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Children of God {Third Day}

I love this band…but I have to say I just adore the families who make it up. They are authentic. They have hearts that beat to the Savior’s. And their song “Children of God” reminds me why families called to adoption jump through the hoops they do, why they wait for years for one, and while changes in programs may take their breath away–they stand firm and tell these children of God that they are WORTH fighting for.

And I just LOVE seeing ALL of their sweet families at the end. God continues to stretch them and add to their numbers. What a living testimony to His great love for us…and how sweet it is to be an adopted daughter to the Father in Heaven!

If you missed yesterday’s post…here’s a little reminder from my dishwasher…

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Shannon - March 8, 2011 - 4:30 pm

I love that song so much, but I hadn’t seen the video yet. Precious! Erica squealed to see her sweet friend Lucy on the screen at the end.

Angie Donaldson - March 8, 2011 - 4:53 pm

Thank you Andrea!!! I am FULL of cares today as we wait for what seems like forever for our Embassy appt. We LOVE Third Day!! Balm for my soul today…thanks
~Angie

Catherine Besk - March 8, 2011 - 6:45 pm

OH man, when everyone started uncovering their “adopted” shirts I really lost it. So glad I’ve been adopted and redeemed by my Heavenly Father! Thanks for the beautiful reminder Andrea!

Elizabeth Smith - March 8, 2011 - 9:29 pm

Mark Lee and his family go to our church! Love Third Day! Thanks for sharing!

Julie - March 8, 2011 - 11:22 pm

Love this post! On my knees in prayer for Ethiopian adoptions!

Cast Your Cares on the Lord

At the Created for Care retreat I opened up the weekend sharing what I believe I see the Lord doing…on behalf of orphans and widows throughout the world. I see God raising up men and women to follow Jesus into the unknown–to bring hope and healing to orphans and widows THROUGH OUT THE WORLD. Not just Africa. Not just China. But RIGHT NEXT DOOR too. It’s TRUE! It’s amazing! And I love being a part of what God is doing…and meeting so many of you who share this same calling and passion in life. Together–we have locked hands and said, “It’s not okay with us for them to be forgotten” and we are putting our hearts, our words, our finances, our gifts together to be used for the glory of God on their behalf.

Can I get an AMEN?!

Alright. Now that you’ve given your amen–let me also say that when you follow the Lord in reclaiming orphans to know Jesus as Father (that IS our purpose in adoption and in all things…for our biological children, for our friends, for all orphans who are without Him)–when you begin following Jesus doing THIS…then rest assured you will be met with sorrow, with problems, with pain, with uncertainty…leading to frustration, to hurt, to feeling lonely, confused, betrayed…and fear. (Jesus said in John 16:33 “In THIS world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” NOTICE Jesus did NOT say “if” you have trouble but “you will”.) So…when the trouble comes, how are you to RESPOND??

Are you to respond with JOY? Are you to jump up and say, “I’m SO excited this is happening to me because I know all things happen to the good of the Lord?” Nope. And I’ll give you a heads up not to say this to a sister in Christ going through troubling times either. (Be quick to listen and slow to speak…for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus…just LISTEN.) SOOOO…how to RESPOND?

Cast your cares on the Lord.

I love how fisherman terms align so often with scripture. I grew up in a small town on the bay (Fairhope, AL) and my daddy would take me weekly to the pier. We’d stand on the end of the pier what felt like HOURS and watch the fisherman cast their nets. I love this picture of CASTING my cares…my worries…my problems…my fears to the Lord!


Now, if you have never seen this done–it is NO easy task. It actually requires EVERY move and limb of the fisherman–including his mouth. In one hand he wraps half of the net tightly around his hand. He holds it CLOSE. (Ever catch yourself HOLDING your problems so close…with every ounce in you–it seems to have your hands tied and heart distracted?!) The fisherman then smooths down the rest of the net with the other hand leaving the net at two different lengths and where the second length begins he holds a piece of that section in his mouth. (He is left SPEECHLESS…ever feel like that?) He then twists his body around and with all his strength–HE lets go! You hear nothing but a SLASH into the water from the weights on the net…and the catch is now up to the Creator.

