in English verbally and in written language. We think she has a God given talent in languages. She has been able to bond with all members of the family. Maija easily bonds with young as well as older. She is able to speak to adults, making eye contact and expression. She thrives when with peers her age or older. Maija is very mature for her age. She is very knowledgeable about American movies, TV, and music. She says she prefers all things in English. She has shared openly about her life and her struggles and disappointments. She has shared openly her desire to be adopted (even though she feels it is too late for her). She wants a future for herself and she doesn’t believe it is in Latvia. She has been through a lot! She is a survivor. She does not see herself as a kid, but a young woman who must strike out on her own and take care of herself simply because there is no one whom she can count on. She needs to be a kid again, a 15 year old. She needs to feel safe and taken care of. She needs to find a family who is ready to love her with open arms. Maija is very self-conscious about her weight and her body. She needs a family who will love her regardless – unconditionally. She is a beautiful young lady and we know God has big plans for her life. We have tried to plant a seed and share the gospel with her. As you can see from her picture, she does have some piercings. Please don’t let this fool you. She is a very sweet young lady. She was very respectful the entire time she was with us. In fact, she had no problem taking them out when we asked her to. She removed them when coming to school with me and at church. This is something all the children in her area seem to wear. We pray every day for her heart to be open to the love of Christ and to the hope of a forever family. Could this family be you? Please feel free to contact the Zingelmann family if you have any questions: audrasusan@hotmail.com . We are more than happy to answer any and all questions!

Meet Sasha…

Sasha is a loving, sweet/affectionate and active 6 year old little boy from Latvia. He has mild Cerebral Palsy causing bit of mental delay and ADHD. Physically he is in perfect condition-not slowed down in a physical sense and very athletic (We were told he had surgery when he was younger). Mentally- he is at a preschool or starting Kindergarten level (which is only a year or two behind in education.) And he has the capacity to learn and catch up fast. His CP mainly has caused him to have mild hyperactivity (and mild ADHD) but not to the sense where he is out of control by any means. He is perfect at church, in a restaurant etc. He has about a 20 min max of doing anything and gets “bored” easily if not assigned a task or toy to play with or an activity to complete. With proper medication and schooling he could be “caught up” and a very good student. He strives for obedience and praise but has not been exposed to much life outside of the orphanage so he learned a lot and improved daily in his host home. He is intelligent and loves puzzles, art, and athletics and is picking up English fast. He bonds well with all ages and genders of children but would not be ideal in a family with more than one younger child because of the initial attention he would require. He gets overstimulated in large groups of children and has no tolerance for any food or drinks with sugar. He is very flexible to any setting, not picky and does not pout or throw tantrums. He is a very happy and fun boy who loves to talk about and learn about Jesus. If you’d like to learn more about Sasha please email his host mom Jessica: jessicagoodwyn99@hotmail.com

Meet Armands…

Armands bonds easily with all family members & others, and does well with same age children. He interacts well with parents, has generally even moods, and exhibits appropriate reactions to negative situations/answers. He is happy most of the time, respectful of other’s property, and asks for things before taking. He is honest and follows family’s general rules. Armands is a sweet boy with a calm disposition. He eats just about everything but loves waffles, pizza, and Pepsi. He and our 11 year old son have been inseparable. He likes to play cards and Wii. He learned to ride a bike this winter which took persistence from him as his legs are weak. He is very polite and says, “thank you” after every meal. He gives great hugs and kisses host mom on the cheek. We have only seen him unhappy once, and that was at the eye doctor’s office and we didn’t have any way to communicate. He quickly snapped out of it when we left the office. He did not want to ride the carousel, but He loved laser tag with the family. He would do well in a family with any age children. For more information on Armands please contact his host mom Debbie: tech9798@yahoo.com.