SPLASH! What BEAUTIFUL sound!

“Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you.” Psalm 55:22

What are the cares your heart is holding SO TIGHTLY to? What are the problems that seem to be overtaking every bit of your soul?

Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you.

Recently, we heard the news that Ethiopia may be cutting adoptions by 90%…this may or may not happen…

SO many families have felt led to bring home sons and daughters from this country. Cast your cares on the Lord and He will sustain you.

In our adoption journey–we truly KNEW the Lord was calling us to Ethiopia–my heart breaks for families who KNOW their child is there…and for the many little ones waiting. As we stepped up to follow the Lord in this way, it wasn’t long before we were met with problems. Everything from an unplanned for leaking shower to discouragment and judgement from here and there…”What about kids in America that need to be adopted? What about your country? What about? What about?” ANY time you follow the Lord–you WILL be met with nay-sayers. And some times unexpected leeky sinks. There will be trials. There will be troubles. And almost every time.

(Just a side note for the nay-sayers I casted to the Lord…while our hearts are open to domestic adoption and one day we probably WILL…and we know this because we have said YES more than once–but it just wasn’t God’s timing, more than ANYTHING we have to follow where the Lord leads!!! Don’t even THINK for a SECOND that this momma isn’t trying to convince her hubby that we should think about foster-to-adopt…we consider and pray about EVERY thing!!!)

More than anything in our callings–we need to encourage one another! We are faced with enough nay-sayers and hardship…hoop-jumpin’ craziness…and leeky sinks–oh that we could be encouragers in EVERY calling. And for those of you non-adoption folks reading this–NOT everyone is called to adopt! Not everyone is called to be a missionary! Not everyone is called to care for special needs little ones…etc, etc, etc. But EVERY one is called to do something for HIS great glory!!! To be a beacon of light in the darkness…and to call orphans to become daughters and sons to a Heavenly Father in heaven!!! They may be at the grocery store, moms in your preschool or even some of your dearest, sweetest friends of olde. Where He calls you–where ever that is–follow Him…be obedient…trust Him in the troubles…and when the troubles DO come…Cast your cares on the Lord.

My precious friend Lindsey moved to Tanzania with her family to be missionaries. Lindsey is a fellow photographer friend…sister-in-Christ…adoption momma…just to name a few:). Lindsay and her hubby sold their cars, their house, EVERYTHING they owned last year to move to Tanzania. After just a few months on the field, one of their PRECIOUS daughters became sick. They thought for sure it was just mono as she was so tired–but they returned to the States for more tests. Leukemia. They are here now without a home or cars and going through chemo with their little one. Lindsey is DAILY casting her cares on the Lord…and oh my–how she does it so beautifully.

As we step up to the front lines–there will be trouble. I want to respond to troubles by casting my cares to the Lord!

If your heart is heavy right now…whatever it may be–join me in praying through Psalm 55…make this your CRY as you CAST…

Psalm 55

Listen to my prayer, O God, do not ignore my plea; hear me and answer me.
My thoughts trouble me and I am distraught because of what my enemy is saying,
because of the threats of the wicked; for they bring down suffering on me and assail me in their anger.

My heart is in anguish within me; the terrors of death have fallen on me.
Fear and trembling have beset me; horror has overwhelmed me.
I said, “Oh, that I had the wings of a dove! I would fly away and be at rest.
I would flee far away and stay in the desert; I would hurry to my place of shelter, far from the tempest and storm.”

Lord, confuse the wicked, confound their words, for I see violence and strife in the city.
Day and night they prowl about on its walls; malice and abuse are within it.
Destructive forces are at work in the city; threats and lies never leave its streets.
If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide.
But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship at the house of God,
as we walked about among the worshipers.

Let death take my enemies by surprise; let them go down alive to the realm of the dead, for evil finds lodging among them.
As for me, I call to God, and the LORD saves me.
Evening, morning and noon I cry out in distress, and he hears my voice.
He rescues me unharmed from the battle waged against me, even though many oppose me.
God, who is enthroned from of old, who does not change—he will hear them and humble them, because they have no fear of God.

My companion attacks his friends; he violates his covenant.
His talk is smooth as butter, yet war is in his heart; his words are more soothing than oil, yet they are drawn swords.

Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you;
he will never let the righteous be shaken.
But you, God, will bring down the wicked into the pit of decay; the bloodthirsty and deceitful will not live out half their days.

But as for me, I trust in you.

One last word of encouragement–as you seek to do the will of God, the Lord will bring MANY to walk with you. There will be things said and done that the enemy will try to use to DIVIDE those you are to walk WITH. Don’t let that stink, stink divide! I think as believers we need to be cautious to not let our convictions become judgements on others–but INSTEAD to encourage our sisters and brothers in Christ to run the race well that Christ has set aside for them to run! Remember–man looks at outer appearances but God looks at the heart! Our family is ALWAYS open to ANY one of His children that needs a mom and dad to love them…whether they are white, black, healthy, special needs, from Atlanta or Africa, or if their 3 months or 25 years old. God looks at the HEART! AND WE SHOULD TOO!!!

So…what is on YOUR heart tonight? Cast your cares on the Lord…AND HE WILL SUSTAIN YOU!”

P.S. Have I told you how THANKFUL I am to run this race with you?! To God be the glory that we do not have to this alone! Is it a wonder–that Jesus ALSO said DROP YOUR NETS and follow me?! You can NOT follow God DAILY with your whole heart if you do not cast your cares DAILY upon the Lord! And remember–you are NOT alone! Let us lift one another up and press one another on to love and good deeds in Christ’s name!

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marci - March 7, 2011 - 9:55 pm

Amazingly God inspired words,Andrea. Just today in my bible study we are i John 16 and we all talked about verse 33 ~ and here you are writing exactly what my past week has been meditating about…God winks at us …to me He through you has let me know He is with me as I cast my troubles and heart to Him. Thank you for inspiring all of us to be obedient and open to God’s blessings He has planned for us. Hope your little ones are as excited about the hope of Spring as my family.

Meg decoudres - March 7, 2011 - 11:13 pm

Thank you for this post…for many reasons!!! Trying to cast my cares upon the Lord and trust in his sovereign plan…….
Meg

Rachelle - March 8, 2011 - 12:23 am

Andrea, Lovely as always. I am feeling so at peace after I tried to struggle with this alone and finally cast my nets to the Lord and now… I’ve never felt more at peace. strange..nope you and I know..Only God:)

Love, Racelle

Debb - March 8, 2011 - 12:54 am

Your words are like a soothing oil to my heart, my friend~ as I read your post before laying my head upon my pillow to pray, pray and PRAY some more for not only our future little one(s), but all of the children awaiting families in ET. I LOVE how God brings others alongside us to help endure the rocky road that the enemy creates, in effort to thwart God’s plan of adoption. YOU are one of those He has provided me along this blessed journey to our child or children, Andrea! THANK YOU for your heart! THANK YOU for sharing it’s beauty and love with us! May God bless you as you continue to walk in obedience to Him……….

Elle J - March 8, 2011 - 10:05 am

Beautiful and full of wisdom, Andrea.

Farrah - March 8, 2011 - 11:21 am

I enjoy the clarity I get when I read the words God has laid on your heart each day. I just wish I could find clarity in knowing when God is closing a door to open another one and HOW do you know that’s what he is doing and not testing your trust in Him?

Christy - March 8, 2011 - 3:14 pm

So well put as always, Andrea. My prayer is that even if we never are able to adopt, I will always be ready to be an encourager for anyone who is. You and others have shown me even more what a sweet blessing is found in following Jesus. Stay strong, my friend! 🙂

Leah - March 8, 2011 - 4:11 pm

I think that whether you follow the lord or not, you will be met with nay-sayers. That is unfortunately life. But you always must be confident in what is best for you, and it sounds like you definitely were.