Meet Sianda…

Sianda recently turned 12 and is from Latvia. She bonds easily with all family members & others, and does well with children of all ages. She is patient and caring with pets, interacts well with parents, and has generally even moods. Though she pouts at times, she exhibits appropriate reactions to negative situations/ answers, and is happy most of the time. She is respectful of her own & other’s property, and asks for things before taking. She tries to learn/use English, follows family’s general rules, is helpful, and willing to try new things. Sianda is full of life! She is beautiful inside and out. She is bright, personable, artistically talented and just an all-around great kid. She is very adaptable. She sometimes get moody (as do most pre-teen girls, but she is very expressive and kind. She loves animals and gets along really well with children of both genders and within a couple of years older and younger. She is willing to try new things and is very outgoing. Her English is very good and she definitely has her own opinions! Great girl all around! She would probably do best in a family with similar age children. For more information on Sianda please contact her host mom, Jennifer at: jennifermanta@yahoo.com.

Meet Laura and Nikita…

Laura and Nikita are adorable 7 year old Latvian twins.
Laura says that she was born first and it is believable. She is a leader and keeps her brother straight. She is shy at first, but once you get to know her, she will keep you laughing. Laura loves to tell funny stories (even if you don’t understand a word she is saying). Taking care of the family dogs was Laura’s assigned chore during hosting and she has completed it with joy and kindness. She “rescued” a 15 pound cat many times from an 8 pound dog and always kept an eye out to make sure he was safe. Riding bikes is one of Laura’s favorite things to do. She also loves to cuddle and often strokes her host mother’s hair at bedtime. Laura bonds easily and would be great in a family with children her same age, older, or much younger. Her smile is contagious!!
Nikita is kind, loving, athletic and smart. He says that he loves school and is a very good reader. He often looks to Laura for approval and takes care of her when she is hurt or upset. When he received a $20 gift card, Nikita shopped first for his 2 friends and then for himself. He always offers to share his food or toys. Nikita wants to be a big boy, but when it gets down to it, he loves to cuddle and gives many hugs and kisses. He often tells his host mother, “Love you!!” Nikita is a rough and tumble kind of boy and would make a great American football player. He loves music (the louder the better) and is a great break dancer. Nikita would do great in a family with children his same age, older or much younger. He is a great kid!! Laura and Nikita have 2 older brothers that are 10 and 11 years old and it’s likely that all four will have to be adopted together. For more information please contact their host mom Heather at: phillips4jesus@gmail.com.

Meet Viktors…

Viktors is an easy-going and laid back 11 year old from Latvia . His English gets better each week. He is opening up more every day. He bonds easily with all family members, does well with younger children & same age children. He is patient and caring with pets, interacts well with parents. Viktors is an amazing young man. Our family was so blessed to have him for 4 weeks. He was easy, laid back, and up for anything. He is very social and loves to be around people. He loved us spending time with family friends and got along well with every single person he came in contact with. He is active and loves all things boy. He loves to ride bikes, play sports, and do anything outside. He is eager to try anything. He has no problem at all bonding. He is easily affectionate and bonded well will everyone in our family, including our children. I particularly recommend him to be hosted by a family looking to adopt. Viktors would really come alive with a loving family and he is available for adoption. He would do well in a family with any age children – younger, same age, older, etc. could go on and on about this child. I loved him before he physically entered our lives. I loved him the moment I laid eyes on him. He will always hold a place in my heart. The time we had with him truly blessed our family. This boy just doesn’t seem like your typical orphan child. He had some of the orphan behaviors at the beginning, but so mild compared to some children. The amazing thing about this boy is that 3 weeks of time and love pretty much erased those behavior patterns. I know they will return when he returns to Latvia. But the point is that in a loving family environment, he would develop into quite a young man. And it wouldn’t take long. Something that really struck me about Viktors is how easily he could bond and how affectionate he could be. He never pulled back when we would touch him or hug him. He is so open to love. Our hearts desire is to see Viktors placed in a family that will love and cherish him. We want to see him provided with opportunities to thrive. I know God has a plan for him and we are trusting in God’s perfect timing. For more information about Viktors please contact his host mom Renee at: reneerobinson12@gmail.com or check out their family blog: http://barefootwalks.com/.

Meet Gundvalds…

Gunvalds is a wonderful boy who has been lots of fun to have in our home. His English ability is very good, and he was easy to communicate with. He has an older brother named Muntis who was originally being hosted by us as well, however Muntis requires constant one-on-one attention and the brothers are not close with one another, so Muntis was transferred to another host family. It is not clear if Gundvalds can be adopted without also adopting his brother Muntis. Gunvalds is much more comfortable with women. He was very guarded around Tim, and often misread things Tim said (we quickly realized that gentle teasing was not understood, though I could get away with this). He took correction well; though there were often outbursts, these were more cultural (think arguing with an Italian!), than blatant disobedience. He appears to be quite innocent concerning life in general; he loved watching children’s movies at our house. The original Disney animated Robin Hood was one of his favorites. Having a large family, we stick pretty close to home; by no means was Gunvalds entertained by us, but he loved his time here and was never bored. He loved board games, playing outside, and looking at animal books in the evening. He needs a dad who is patient, kind, and willing to invest a lot of time and love. Tim took off the first two weeks Gunvalds was here. Granted, we were dealing with Muntis, but Gunvalds never warmed up to him. With the hours Tim works, and the family size and ages that we currently have, we feel Gunvalds would do best in a smaller family where more time could be focused on him exclusively. We will be praying that someone is able to host him again; he truly is a great boy who deserves a family of his own. For more information on Gundvalds please contact his host mom, Holly at: Schoepplers@hughes.net.

Meet Rolands…

Rolands is a sweet 15 year old boy that was presented as a talented artist – and he is! He is also so much more. This young man is polite, easy-going, and able to amuse himself. He was willing to help with household chores. He was eager to try new things, including activities like riding a horse. We fed him Thai, Indian, Creole, and multiple types of American food. If he didn’t like a specific food, he was polite and ate some anyway. He did admit hamburgers and pizza were his favorites, but he also loved fresh food such as salads and fruits. He is very bright and gets 8s in school in Latvia, but modestly points out it isn’t a top rated school. He got along well with all vistors, though he is shy at first. He has a super sweet smile and a good sense of humor. Rolands speaks very understandable English. He is able to read even more, and participated in reading a devotional we were going through daily with our church, with a little help on some words. He is very willing to learn. He greatly enjoyed visiting the Dallas Art Museum, riding a rollercoaster, and family activities at home. He jumped in when I had a flat tire and changed it, then told me it was his first time changing a tire. Such a cute smile on that one! He is not hyperactive or inappropriate, and would do well in a family with any age children, or as an only child. He was able to take correction (rarely needed) without resentment. Rolands is in a good foster home in Latvia, and it is obvious that he knows how to love others. I have other adopted teens and I wish I could switch out for this guy! For more information please contact Lynn at: lffitzgerald@yahoo.com.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read…to share…and to pray for each of these!

I truly believe the Lord has a beautiful story for each of them.

Please feel free to share this on your Facebook, your blog, in your church, with friends…you just never know where a family designed for each sweet one awaits!

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marie - January 11, 2013 - 8:47 pm

I did notice that you put (even bolded) – There are no requirements other than each parent must be 18 years older than the child….but that is just it…you are missing one…you said “each” and in other parts of this and another post about adopting..you said “both”…meaning you have to be married. You can’t be a single parent. So that would mean there is more than just the “age” requirement.

Terina - January 12, 2013 - 12:21 am

I think it is awesome that many of these kids are finding their forever families, but I really hope that the only reason the other children aren’t being adopted is because the family hosting them is homeless, and jobless. Otherwise, I can’t understand how these children, who need parents, could possibly be sent back. Jesus never sends us back ever. I really hope that every single one of these children end up with a family!~

admin - January 12, 2013 - 9:23 am

Marie–singles can also adopt from Latvia!! So you are also eligible!!!