Kim - March 8, 2011 - 6:29 pm

Beautiful post Andrea- Kim

Shay Gerritsen - March 9, 2011 - 5:33 pm

Thank you. Just thank you. For being honest, but hope-filled in everything you say here on your blog. Thank you for telling your son’s story, for your obedience to God’s call, for your heart for widows, for orphans, for moms, for children in general…just thank you. I needed to hear this today. And probably will again tomorrow. And maybe the day after that… So thank you.
Shay

Wiphan Waddle (Part 2) {fun videos…so turn the music off up top!}

First–there are very few things that take my breath away–but I just had to hold it for a bit on Saturday at the Wiphan Warthog Waddle. The day started with RAIN–and I was sure few would come out. BUT to my surprise MANY did. I was taken back again when one a regular racer and one of the coordinators said to me, “You know this rarely happens–UNLESS there is a cause that the crowd believes in.”

WOW!

I am SO thankful to the many who signed up to race and the hundreds that put on their rain gear AND STILL came out to show their love and support of the 450 orphans of Wiphan Care Ministry!!! Now…if THIS isn’t a way to spend your rainy Saturday–telling your kids WHY you are running the rain…I don’t know what is! Less than 4 years ago Wiphan’s children were SITTING in the rain to LEARN! We were taken back that they would COME to school IN THE RAIN to LEARN! SOOO…although we were bummed to see the rain, maybe it was fitting. And maybe our running in the rain will mean even more to them when they see all the pictures!

THIS IS HOW MUCH YOU ARE LOVED SWEET CHILDREN AND WIDOWS OF WIPHAN… (please click on center to start the slideshow)


Families weren’t the only ones who joined us folks! I was so surprised to see COLLEGE students who joined us…and three girls who found out about the race on my blog drove here from a college about 3 hours away to support Wiphan!!! I LOVE their hearts and that they came out to support these kids! They were such fun…and made me feel like I was in my 20s again;)


Amanda (far left) is taking off this summer with Visiting Orphans to Uganda and I may have Elizabeth (far right) considering joining us on a Wiphan trip this summer. Also…Amanda JUST got engaged and I love that she spent this weekend supporting Wiphan and THEN hunting for wedding dresses:). Thanks for coming out sweet friends!

NOW…it’s time to share the TOP FIVE Wiphan Waddle Winners!!! Here is the top 5 (actually I think it may be top 6 coming in)…so if this is one of you CONGRATULATIONS!!! (I signed up to run…but it didn’t quite happen! I think it was best for both me and the nurse on duty!)

And now–to see the SWEET SWEEPER!!! Frank ran the ENTIRE race…did I already say that?? He did NOT want a stroller…but instead he’d say “Frank RACE!” SOO…if you sponsored Frank–you should be PROUD! Before I post the video I just want to thank his SWEET SPONSORS!!! Seriously–my kids aren’t quite old enough to have done many things where they actually get sponsors–so these people mean the world to me that they would sponsor Frank! THANK YOU! Thank you Frank and Rebecca Stegall, Gina McCarn, Christy Davis, Brittany Burtch, Dan and Shelly Owens, Amy Stavnes, Rachelle Boone, Deborah Lee, Virginia Liverman, and the Morgan Family!! (If I missed someone…PLEASE let me know! This was just the list they sent me…so I want to be SURE I didn’t leave anyone out!)

We drew a NAME of one of his SPONSORS to win a Wiphan T-SHIRT! The lucky winner is Frank and Rebecca Stegall! Congratulations and thank you to ALL of Frank’s sponsors for sponsoring Frankie baby to run!

Frank, indeed, ran QUITE the race!!! Here’s the video to prove it! I just LOVE how he purposely runs in the puddles…and I absolutely LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the cheers he gets as he comes in to complete race day!

Isaac wanted to give a little shout out too from his part in race day! He chose not to run…or waddle for that matter! He just parked it in the foyer and greeted all the runners as they came in for some carbs and drinks! How cute is our little man…and I have to say THANK YOU to anyone praying for us during a rough time–we have FELT your prayers and we feel like we have turned a corner! GOD IS SO GOOD!!!


(Above…Isaac trying to keep a conversation with Aunt April (Carlock) and Addie Bowen. He was giving them a play-by-play of Frank’s run!)

Now…ONE last fun drawing before calling it quits for the night! Last week I shared about the Empowered to Connect Conference here and anyone who shared about this AMAZING conference got entered to win an amazing adoption care package! The winner IS…Kristen of www.calledtotrust.blogspot.com!!! Kristen, please email me your mailing address so I can send these books your way!!!