Paula - January 12, 2013 - 1:46 pm

I have sat on the phone for an hour today with one of these precious host moms who put her host son back on a plane for Latvia today. She is heart broken. She is grieving and hurting. However, she heard the call to LOVE on this child – she begged the Lord to make it clear if they were to adopt him – and neither she nor her husband feel they are being led to adoption. Should that have kept them from hosting? Absolutely not! They gave the child a trip to remember, precious memories, planted the seeds of Jesus in his heart, invested in his life, told him that he was LOVED by God, showed him the love of a family. Now today, they sit in Virginia with a little boy that changed them forever heading back to Eastern Europe. She will advocate for him to find her forever family. She will fight for him. She will stand in his corner. She will pray for him and cheer him on. They only signed up to be a host family. The Lord is writing this story – not us – if it had been us, there wouldn’t be a need for hosting or orphanages – because the kids would be with their first families. Jesus in on the pages; the story is being written. He has a plan – and it’s bigger than what we might expect. All of these children are precious, but that sweet Viktors has a place in my heart. He has captivated me. His host mom and I have hearts that are intertwined and committed to finding this boy his forever family – may Jesus’ Name be written on the pages of the stories of every one of these kids.

Melissa Scott - January 12, 2013 - 2:00 pm

May God allow my words to be perceived with the humility, love and tenderness I intend to convey. Respectfully, I mean no harm to Lynn, but I’m shocked and sad to read her statement, “I have other adopted teens and I wish I could switch out for this guy!”. Children are people. People are not objects or possessions for which we can trade in. I don’t know Lynn, so I realize it is possible she was teasing. I am an adoptive mommy of 8 blessings, including 2 teens and 2 preteens. We have fun and tease and joke around with each other alot, but not about our love for or devotion to each other. Speaking for our own children, they have been through so much doubt, rejection, insecurity and hurt in their past. There are areas of their hearts and minds that I think will always be fragile. They don’t need to ever wonder about their parents’ love or their commitment to them. Thank you for listening. ~Growing in grace, Melissa *Ps 113:9 * II Cor 9:6-8 *

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Melissa - January 12, 2013 - 3:22 pm

Just letting you know I’ve linked up with you here, http://bonesinmyheart.wordpress.com/2013/01/12/will-you-please-help/ and also shared your post on facebook and twitter! Yay! Spreading the word!

Christine - January 12, 2013 - 8:59 pm

I would definitely be interested in this. Not sure how to go about doing this. We are in process of completing our homestudy for domestic foster/adopt, because out of country adoptions were just very pricey and I do not have the budget for the travel time and expenses to go back and forth and back and forth through all of the red tap and such.

How does this work? Is it easier to adopt through hosting?

Audra - January 18, 2013 - 8:00 pm

What joy filled my heart when I saw Maija posted on here! She was my host child this Christmas and what a blessing she was to our family. We are not in a position to adopt, but have prayed daily for a forever family for her. She has been so tender and sweet to my 5 and 6 year old with amazing patience. My daughter adored having her in our home and will have a forever big sister. There is so much love in my heart for her and I am so blessed to have been a part of her life for 4 weeks. I have daily contact with her through email and skype. She wants a forever family so badly. I pray there is someone out there that feels the Lord’s calling to choose her! If you are interested in her and have questions, please let me know. She is a remarkable young lady with a bright future ahead.

Audra - January 19, 2013 - 10:45 am

Terina – I know your heart was in the right place when you made those statements, but it is not that simple. I do as the Lord calls me to do. I walk in obedience with Him. He did not call me to adopt my host child. I will NOT do as I please, but as the Lord calls me to do. I prayed every day before, during, and now as to my role in her life. The world will always have their own opinion, but I only worry about what God thinks of me. I can not make decisions based on what others tell me to do. I am hoping and praying that her forever family is out there. Maybe it’s you! That would be wonderful! I pray that you are open to God’s calling in this.