We have probably one of THE most busiest weeks in our family this week! SO…I may be in and out…but please keep us in your prayers as we juggle quit a bit this week! Thank you so much for all of the encouragement you all bring us! It is a JOY to do life with so many of you!!!

LAST but not least…A MUST SEE ‘GOTCHA DAY VIDEO’!!! This is my dear friend Shelly Owens’ family. AND I just have a heart for toddler/child adoption…AMAZING to see the LOVE of this family…(Now…if you have made it this far in my post without crying–NOW is the time to go get some tissues…BEFORE hitting play for THIS!…it will BLESS your SOUL!)

Now if THAT doesn’t get you off to a great week’s start I don’t know what will!!! We are SO BLESSED to have these two little ones now in our adoption fellowship group! And so THANKFUL they are finally HOME!

XOXO!

Andrea

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Audrey @ The Brown Brigade - March 7, 2011 - 12:44 am

What a precious video of Frank racing to the finish.

Lara - March 7, 2011 - 12:59 am

I’m so thankful to have connected with Shelly at Created for Care (ha – even though I didn’t actually meet her until a week later!) She has been so instrumental in our adoption and such a blessing to me as we have gone through this transition. Love that gal!

Amy @ Filled With Praise - March 7, 2011 - 7:17 am

Yay Frank! So proud of you!!! Thank you for running for me.

Praying for your family’s week.
Love,
Amy

Tamara Robinson - March 7, 2011 - 9:36 am

Andrea, God has certainly blessed you for raising your hands up to him to be used! Thank you for sharing the living gospel. It always seems I study the word and then you post a living example just after! I love it!

Kim - March 7, 2011 - 10:28 am

Thank you for the kleenex warning! Incredible video of incredible love in action!

Elizabeth - March 7, 2011 - 10:34 am

It was SO great to meet you and talk with you on Saturday! I loved seeing so many people coming together on a yucky, rainy day just for the orphans and widows thousands of miles away–how cool is that??
I can’t wait to see how the Lord continues to use Wiphan to make Himself known around this world and especially to those precious ones in Zambia.

Ashley - March 7, 2011 - 11:07 am

All I could think about as I watched Frank’s video was how awesome that Father / son relationship is…and how it completely parallels our relationship with our Heavenly Father. He’s always right there, encouraging us, pushing us on, and letting us know He’s right behind us. Frank is blessed with both fathers.

ps – my 3 year old daughter is sitting on my lap chanting “Go Frank, Go Frank, Go Frank!” :0)

Brittany - March 7, 2011 - 11:35 am

What determination your little one has…Go Frank! Thanks for letting me be a part of race day, even from South Florida!

Amanda - March 8, 2011 - 5:15 pm

It was SO great to chat with you on Saturday! It made my heart so happy to see so many people come together for the orphan and the widow. I know God has some awesome plans in the works!

Elle J - March 8, 2011 - 7:09 pm

Thanks for running for me Frank!!! I was so happy to see that you hit every puddle – and you never gave up! Thank you for making a difference for my sponsored child, Margret, on behalf of me on the West Coast who could not attend. Way to go, Buddy!!!

To the FINISH! (The Warthog Waddle – Part 1)

Well…if there’s one boy I’m proud of today–it’s the little trouper who refused a ride in a stroller and RAN the ENTIRE race! He was the sweeper for race day…but the cheers from the crowd as he came made this momma so proud!


SERIOUSLY?! What 2 year old has this kind of determination?! He woke up this morning saying, “Frank race!” And that he did!!! So proud of you Frank!

A special thanks to Frank’s sponsors…he wants to thank each of you personally–and we have a little drawing later for a special something for one of his sponsors;). AND we drew for the fun book give-away that I meant to post Wednesday too…so will do that tomorrow too!

Frank ran RIGHT to the big finish and he was so excited to get his medal…

We weren’t sure how many of the 500 racers who signed up to run would actually show…and granted we probably lose some walk up registrants…BUT I did have a lump in my throat seeing ALL the people who CARE ABOUT ORPHANS AND WIDOWS IN ZAMBIA and who dispite the weather came out and RAN!!! Thanks all of you who came out to race–and thank you also to those of you who registered but opted to stay home (your donation to run will help Wiphan greatly!) Here’s just a sneak peak of this morning’s turn out!

Of course I was SO PROUD of all the kiddo runners out there. They were all EXCITED to run…and they had so much fun!!!
Here’s Laney-bug with some of her cousins Emma and Isabelle…

And Parker with his crew before take off…That’s Luke in the brown next to him…he is my bestfriend Kelly’s little boy and they’ve been buds since they were babies!!!

Parker ran a hard race and was one of the first in his age group to come in…so proud of you P!

More fun details tomorrow!!! And video too! Here’s to a successful Warthog Waddle!!! Christy, Amy and Addie…and all the volunteers–you did an amazing job putting this together for Wiphan!

Tomorrow we have Mission Marketplace at our church…so we’re excited to share Wiphan tomorrow and what the Lord is doing among the orphans and widows in Zambia! Hope you all are staying dry and having a great weekend!

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ellen silva - March 5, 2011 - 6:48 pm

So beautiful! I know you must have been so proud of your children and their hearts! I wish I lived a little closer – oh to have been a part of such a wonderful day!

Elle J - March 6, 2011 - 2:14 am

I get chills looking at the pictures of Frank running for me and everyone else that could not attend but would have enjoyed to. I especially loved seeing the room filled with so many people loving Wiphan – makes me smile thinking how great for my sweet girl and all of her friends who are being loved and cared for by so many!! Great work, Andrea and Team! xoxo

Melanie - March 6, 2011 - 3:55 pm

I absolutely LOVE reading your blog! I have been friends with the Bowen’s for many years and love the work of WIPHAN. I can’t even remember how I linked to your blog, but it was a joy to read your about your “journey to Isaac!” I’m so proud of Frankie baby for running the entire race! Thanks again for your blog. God uses your words to encourage and challenge me. And….I LOVE YOUR PHOTOGRAPHY!! I realized after finding your blog that you were friends with Addie. I love the pics you have done of her family! Blessings!!

allie - March 6, 2011 - 9:55 pm

i can’t thank you enough for taking the time to plop down on the floor with us and chat. It was wonderful to meet you and your two littles. Thanks for sharing, too…

Andrea - March 6, 2011 - 10:24 pm

Glad it turn out great for Wiphan even with the rain. Your kids are always so stinkin’ cute!

Unfailing Love (…a reminder through the story of Hosea)

These past few weeks have been tough at our house–and one day I will share more…but right now–I’ll just say that the roller coaster ride of adoption doesn’t end when you bring your baby home. It just begins. But in a beautiful way…because that is when healing begins too. Healing though–is hard…especially for little ones who are some times afraid to be deeply loved. Often times, our sweet one has a hard time receiving our love–but there is always hope around the corner…and it brings me joy to see how he adores the love of his siblings. And God made my young Frank with such a dear heart–he has had to make probably the most change of anyone in our family…his bed times have been quicker as someone is calming his new brother, his high chair is now his brother’s chair, he goes to preschool so we can go to therapy…and his love is so, so sweet—and it’s just as sweet to see the littlest one accepting that love.

I have often wondered if God’s spirit could already just be in Frankie-boy’s heart…I mean–I guess it’s possible as he sits and hears about Jesus…His love…oh–your heart would MELT to hear him as we rock at night sing “Je-us ov me—Bible—Bible—Bible…Je-us ov me…Bible—so.” Frankie baby has taught me so much about unconditional, unfailing love lately. Dispite what the day before had…or what he did without with a new one that requires lots of extra love…this boy wakes up every morning with the same request, “I-ACK!” And he runs in laughing to greet him. (If that is not a picture of Christ’s love–I do not know what is!) And I have a lot ot learn from this kid. It’s also no wonder our youngest looks at him the way he does. He has felt his love for him…

And today–I was reminded of what my love should look like for my children…and what His great love looks like for me through my adoption as a daughter in Christ. This morning I woke up and the babies were sleeping–and I made a cup of coffee. OH SWEET PEACE. I sat down…and QUIET. Hosea. Now, why in the world would the word Hosea come to me? I had prayed the day before HELP ME LOVE DEEPER…HELP ME LOVE WHEN IT’S HARD…HELP ME LOVE WHEN I’M NOT LOVED BACK. One thing you can probably count on in the adoption road is at some point experiencing rejection–and most of the time it’s toward the mom. Loving a toddler can be challenging…and loving a toddler who rejects you even more challenging. God knows my heart–and He knows what I need to hear…Hosea.

Later in the day–I got an email from my friend Kristen ACROSS the country. I hadn’t had time to sit down and reflect on Hosea…but I had an idea what God wanted to teach me. I read the email from Kristen as we are going through similar things in our journeys home–and she mentioned Hosea. Of course she did. Often time when the Lord really wants to teach us something…He loves us enough to remind us where He was trying to take us earlier in our day. I smiled thinking how the Lord has my friend and I at similar places…teaching us similar things…and how this mom across the country is hearing the same message as me today…even sweeter that our boys were together at the same orphanage. Sooo…I took some time to reflect…I’m listening Lord…Hosea.

The story of Hosea is about a man of God. God’s plan for him, however, wasn’t quite what Hosea had dreamed of. God instructs Hosea to persue a harlot (prostitute) who wouldn’t love him back. She would be unfaithful…not out of spite–but out of not being able to accept pure love…love that can only be through the strength of God’s love. Biblically–Hosea could have left his unfaithful wife to continue in her life of emptyness–but he CHOOSE to love…with a love that bears all things, endures all things, hopes in all things and never fails. He went in KNOWING that he would not be loved back…and he would have to love getting NOTHING back in return. He would be rejected–lonely–and yet continue to be led to LOVE. It really didn’t make sense. God’s love usually doesn’t…oh sweet GRACE…Amazing Grace.

Instead–Hosea choose to FIGHT for her love. He wasn’t fighting against men–but he was fighting for her heart…and he refused to let her get away with not being loved. She felt ashamed. She didn’t know how to love back. She felt uncomfortable…she felt scared. She would cover up her heart with false love and laughter…and what this harlot really needed was her love fighting for her–telling her, “God did not make you to be unloved…and I am not going to give up on you. You are safe here…and I love you no matter what…”

Hosea. To love like Hosea. To be this picture for my children…biological children too. Yesterday, God was reminding me that He is gentle and humble in heart through His words in Matthew. Today–that through Him, we can love as He loves with an unfailing love. And there’s more…

I want you to love through my unfailing love. I want you to not give up. When your little one kicks and screams as you hug him, I want you to tell him how much you love him…tell him he is your sweet child and you will never leave him…tell him you will love him no matter what. Tell him you will never let go…and you will always be persuing his precious heart…that I so perfectly and wonderfully made. THIS is my love…and sweet child–you must also know…this is also how I feel about YOU. Remember this on the days you bottle frustration or hurt or just want to get away…I want you to feel ME holding YOU…reminding you that I want you to feel my unfailing love…and I will not leave you…you were not created to be an orphan in this world but to be a daughter of the KING…and I will never let go or stop persuing your heart. REST in me…take a deep breath…and just let Me love you.

Amazing Grace.

It’s a wonder that it’s that very hymn that comes to my mind each night as I put my babies down for the night. It’s the one hymn that quiets them…and so much truth in it. His love does not make sense, does it? Oh sweet grace. Amazing Grace.

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Bonnie Nieuwstraten - March 4, 2011 - 1:11 am

Andrea, my heart ached for you as I read this post. Rejection by a child that you would lay down your life for is so painful. I am so glad that you let the Lord minister to your heart today. I know that you know this, but rejection is part of the bonding journey. Isaac pushes you away because he’s a baby and he can’t tell yo what’s going on. Grace is 4 and she can and does tell me. She tells me that she wants to go back. She tells me that she misses her Ethiopian mommy. She screams at night. And yet, as she pushes me away, I know that her little broken heart is just scared to trust, to love again. And so I keep loving her, as unconditionally as I can. And 14 months later, it’s better, so much better, and yet we still have our days. I’ll be praying that you will continue to lean on your Savior, to trust His timing. It will come…..

ellen - March 4, 2011 - 7:45 am

Andrea, I am inspired by you as you hold on to God’s word and promise in these heart hurting moments. Even as we educate ourselves with books and seminars and know in our heads it is not “us”, it can beat you down. Rest in Him. (I don’t always take that advice). Thinking of you today.

abby - March 4, 2011 - 9:14 am

praying for you today, andrea. thank you for sharing this beautiful story…and your thoughts and struggles. Thank God for his hope. and his love.

Meredith - March 4, 2011 - 9:28 am

The way your little boys look at each other is so, so sweet. I am praying for you and Isaac. God has already done so much healing in your sweet boy’s life and I know He will continue the good work He is doing in Isaac’s life. I’m so glad you are able to truly experience God’s grace in your life right now. I pray things will get easier soon.

Joy - March 4, 2011 - 9:48 am

I have often thought of Hosea during our adoption journey. A beautiful, frightening, painful, and redemptive image all in one.

missy - March 4, 2011 - 10:20 am

i was actually up in the night last night praying over hosea for you after reading your post on the listserv. your love is beautiful because it is HIS love.

Judy Fleming - March 4, 2011 - 11:28 am

Andrea, you have always been such an encouragement to me. I learned to know you through “It’s a girl thing”. I have kept up with you and your little family. Your heart’s desire comes through loud and clear as I have read things about you. You’re a very “special Mommy” that God has placed in Isaac’s life AND God choose lil Isaac for you and your husband. No other one but YOU! God knows it would be difficult but He knew you would stick close to Him so He could carry you through each step. Your lil Frank must be such a sweetheart!!! Our children can teach us so much by the way they can be!!! God is good! I’ll be praying for you.

Kelly - March 4, 2011 - 2:46 pm

Love this post! Mine are really close in age as well and close in their bond. I know what you mean about them teaching you how to love unconditionally, its pretty amazing. Love what the Lord is teaching you through Hosea. I needed to hear that today! I think I will always read that book of the Bible differently now. Thanks for the perspective.

Allison - March 4, 2011 - 4:00 pm

Andrea – I’ve been greatly encouraged by your posts this week. I’ve been making more of an effort to “get my silly” on and it has blessed our days. Silliness may be my daughter’s love language! Loved this post on Hosea. If God has shown many anything this year about parenting in the hard places, it has been to just simply love. Love and keep loving. I memorized 1 Corinthians 13 (the love adjectives part) and try to remind myself to love R that way everyday. It is impossible apart from Him, but He can enable me (and you) to love that way. Also, have you had a chance to listen to “Hope for the Hard Days” by Susan Hillis from the conference MP3’s? I attended that session and it blessed me greatly! Thanks again for taking the time to share.

Alison - March 4, 2011 - 4:05 pm

Love the book of Hosea and the picture of God’s love for us, and it so perfectly relates to what ya’ll are going through right now. Praying for ya’ll, Andrea!

Dawn - March 4, 2011 - 11:19 pm

So very true. God’s Unfailing love doesn’t make sense to a world that does not get it. But to those that serve HIM we see it. We see it when we push God away and then cry out minutes later to be comforted….and God comes. We see it in our children that don’t want our love, but sooo desperately need it. We see it in everything around us…..love your thoughts Andrea…praying for you my dear friend…..

Sandi - March 5, 2011 - 12:44 pm

I want to thank you for your openness. I have been praying for the many families who are adopting in our area right now because many are unaware of attachment parenting, sensory issues, & the emotional issues that they will need to be well versed in. I just found out about API Attachment Parenting International that has local groups perfect for adopting parents throughout the US. Here in the south the typical discipline style is just not right for adopted kiddos. Some families don’t understand & are going to be shocked when RAD surfaces between ages 7-9 in their children. It is so important for families to be prepared to use attachment parenting & occupational therapy from day 1 home. God is speaking through your transparency! Stay strong! Joshua 1:7-9

Jennifer - March 5, 2011 - 3:45 pm

Love the way God speaks just what we need at just the right time! I was thinking of you today as I went to Hobby Lobby for the 1st time! I can see why you love that store. We are at an out of town BB Tourney and I had to stop quick to check it out!:)